How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast

If you struggle to read women, constantly misinterpret signals, or feel like there’s a disconnect no matter how hard you try, this episode is for you.We’re joined by Empathetic Leadership Coach Jevon Wooden to unpack the power of Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and why it’s the missing link for so many men when it comes to connection, attraction, and trust.We break down how emotional intelligence helps you actually understand what a woman is feeling, how to respond in a way that makes her feel safe, and why it’s the antidote to being seen as a “trauma dumper.”You’ll learn how to:Gauge your own level of emotional intelligenceStop guessing and start getting women emotionallyConnect in a way that’s confident, grounded, and magneticGrow your EQ with simple tools and mindset shifts This one’s packed with gems, so you gotta listen. >>> Get Mindsets and Emotional Intelligence Insights from Jevon Wooden ⁠HERE⁠>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's fully-transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠>>> Get A FREE Dating Playbook Session with Marni’s Wing Girl Team. Apply Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/letmehelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode of How to Get the Girl (formerly known as Ask Women), Kristen and Marni are joined by certified sex therapist Dr. Tina Shermer to tackle one of the biggest silent confidence-killers for men: sexual shame. Whether it’s shame around performance, desire, past experiences, or just not knowing what’s “normal,” this shame often goes unspoken — but it’s sabotaging your confidence, your connection with women, and your ability to feel powerful in your own skin.Dr. Shermer breaks down where this shame comes from, how to reframe it, and what to do right now to stop letting it control your dating life. This episode is a must-listen if you’ve ever felt like your anxiety in dating or sex is coming from something deeper… because chances are, it is.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's fully-transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/kristenandchill/magneticmanstrategysession⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE Dating Playbook Session with Marni’s Wing Girl Team. Apply Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://winggirlmethod.com/letmehelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

🎙️ Heads up! We’re playing around with new titles for the show! Right now, we’re rolling with "How to Get the Girl" by Ask Women, but stay tuned for another possible rebrand 👀This week, we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood emotions in dating: jealousy. And no, it’s not always toxic. In fact, if you know how to use it, it can be one of the most powerful tools for increasing attraction, creating sexual tension, and deepening connection.We’re joined by Ally Iseman from Passport2Pleasure.com, and she’s breaking down how to harness jealousy in a healthy way - whether you’re navigating early dating, a committed relationship, or just trying to spark that “charge” back into your love life.We talk about:What jealousy is really telling youHow to use it to create playful intrigueWhy avoiding jealousy kills desireAnd how to stay grounded (not needy) while using it to your advantageIf you’ve ever felt triggered, anxious, or powerless in the face of jealousy, this episode will flip the script—and help you turn it into fuel for connection instead.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's fully-transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/kristenandchill/magneticmanstrategysession⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE Dating Playbook Session with Marni’s Wing Girl Team. Apply Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://winggirlmethod.com/letmehelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join powerhouse salesman Brad DeMint, host of the How to Win podcast, as he uncovers the secrets to confidently asking for what you want in life and dating. He shares insights on overcoming limiting beliefs and the vital role of self-belief. Discover how effective communication and rapport can transform your connections and understand why many struggle to articulate their desires. Brad’s advice serves as a wake-up call for those who have been holding back—get ready to embrace your empowerment!

Join intimacy expert Susan Bratton as she dives into candid conversations about male performance issues, specifically erectile dysfunction. She explains that ED isn't just psychological, tying it to physical factors like cardiovascular health. Learn how factors such as diet, communication, and even the porn you consume can impact your intimate life. Susan offers advice on boosting confidence and effective treatments, exploring both budget-friendly and luxury options. Ultimately, she reveals what women truly desire in intimate relationships—hint: it’s not about perfection!

Dive into the world of men's fashion as two experts share how dressing sharply can captivate attention. Discover the secrets behind stylish looks that make women swoon and why confidence matters. Hear about the return to elegance at networking events and the magic of using personal style as a tool for attraction. Get insights into transforming self-esteem through fashion choices, and learn how your appearance reflects your character. It's all about making a stunning first impression and showing pride in yourself!

Kristen and Marni are joined by special guest Kelly Tao, one of Marne’s original wing girls, for a powerful conversation on confidence—how to access the confidence already within you, how to keep it consistent, and how to let it multiply.They also get real about age gaps in dating—and share their personal preferences about WHY dating older men can be desirable and WHY dating younger/the same age range can also be desirable so you have a better idea of what make you and your age-range appealing. It’s honest, insightful, and full of practical tips to help you show up with more confidence and connection in your dating life.>>> Become the most charming, magnetic, WITTY and confident version of yourself. Book a free call with Kristen here: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/kristenandchill/magneticmanstrategysession⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE Dating Playbook Session with Marni’s Wing Girl Team. Apply Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://winggirlmethod.com/letmehelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

What if changing just a few words could completely shift your confidence and attraction levels? In this powerful episode, we welcome back language and mindset expert Spencer Burnett to dive deep into the concept of precise language—how the words you think and say directly impact your ability to connect, attract, and show up as your most magnetic self.Spencer breaks down how unconscious language patterns fuel anxiety and resistance—and then flips the script with a live, on-air language coaching demo with Marni. Watch (okay, listen!) as he rewires her inner dialogue in real time to eliminate approach anxiety using easy, practical shifts you can apply today.This isn't just theory—it's transformation you can hear. If you've ever struggled with self-talk that kills your vibe before you even say hello, you need this episode in your ears.🔥 Tune in to learn:The secret power of precise languageHow to eliminate approach anxiety through word choiceReal-time mindset rewiring in actionThis one’s a game changer.>>> Ready to become the most charming, magnetic, WITTY and confident version of yourself? Book a free call with Kristen here: ⁠⁠https://calendly.com/kristenandchill/magneticmanstrategysession⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE Dating Playbook Session with Marni’s Wing Girl Team. Apply Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://winggirlmethod.com/letmehelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Trauma - we all have it. Whether it’s loud and obvious or quiet and buried, your past experiences are shaping your present more than you might realize.In this powerful episode, we’re joined by trauma expert Tori Helf (Janae), who breaks down exactly how to uncover the hidden traumas holding you back — and more importantly, how to release them so they stop running the show. From small emotional wounds to deep-rooted pain, we explore how trauma affects everything from your confidence to your dating life to your sense of self.Tori shares real, practical tools for identifying and healing unresolved issues — so you can finally start living freely and fully.>>> Ready to become the most charming, magnetic, WITTY and confident version of yourself? Book a free call with Kristen here: ⁠https://calendly.com/kristenandchill/magneticmanstrategysession⁠>>> Get A FREE Dating Playbook Session with Marni’s Wing Girl Team. Apply Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://winggirlmethod.com/letmehelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Celeste Hirschman, co-creator of the Somatica® Method and a somatic sex coach, shares how to enhance intimacy and pleasure in relationships. She emphasizes the art of being a 'detective' in the bedroom—understanding what a woman likes through intuitive, playful communication. Listeners will learn about the nuances of consent, arousal patterns, and the importance of building connection before intimacy. Celeste’s actionable tips aim to boost men’s confidence and transform their approach to sexual exploration.