How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast Ep. 553 The Instincts That Make Women Want You (and Repel Them Too)
Nov 5, 2025
Tim Ash, an author and expert in evolutionary psychology, joins the discussion to unveil the primal instincts behind attraction and relationships. He explores how men and women evolved differently and why that shapes modern dating behaviors. The conversation also dives into the chemistry of love, the influence of economic power on partner choice, and the impact of dating apps on mate selection. With practical relationship advice, Tim sheds light on understanding each other better in the context of these primal instincts.
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Dating Driven By Deep Evolutionary Goals
- Evolutionary psychology explains many dating behaviors by focusing on reproduction, not modern happiness or fairness.
- Our instincts evolved over hundreds of thousands of years and remain influential despite modern society.
Gender Asymmetries Shape Mating Strategy
- Men and women evolved different average traits like size and testosterone which shaped distinct roles and instincts.
- Those biological asymmetries produce different mating strategies and risk tolerances today.
Risk And Provisioning Explain Mate Preferences
- Women's higher reproductive risk made provisioning and stability primary selection criteria for mates.
- Men were selected to take risks and provide resources, producing different behavioral drives.
