How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast Ep. 556 What Alpha Really Means Today
Dec 9, 2025
Kevin Aillaud, an Alpha Male Coach and founder of the Elevated Alpha Society, dives into what it means to be an alpha man today. He redefines alpha as cognitive mastery, moving away from outdated concepts of dominance. Kevin shares insights on escaping the friend zone by changing internal thoughts and emphasizes the importance of emotional ownership. He offers practical tools to curb anxiety and transform thoughts into beliefs, all while highlighting the significance of self-perception in shaping others' reactions.
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Building A Northern Arizona Academy
- Kevin is building a physical academy on 40 acres near the Grand Canyon with gyms and an obstacle course.
- He intends the space for cognitive mastery, emotional ownership, and immersive men’s training.
Alpha Is A Chosen Cognitive State
- Kevin reframes 'alpha' as a cognitive state of choosing thoughts that serve you rather than social dominance.
- Alpha means cognitive mastery and emotional ownership, not a fixed hierarchy.
Beliefs Are Just Sentences You Chose
- Circumstances are neutral data that we interpret through subjective sentences in our brain.
- Beliefs are just sentences we treat as facts, so separating thought from fact frees you to choose new meanings.
