

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Esther Perel Global Media
Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.
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Jan 27, 2025 • 1h
Is This Worth a Second Chance?
Exploring the complexities of rekindled romances, the podcast dives into a couple's journey after an eight-year relationship. They grapple with whether to try again and how to break free from their old patterns. Themes of intimacy and emotional needs are examined, revealing the impact of childhood experiences on current dynamics. The importance of open communication and mutual commitment shines through as they navigate feelings of vulnerability and the fear of falling back into past mistakes.

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Jan 20, 2025 • 53min
Are We Just Not Sexually Compatible? Part Two
A young Black American woman shares her experiences with sexual intimacy and trauma alongside her partner. They explore the challenges that arise when one partner initiates but the other freezes. The conversation navigates the intricacies of sexual compatibility, emphasizing the need for emotional connection and open communication. They discuss how trauma impacts their relationship dynamics and the importance of non-sexual touch. Practical strategies, like keeping a shared notebook for thoughts, are introduced to enhance connection and intimacy.

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Jan 13, 2025 • 43min
Are We Just Not Sexually Compatible?
A caller grapples with her sexual compatibility with a partner, exploring underlying trauma shaping her anxiety. The discussion dives into desire dynamics, emphasizing the importance of communication and self-awareness in intimacy. Strategies for maintaining a sexual mindset and understanding triggers are shared, alongside playful approaches to redefine connection. The conversation also highlights the significance of emotional safety after trauma, urging partners to foster a secure environment for rekindling intimacy and trust.

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Jan 6, 2025 • 44min
Did I Get Ghosted or Is He Just Not That Into Me?
A young woman's painful experience with ghosting shines a light on the emotional turmoil that often accompanies modern dating. The discussion dives into the complexities of navigating relationships, blending friendship and romance, and the importance of open communication. Themes of urban versus rural dating dynamics illustrate how location influences emotional connections. The challenge of finding closure and the bittersweet nature of letting go are also explored, revealing the intricate dance of human emotions in an ever-evolving relationship landscape.

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Dec 16, 2024 • 51min
I Don't Want to Turn Into My Mother
A young mother grapples with her complex feelings towards her own mother, exploring themes of resentment and empathy in parenthood. The conversation dives deep into the struggle of breaking generational cycles while establishing healthy boundaries. Emotional ties and the impact of upbringing are dissected, highlighting the challenges of navigating familial expectations. With a focus on self-acceptance and gratitude, the discussion offers insights into redefining relationships and the importance of communication in nurturing parent-child dynamics.

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Dec 2, 2024 • 46min
Grief is Like a Fingerprint
The conversation delves into the intricate emotions surrounding grief after losing loved ones to suicide. It emphasizes the unique ways individuals process sorrow, exploring feelings of anger, love, and the beauty found in pain. Personal rituals and shared remembrances are highlighted as crucial for healing. Listeners are invited to reflect on their own experiences, fostering a supportive community. Overall, the discussion underscores the importance of open dialogue and recognizing the complexities of familial connections in the wake of loss.

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Nov 18, 2024 • 55min
Say More - Esther Perel on Fantasy with Gillian Anderson
Join award-winning actress Gillian Anderson, known for her captivating roles in 'The X-Files' and 'Sex Education', as she delves into the world of women's erotic fantasies. She and Esther explore how these fantasies reveal deep emotional and psychological desires, often influenced by personal history and societal norms. They also discuss the empowering aspects of BDSM, especially for postmenopausal women, and highlight the importance of open conversations about sexuality to foster intimacy and personal acceptance. A fascinating journey into desire and self-discovery!

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Nov 11, 2024 • 59min
How Many Times Can I Forgive You?
A woman grapples with betrayal and the discovery of her partner's long-hidden son. As they navigate feelings of humiliation and emotional distance, the complexities of trust and forgiveness unfold. They explore the challenges of maintaining connection amidst infidelity and childhood wounds. The conversation touches on caregiving dynamics, the struggle for recognition in relationships, and the intricate ties between love, grief, and healing. Personal stories reveal the lasting impact of personal experiences on relational behaviors.

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Nov 4, 2024 • 52min
Finding Love Would Mean Letting Go of Who I Am
The struggle of finding love often reveals deeper truths about identity and societal expectations. A gay Muslim man's journey highlights the tension between faith and authenticity. Listeners discover the impact of fantasy on real relationships and the importance of empathy. The conversation dives into the emotional sacrifices made for love, along with personal anecdotes of coming out and familial pressures. Ultimately, it emphasizes the power of honesty in navigating love amidst culture and belief.

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Oct 21, 2024 • 45min
You Are So Not Invited to My Wedding
Navigating the tension between past and present relationships takes center stage. A young woman grapples with her fiancé's decision to invite her former abusive boss to their wedding. Emotional turmoil and authority struggles emerge, highlighting the complex dynamics of loyalty and boundaries. The conversation unpacks the intricacies of wedding guest lists and the importance of communication. With insights on emotional conflicts, it emphasizes empathy as essential for fostering understanding and resolving personal challenges.


