The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Today's wonderful treat is an appearance from renowned dating guru Evan Marc Katz, became the world’s first dating coach in 2003, specializing in helping smart, successful women create lasting love. He is the author of four books, his Love U Podcast has over 3 million downloads and he has been featured in hundreds of media outlets, including Today, the New York Times, and the Wall St. Journal.Now happily married for 16 years, Evan believes you can find love, no matter where you live, how old you are, or how challenging your previous relationships - and he has the results to prove it. Over 13,000 women have graduated from Love U, Evan’s coaching program and community for women. By providing hands-on support, structure and accountability, Evan teaches women to become the CEO of their love lives and attract high-value, commitment-oriented partners. Check out his podcast here: https://open.spotify.com/show/5xQYx9kwPQK6PA7HwlTcDj?si=2517897f7ab84ce3Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Why Does Giving A Gift To Your Avoidant Partner Go So Poorly?"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Discover the complexities of avoidant attachment styles in dating. The conversation highlights how these individuals prioritize independence over intimacy, complicating relationships. Learn to spot red flags, so you don't feel like a constant pursuer. Self-reflection and therapeutic insights are shared to help navigate these dynamics, making it easier to understand both yourself and your partner. Tune in for valuable advice to enhance your romantic connections!

Today I'm joined by two wonderful providers we have at Best Life Behavioral Health: ⁠Paula Pate⁠ and ⁠Cat Roebuck⁠. We do a deep dive into a couples therapy modality they both use that I don't know much about, differentiation-based sex and marital therapy, aka the crucible approach! This is a great way to watch Cat and Paula in real time if you are considering working with either of them individually or as a couple. They are both smart and passionate about what they do. This conversation was a lot of fun and taught me a great deal! Book with Cat or Paula by emailing info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com and read more about the topics we discuss here:⁠Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships⁠⁠Intimacy & Desire: Awaken The Passion In Your Relationship⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! ⁠https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠ and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Own Your Own Shit!"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit ⁠https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/⁠For therapy or coaching, contact us at ⁠https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Many people struggle with practical ways to enact some of my marriage tips, which is why I try to add in some very concrete strategy episodes. Here was going to be three direct and actionable tips to improve your date nights, and one that I couldn't help but add because it's such a common way that I see date nights go awry. Hope you enjoy, and here's the date night questions:https://www.drpsychmom.com/100-date-night-questions-time-want-feel-closer/Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Why Does Giving A Gift To Your Avoidant Partner Go So Poorly?"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Stop counting stuff up, whether it's chores or date nights or sexual encounters. This is literally killing any potential for closeness in your relationship.Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Why Does Giving A Gift To Your Avoidant Partner Go So Poorly?"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

This is illogical. If you want to split everything exactly down the middle because "that's what would happen after divorce".... you've never been divorced lol. And also, this philosophy may be why your kids have trouble sharing!Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Why Does Giving A Gift To Your Avoidant Partner Go So Poorly?"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Straight talk on this common issue that I see in pursuer-distancer couples, especially preoccupied women with avoidant men. Often your issues with the family mask your deeper relationship issues. If you do successfully spend your time and energy to win them over... ironically you recognize that they weren't the issue at all. The fact that your partner didn't defend you was always the real issue.Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Marriage Isn't Supposed To Be THAT Hard!"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Today I discuss the reasons that people are dishonest in therapy, how to reframe this, and a challenge if you're in therapy for your next session!Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Marriage Isn't Supposed To Be THAT Hard!"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Many men underestimate how much of a turnoff defensiveness is to women. Even if a woman wanted to have sex with you that evening, an interaction where you are defensive will turn that incipient desire into a cold icy front. Defensiveness is a form of dishonesty, and dishonesty triggers a feeling of lack of safety in women, children, and other men as well. Nobody wants to be on your team in any way if you can't admit fault, because this is a dangerous situation to be in. More on this topic today!Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Marriage Isn't Supposed To Be THAT Hard!"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Some people are in a dynamic that's like Chat GPT... and they don't even know until it stops! Today I discuss who gets into this type of dynamic (on BOTH sides), and when it frequently ends. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Mortality Salience and Terror Management Theory!"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/