How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast

This week, we’re bringing you a throwback episode that’s just as valuable today as when it first aired. We sat down with Abby — a hot, young, single twenty-something — to get the unfiltered inside scoop on what dating in your 20s is really like. From the shifts COVID created in the dating landscape to what’s stayed exactly the same, Abby pulls back the curtain on what works, what fails, and how to approach with confidence. She even shares what makes her (and her friends) take notice when a guy walks in — spoiler: a killer smile still wins the day.>>>Join Kristen along with the founder of Limitless Brave for an in-person workshop in LA September 27th and 28th. >>>SEATS ARE LIMITED! Get them here:⁠⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day2⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this bonus episode of How to Get the Girl, Kristen sits down with Dave Stultz from Limitless Brave to talk about something that can completely shift your dating life: the power of working with a coach in person.We break down why nothing compares to the energy of being in the room, where body language, presence, and confidence can be seen, felt, and fine-tuned in real time. You’ll hear why workshops create an environment where skills stick faster, nerves get rewired into confidence, and accountability goes through the roof.And here’s the big news: Dave and Kristen are hosting a live in-person workshop in Los Angeles this weekend, September 27th & 28th. If you’ve ever considered coaching, this is the chance you don’t want to miss. It would behoove you in more ways than one to be there because there’s simply nothing like learning face-to-face.Seats for the intensive are very limited so if you'd like to be part of it, sign up below ASAP!>>> To join the Intensive, sign up HERE >>> To join for the Day 1 Seminar, up here HERE

This episode is anything but a lecture. In fact, we kick things off with a totally candid 10-minute conversation between me, Kristen, and our guest Dr. Kayte about our own porn patterns - genres, likes, dislikes - proving that yes, we ALL watch porn.From there, Dr. Kayte breaks down what’s actually healthy versus harmful when it comes to porn, plus what’s real and what’s pure camera trickery that should never, ever be tried in real life.We also dive into Dr. Kayte’s own dating life as a woman in her mid-30s, where she shares surprising insecurities that so many women in that stage of life can relate to. Even if you’re a woman listening, you’re going to love this one.In this episode, we also overanalyze and unpack:The best questions to ask on dates to instantly put your date at easeWhat to avoid saying to women when you’re on a dateHow excessive porn can absolutely kill your real-life sex lifeThe traits women secretly find attractive (that will probably surprise you)...and so much more.>>>Join Kristen along with the founder of Limitless Brave for an in-person workshop in LA September 27th and 28th. >>>SEATS ARE LIMITED! Get them here:⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day1⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day2⁠⁠>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Dating at 49 isn’t about playing games — it’s about knowing who you are, what you want, and not being afraid to say it out loud. On this episode of How to Get the Girl, we sit down with Rachel Birch, host of the award-winning podcast Love Before 100.Freshly divorced and unapologetically back in the dating scene, Rachel opens up about what she’s looking for, what turns her on, and the mindset of a sophisticated, strong woman who’s not settling for less. We dive into attraction, desire, confidence, and the little things that make a big difference when dating a woman who truly knows herself.If you’ve ever wanted a window into the mind of an empowered, grown-up woman navigating modern dating — this conversation is it.>>>Join Kristen along with the founder of Limitless Brave for an in-person workshop in Los Angeles September 27th and 28th. >>>SEATS ARE LIMITED! Get them here:⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day1⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day2⁠>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠⁠

When it comes to men’s health, your penis might be saying more than you think. On this episode of How to Get the Girl, we sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin — physician, innovator, and creator of the world’s first smart penis ring — to talk about not erectile dysfunction, but erectile fitness.Dr. Justin shares why sexual health is more than performance — it’s a vital indicator of your overall well-being. We dig into the critical need for data-driven solutions in medicine, how technology is changing the game for men’s health, and why paying attention to your erections could literally save your life.He also opens up about keeping intimacy alive with his wife of decades — proving that long-term relationships don’t have to mean long-term boredom in the bedroom.If you’ve ever wondered what your erections reveal about your health (and your love life), this is a conversation you don’t want to miss.>>>Join Kristen for an in-person workshop in Los Angeles September 27th and 28th! >>>SEATS ARE LIMITED! Get them here:⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day1⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day2⁠>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠⁠

Communication is the foundation of every great relationship, but for so many people, it’s also the biggest struggle. In this episode, we’re joined by Suzanne Tabachnick, founder of Social Foundations, a supportive community dedicated to helping people build social awareness, abilities, and confidence. While Social Foundations focuses on individuals navigating life on the autism spectrum, Suzanne’s insights are valuable for anyone who wants to strengthen their communication skills and form deeper connections, leading to chemistry and romance. We dive into the essentials of effective communication in dating and relationships: how to notice the areas where you might be falling short, what habits could be holding you back, and practical steps you can take to improve. Whether you’ve struggled to express yourself, misread signals, or just want to become more confident in connecting with others, this conversation will help you level up your ability to bond, attract, and sustain meaningful relationships.>>>Join Kristen along with the founder of Limitless Brave and surprise guest for an in-person workshop in Los Angeles September 27th and 28th. >>>SEATS ARE LIMITED!https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day1https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day2>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠

How do you know when to pursue, when to pull back, and when to stop altogether? In this throwback episode, we sit down with Emmy-nominated producer and casting director Tanya Bershadsly to break down the art of pursuit. We dive into the signals women give that tell you she’s interested, HOW TO SPOT when you’re pushing too far, and the difference between persistence and pressure. Tanya brings her eye for human behavior from years in casting to reveal what women are really communicating, often without saying a word. Whether you struggle to make the first move or aren’t sure when to step back, this episode will give you the clarity and confidence to pursue women the right way.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠

This week, is a serious DON'T MISS. We sit down with Erin Keating, creator of the brand and podcast Hotter Than Ever, dedicated to dating over 50, to reveal the unfiltered truths men need to hear. While Erin’s show focuses on dating later in life, the insights she shares apply to any man looking to attract and connect with women. Erin is no-holds-barred, authentic, and tells it exactly like it is- no fluff, no sugarcoating. We cover the biggest online dating mistakes guys of every age make, how to actually get her to say yes to a date, and what instantly makes a woman give you a chance (or swipe left) on an app. Packed with insider perspectives straight from a woman’s mind, this episode is your playbook for standing out, making REAL connections, and turning matches into real-life dates.

This one’s from the vault back when the show was called Ask Women—so don’t be confused by the old name drop! The advice still holds up (and then some).In this episode, we’re joined by Adam Wayne, Marni’s personal coach, to talk about one of the trickiest topics for men: how to share your vulnerabilities without coming off as self-deprecating, weak, or like you’re making excuses for who you are.Adam breaks down how to own your truth, express emotion, and connect deeply with women—without ever losing your edge. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or just trying to get better at opening up, this conversation is a must-listen as it’s Insightful, honest, and practical, as always!>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty

K.T. Tatara, a comedian and crowd-reading maestro, joins Kristen for a captivating discussion on bouncing back from cringe-worthy first impressions. They explore the fine line between awkward and unrecoverable moments, emphasizing the art of self-deprecation and the power of naming the weird energy in a room. Listeners are treated to strategies for recovery that include when to own up to a blunder and when to pivot. With humor and authenticity, K.T. shares insights that help demystify the complexities of attraction in both dating and relationships.