

How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast
Marni Kinrys & Kristen Carney
What do a female comic & banter coach and a professional wing girl have in common? The realistically raw and hilarious perspectives on what women ACTUALLY want in a man. Prepare to be offended and awed as Kristen Carney & Marni Kinrys take you through the uncensored and often ridiculous mind of a woman to help you better understand, appreciate, and avoid getting punched by the next girl you come across.
Check out our other dating tools and advice: https://www.winggirlmethod.com and https://www.kristenandchilldating.com
Check out our other dating tools and advice: https://www.winggirlmethod.com and https://www.kristenandchilldating.com
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Jan 13, 2026 • 23min
Ep. 560 What Really Turns Women On
Most dating advice is generic outdated and honestly pretty cringey. In this episode Marni sits down with Dr Jennifer Berman New York Times bestselling author and renowned urologist to have an honest conversation about attraction emotional connection and what actually turns women on.They talk about why desire starts in the mind how emotional safety impacts sexual chemistry and what men often misunderstand when it comes to intimacy. This episode also dives into real world topics like sexual confidence aging communication sexual compatibility menopause perimenopause and the insecurities both men and women experience as they get older.If you want real insight into how women think feel and experience attraction without gimmicks or surface level advice this episode will give you a deeper more honest perspective.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty

Jan 7, 2026 • 50min
Ep. 559 How To Build Real Self-Esteem
This episode is a throwback to one of our most powerful conversations on self esteem and it is just as relevant today as ever.Building real self esteem is not something most people are taught how to do. It feels big overwhelming and confusing which is exactly why so many people struggle with it and never fix it. In this episode we break down where self esteem actually comes from and how to start building it in a practical sustainable way.We are joined by a guest who knows a thing or two about developing confidence from the inside out both mentally and physically.Guest: Matt Reynolds, Owner of Barbell LogicBarbell-Logic.comCheck out Tiege Hanley for simple effective skincare programs designed specifically for menhttp://www.tiege.com/askwomen>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty

Dec 23, 2025 • 29min
Ep. 558 Why Being “Nice” Makes You Invisible to Women
Most men think attraction is built by being polite, respectful, and safe.But that’s exactly why so many women feel nothing, even when the guy checks all the boxes.In this episode, Marni breaks down the biggest misunderstanding men have about attraction with Kurt who is a listener of the podcast. Why logic, effort, and approval seeking quietly kill chemistry before it ever starts. You’ll learn the difference between emotional attraction and emotional safety, why asking permission drains polarity, and how men accidentally skip the flirting phase without realizing it.If you’ve ever heard “You’re a great guy, I just don’t feel the spark,” this episode explains what actually went wrong and how to stop being invisible without becoming arrogant, manipulative, or fake.This is about emotional leadership, polarity, and creating attraction on purpose.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty

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Dec 16, 2025 • 44min
Ep. 557 How to Spark Attraction in the First 30 Seconds
In this insightful discussion, dating coach Patrick James, author of '107 Proven Ways to Get the Girl', shares strategies for sparking attraction quickly. He emphasizes the significance of boldness in approaching women and how playful rapport breaks can set you apart. The hosts explore the importance of facial expressions and energy in creating a welcoming atmosphere. They provide tips on avoiding typical interview questions, making conversations feel natural, and boosting confidence through practice. Prepare to enhance your attraction game!

Dec 9, 2025 • 55min
Ep. 556 What Alpha Really Means Today
Kevin Aillaud, an Alpha Male Coach and founder of the Elevated Alpha Society, dives into what it means to be an alpha man today. He redefines alpha as cognitive mastery, moving away from outdated concepts of dominance. Kevin shares insights on escaping the friend zone by changing internal thoughts and emphasizes the importance of emotional ownership. He offers practical tools to curb anxiety and transform thoughts into beliefs, all while highlighting the significance of self-perception in shaping others' reactions.

Dec 2, 2025 • 54min
Ep. 555 Throwback: How To Be a Pick Up Artist with Vince Kelvin
Enjoy this special throwback episode where Marni sits down with seduction coach Vince Kelvin to talk about dating, attraction, confidence, and how men can naturally get better with women. Vince breaks down actionable insights, useful techniques, and surprising truths about modern dating. Listen now and learn something new.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty

Nov 18, 2025 • 37min
Ep. 553 No-BS Guide to Dating Women in Their 40's
A candid single mom shares her unfiltered insights on dating in your 40s. She highlights the red flags of dishonesty found on dating apps, especially from married men. Financial parity and shared values are crucial for her; she emphasizes the importance of equal partnerships. Time management is essential as a mom, preferring quick in-person meetings over endless texting. She discusses the impact of exes and custody arrangements and shares anecdotes of dating disasters, emphasizing how attraction is often instinctive.

Nov 12, 2025 • 56min
Ep. 554 Throwback! The Relationship Doctor Is In (with Bob Grant)
In this engaging discussion, Bob Grant, known as 'The Relationship Doctor' and a bestselling author, shares his expertise on the intricacies of women's emotions and effective communication in relationships. He emphasizes the importance of listening to build attraction and redefines the friend zone, encouraging emotional closeness. Bob also addresses conflict as a necessary component of intimacy, advises on managing boundaries, and discusses how and when to disclose mental health issues, rounding off with tips on communicating non-negotiables for healthier relationships.

Nov 5, 2025 • 36min
Ep. 553 The Instincts That Make Women Want You (and Repel Them Too)
Tim Ash, an author and expert in evolutionary psychology, joins the discussion to unveil the primal instincts behind attraction and relationships. He explores how men and women evolved differently and why that shapes modern dating behaviors. The conversation also dives into the chemistry of love, the influence of economic power on partner choice, and the impact of dating apps on mate selection. With practical relationship advice, Tim sheds light on understanding each other better in the context of these primal instincts.

Oct 28, 2025 • 40min
Ep. 552 Getting Her Out of Her Head and Into Her Body
In this engaging discussion, Amy Rowan, a sexologist and founder of Suburban Intimacy, reveals how many women struggle to feel fully engaged during intimacy. She shares her personal journey of overcoming sexual confidence issues and emphasizes the importance of dropping pressure around orgasm. Amy advises men on how to create a safe, playful environment for intimacy and suggests focusing on non-sexual touch to foster connection. With a roadmap to deeper pleasure, her insights aim to transform relationships and enhance intimacy.


