The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

What is it like to be divorced from someone who is secure, avoidant, preoccupied, or fearful avoidant? Today's episode goes into depth about what I've seen in 15 years of practice about the easiest and most difficult, as well as details about how each partner operates in terms of conflict, remarriage and more!Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "The Random Couple Reframe: How To Gain Objectivity About Your Belief System."For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

If your partner does something nice, like doing the laundry or giving you a kiss, and you react with TREMENDOUS SHOCK, this is passive aggressive. Your partner feels reprimanded and is much less likely to do this nice thing again. Here's why you do this and what to do instead!Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "The Random Couple Reframe: How To Gain Objectivity About Your Belief System."For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

In today's episode, I go in depth into one of my favorite topics... mental load. Is the problem really mental load/emotional labor? What is underneath this convenient trope in many couples that I see? Often depression, anxiety, ADHD, codependency, and enabling. Great episode if you hate the term "mental load"... even greater if you love it but want to interrogate that love a little more in case it's covering up things that you would benefit from thinking harder about!Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "The Random Couple Reframe: How To Gain Objectivity About Your Belief System."For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Matthew Fray, a relationship coach and author known for his viral post on marital responsibilities, shares captivating insights about marriage and divorce. He discusses the emotional complexities of relationships, emphasizing communication and empathy, especially regarding ADHD and attachment styles. Fray also dives into the concept of devil's advocacy in partnerships, revealing how men often value factual correctness over emotional support. The conversation highlights the importance of balancing responsibilities and understanding gender dynamics for healthier connections.

After reading the book Us, After by Rachel Zimmerman (https://amzn.to/4239BfW), I wanted to dive into the topic of when a parent commits suicide and how this impacts adult children later on. In today's episode, we cover how kids think of this, how depression hijacks your brain to make this seem like the best option, what to do if you are severely depressed and have had these thoughts, and a reframe that has been useful for many of my clients over the years who have kids and who struggle with suicidality.IF YOU HAVE SUICIDAL THOUGHTS, CALL 988, THE SUICIDE AND CRISIS HELPLINE.Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Jealousy Isn't All Bad."For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Introverts aren't scared of people or embarrassing themselves. If you are, you likely have social anxiety, which can constrict the lives of your kids and spouse. Here's a different perspective on social anxiety vs introversion, how to work on it using exposure principles, and how to eventually learn to engage in a more open and enthusiastic way vs being paralyzed by the thought that you may do something wrong or weird. Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Jealousy Isn't All Bad."For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

The transition from women's 30's to 40's can feel very significant. Here's a deep dive into aging, how couples can accept the reality of life moving in one direction, how our larger social and family context can help or hinder our ability to navigate this transition, and how happy couples stay close and connected in their 40's and beyond.Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Jealousy Isn't All Bad."For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

If you're used to the initiation style that women use in porn, and don't have much non-honeymoon stage experience with other women, you may well miss the signals that your wife is open to having sex. Covered in this episode: how she may be initiating, the impact of confident momentum in bed, and the limitations of some men's demand that their wives "communicate more directly."Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Jealousy Isn't All Bad."For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Some children have to act like parents or even spouses to their own parents. How and why does this manifest, and how does it impact later adult intimate relationships for these kids?Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "People Pleasing Daughters Of Covertly Narcissistic Mothers"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

No, your spouse doesn't make you depressed or not depressed. If you think this, it is related to your attachment style, not your depression or even your relationship. One of the hardest things to learn for people with preoccupied or fearful-avoidant attachment, but the only thing that can actually help you heal and grow as a person.Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "People Pleasing Daughters Of Covertly Narcissistic Mothers"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/