How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast Ep. 552 Getting Her Out of Her Head and Into Her Body
Oct 28, 2025
In this engaging discussion, Amy Rowan, a sexologist and founder of Suburban Intimacy, reveals how many women struggle to feel fully engaged during intimacy. She shares her personal journey of overcoming sexual confidence issues and emphasizes the importance of dropping pressure around orgasm. Amy advises men on how to create a safe, playful environment for intimacy and suggests focusing on non-sexual touch to foster connection. With a roadmap to deeper pleasure, her insights aim to transform relationships and enhance intimacy.
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Mind Blocks Female Pleasure
- Many women feel broken or doubt their bodies because they lack knowledge and get stuck in their heads during sex.
- Amy Rowan explains that overthinking blocks involuntary responses like orgasm, turning sex into a mental problem rather than a physical one.
Prioritize Pleasure Over Orgasm
- Tell her explicitly you will take your time and enjoy every moment so she can relax and drop pressure.
- Remove goal-oriented expectations and focus on pleasure rather than forcing orgasms.
Reassure Her Time Is Okay
- Reassure her repeatedly that it's okay if arousal takes time and you're enjoying the process.
- Say things like, "I'm here for you as long as it takes," to remove performance pressure.
