The Dr. Psych Mom Show
with clinical psychologist
Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten If She's The CEO And You're The CFO (Chief F-ing Officer), This Doesn't Count As Division Of Labor
Dec 14, 2025
In this engaging discussion, Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten humorously tackles the dynamics of household roles, coining the term 'CFO' for partners who don't contribute beyond certain expectations. She explores how many women feel overloaded as the 'CEO' at home and why this can lead to dissatisfaction. The conversation dives into the impact of ADHD on home and work responsibilities, linking sexual motivation and resentment in intimate relationships. Dr. Samantha emphasizes the need for equitable division of tasks, advocating for empathy and shared responsibility to foster healthier connections.
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Wife Feels Like Household CEO
- Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten shares a couples session story where the wife felt like the household CEO and the husband only mobilized when sex was expected.
- The host coined the phrase "CEO and CFO (Chief F-ing Officer)" to capture this common complaint in therapy.
Sex-Only Effort Feels Transactional
- When a partner only mobilizes for sex, the other partner interprets effort as valuing sex over the relationship.
- That perception reduces goodwill and makes sex feel transactional rather than loving.
Visible Mobilization Shapes Empathy
- Tasks partners perform at work or for sex can show capability and motivation, which skews perceptions of home effort.
- Seeing mobilization in one area reduces empathy for struggles in another unless effort is visible across domains.