The Dr. Psych Mom Show
with clinical psychologist
Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten Sex and Porn Addiction With Duane Osterlind, LMFT, CSAT of The Addicted Mind Podcast!
Dec 17, 2025
Duane Osterlind, a seasoned Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, dives deep into the world of sex addiction. He defines terms like 'deceptive sexuality' and explains its links to betrayal trauma and PTSD. Listeners learn about intimacy disorders and the impact of childhood trauma on compulsive sexual behavior. Duane emphasizes the importance of accountability in repairing relationships and tackling the shame surrounding addiction. His insights on internet porn's influence on younger clients also shed light on evolving challenges in therapy.
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Secret Sexual Basement Destroys Reality
- Duane Osterlind explains that compulsive sexual behavior often involves deception and a "secret sexual basement" hidden from partners.
- This secrecy creates reality-fragmentation and complex post-traumatic stress for the betrayed partner.
Earn Trust With Consistent Actions
- Rebuild trust by showing consistent, noticeable, trustworthy behaviors over time to "earn" trust back.
- Expect repair to take sustained effort often over a year or two of intensive work.
Child Abuse Led To Compulsive Acting-Out
- Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten recounts working with children who replicating sexual abuse through compulsive behaviors.
- This experience shifted her view toward empathy for later compulsive sexual acting-out.