The Dr. Psych Mom Show
with clinical psychologist
Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten Let Your Wife Take Care Of You Or She Will Feel Unnecessary To You Except For Sex (Which Is Bad)
Dec 11, 2025
Explore the dynamics of relationships where men often over-function, seeking love through actions rather than emotional connection. Discover how this behavior can devalue partners, making them feel more like service providers than equals. Learn the importance of asking for help and allowing partners to care for you, transforming the relationship from transactional to reciprocal. Dr. Samantha offers practical tips on how to ask for support and discusses the root causes of compulsive self-reliance.
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Overdoing Care Undermines Partner Value
- Doing everything for your spouse reduces their sense of usefulness and self-worth.
- Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten explains that over-functioning makes partners feel replaceable rather than valued.
Two Sides Of The Same Dysfunction
- Over-functioning and under-functioning are two sides of the same problem in relationships.
- Both partners feel exploited or useless depending on which role they fall into, Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten notes.
Accept Physical Care When Needed
- Let your partner help with small physical needs like applying a bandage when you cut yourself.
- Accepting care communicates trust and gives your partner meaningful roles in the relationship.
