On Attachment

Jealousy is one of the most common—and most shamed—experiences for people with anxious attachment. In this episode, we’re exploring where jealousy really comes from, how it manifests in relationships, and why it makes so much sense through the lens of self-worth and attachment wounding.I share personal reflections from my own journey with jealousy, alongside insights to help you understand your patterns with more compassion and clarity. Whether you obsessively compare yourself to others, feel threatened by your partner’s past, or find yourself spinning out when you don’t feel like a priority, this episode will help you start untangling the deeper fears driving those reactions.We’ll cover:Why jealousy is often a symptom of deeper insecurity and low self-worthThe difference between jealousy and envy — and why both show up for anxiously attached peopleCommon behaviours (like social media stalking or reassurance-seeking) and why they don’t actually soothe your fearsWhat to do when jealousy arises — and why shame only makes it worseWhy building self-worth is the most powerful antidote to chronic jealousySign up for the 28-Day Secure Self ChallengeHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Feeling stuck in your relationship? You're not alone; many face similar challenges. Discover how external stressors often impact connection more than the relationship itself. Learn three powerful shifts: focus on appreciation instead of criticism, reconnect through lighthearted activities, and prioritize your own well-being. These insights can help navigate the complexities of anxious-avoidant dynamics and foster a deeper connection.

Is it better to heal while single or in a relationship? This discussion reveals the pros and cons of both paths. Emotional safety is crucial, and personal growth can flourish in the right conditions. The conversation invites self-reflection on fears and emotional needs, reminding listeners that true support comes from within. Whether dating or enjoying solitude, understanding the unique challenges and opportunities of your journey is key. Explore the nuances of recovery and how to embrace your current season.

We all have visions for how we thought life would unfold — timelines we hoped to follow, milestones we expected to reach. So what happens when life doesn't go to plan?In today’s episode, I’m speaking to those moments of disappointment, grief, and disorientation that come when our reality looks nothing like we’d imagined. Whether it’s relationships, career, family, or a more intangible sense of where you “should” be by now — it’s easy to spiral into self-blame, shame, or despair when life veers off course.We’ll explore:Why unmet timelines can stir such deep emotion and shameThe hidden comparison traps that make us feel like we’re falling behindHow to hold space for grief without collapsing into hopelessnessThe difference between giving up and gently letting goWhat it looks like to reimagine your path from a place of self-trust and compassionIf you’re navigating a chapter that looks wildly different from what you’d hoped or planned — I hope this conversation helps you feel a little less alone.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

The podcast dives into the fine line between caring and caretaking in relationships. It reveals how caretaking, often fueled by anxiety and control, can lead to resentment and imbalance. You'll learn how these dynamics can create emotional dependency, leaving partners feeling disconnected. Practical insights are shared on recognizing caretaking behaviors and shifting towards healthier interactions. The discussion emphasizes the importance of mutual responsibility and trust for truly connected relationships.

Most relationships move through a phase where things start to feel harder than they used to. The spark has dimmed, tension is bubbling beneath the surface, and it feels like you’re constantly clashing or misfiring. This is what’s often called the power struggle stage — and while it can be incredibly challenging, it’s also a powerful opportunity for growth and deeper intimacy.In today’s episode, we’re talking about:What the power struggle stage is and why it happensHow insecure attachment patterns can intensify this dynamicThe common traps couples fall into during this phaseWhat to do (and not do) if you want to move through itWhen the power struggle becomes a sign of misalignment rather than a phaseIf you’ve found yourself wondering whether you’re growing apart or just navigating something difficult and necessary — this episode is for you.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Explore the art of being a better partner by focusing on love, compassion, and curiosity. Discover how sitting with discomfort can transform relationships, and learn the value of listening without defensiveness. Embrace the difference between blame and honest self-reflection, while understanding how to love your partner in their preferred way. This journey emphasizes personal growth and taking ownership of your role in creating a nourishing connection.

One of the hardest things to face in a relationship is feeling like you're growing and evolving, while your partner seems simply unwilling to meet you there. Maybe you’ve suggested therapy, brought up recurring issues, or shared books and podcasts you love, only to be met with silence, shutdown, or defensiveness.In this episode, we’re exploring what to do when your partner doesn’t seem interested in personal growth or improving the relationship. We’ll talk about why this happens, what it means (and doesn’t mean), and how to navigate it in a way that honours your own needs without defaulting to blame or control.Whether you're in a long-term partnership or navigating something newer, this conversation will help you feel more grounded and clear in how you show up when things feel one-sided.In this episode, I cover:Why some people resist self-work or relationship growthHow attachment styles shape our responses to discomfort and changeThe difference between inviting vs. demanding growthWhy your healing doesn’t depend on your partner's participationWhat to do when you’ve tried everything and still feel stuckHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Discover why avoidant attachment often faces unfair demonization and how this misunderstanding affects relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of compassion and self-reflection, encouraging listeners to recognize vulnerabilities instead of projecting blame. It also emphasizes moving beyond labels and prioritizing personal values for healthier connections. This thought-provoking conversation invites you to explore your own narratives and understand what true healing requires.

Healing anxious attachment is a challenging yet transformative journey. Listeners discover that healing often involves discomfort and grief. The myth of achieving complete security is debunked, revealing that progress is a continuous process. Changes made during healing may disrupt relationships, as not everyone will appreciate the transformation. Triggers won't disappear entirely, but control over reactions can improve. Surprisingly, old, unhealthy patterns might be missed, highlighting the complexity of growth.