
Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.
Latest episodes

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Jun 17, 2024 • 52min
Esther Calling - Four Affairs, Four Divorces. Why Do I Keep Doing This?
In this thought-provoking conversation, a caller grapples with the aftermath of four affairs and four divorces, searching for patterns that lead to her cycle of self-sabotage. Esther Perel guides her through the complexities of love, highlighting the push and pull between longing for connection and the desire for freedom. They explore the impact of past experiences on current relationships, the nuances of intimacy, and the burdens of unfulfilled expectations. Together, they seek paths to healthier relationships and the importance of communication.

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Jun 3, 2024 • 50min
Esther Calling - What If I Break Up With My Dad?
A young woman grapples with her father's infidelity and its impact on their relationship. Emotional neglect and familial expectations stir feelings of anger and betrayal, challenging her desire for connection. The discussion reveals the intricate dynamics of father-child bonds, identity, and forgiveness. Themes of empathy surface as they explore the difficulty of breaking free from harmful patterns while striving for personal autonomy. The conversation highlights the complexity of love amidst the quest for healthier boundaries.

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May 20, 2024 • 38min
Esther Calling - It Feels Like My Siblings Abandoned Me
A young woman shares her struggle with the burden of caring for aging parents while feeling abandoned by her older siblings. The conversation dives into complex family dynamics, exploring resentment, unexplored emotions, and the evolving roles each sibling plays. Issues of favoritism and the toll of caregiving during crises are unpacked, revealing deeper feelings of loneliness and longing for connection. The importance of empathy and heartfelt communication in nurturing familial bonds is also emphasized.

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May 13, 2024 • 1h 3min
Does Growing Up Mean Growing Apart?
Joining the conversation are three co-founders of a production company who have navigated the shift from childhood friends to business partners. They share intriguing insights on balancing individuality with collaboration, exploring how their unique roles shape their dynamics. The guests candidly discuss the emotional challenges of growing up, maintaining trust, and addressing unresolved issues within their creative partnerships. With Esther's guidance, they uncover the beauty of evolving relationships amidst the complexities of adulthood.

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May 6, 2024 • 43min
Esther Calling - My Mom Should Have Set a Different Example
A woman grapples with resentment towards her mother, reflecting on the childhood feelings of abandonment that shape her current choices in relationships. Esther unpacks the double narrative of seeking safety in love while dealing with the lingering impact of family dynamics. They explore emotional dependency, the quest for independence, and how past experiences influence present connections. This journey reveals the complexities of intimacy, the healing needed to move forward, and the delicate balance between vulnerability and self-worth.

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Apr 22, 2024 • 40min
Esther Calling - Love is a Trap
In this enlightening conversation, a caller explores his struggles with obsessive thoughts about ex-boyfriends while in new relationships. Esther Perel, a renowned psychotherapist known for her insights on modern love, guides him through the emotional traps stemming from childhood experiences. They unravel the complexities of attachment patterns, desire fluctuations, and the impact of familial dynamics on personal connections. This engaging dialogue encourages listeners to reflect on their own relational narratives and the importance of self-awareness in fostering healthier relationships.

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Apr 15, 2024 • 55min
I Think I Married the Wrong Person
A couple grapples with their marital challenges, seeking guidance from Esther Perel, a renowned psychotherapist known for her work on relationships. They uncover how anger stems from feelings of devaluation and explore communication barriers that hinder connection. Esther helps them recognize ingrained patterns that protect them but also keep them stuck. Their conversation delves into emotional dynamics, the impact of upbringing on relationship struggles, and the critical need for empathy and understanding to break the cycle of frustration.

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Apr 8, 2024 • 51min
Esther Calling - My Exes Exes Keep Ruining My Relationships
In this discussion, a woman seeks guidance from Esther Perel on overcoming trust issues rooted in a past betrayal. They explore the complexities of intimacy, the impact of an ex’s presence on current relationships, and the struggle to meet emotional needs without sacrificing one's identity. The conversation delves into familial expectations and the tension between personal beliefs and cultural norms. Esther emphasizes the importance of transparency and support systems in navigating these emotional landscapes, promoting a path towards healing and connection.

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Apr 1, 2024 • 1h 7min
Esther Perel on New AI - Artificial Intimacy
In a thought-provoking discussion, Brené Brown, a research professor and vulnerability expert, joins Esther Perel to explore the balance between technology and authentic human connection. They address the paradox of feeling isolated in a hyper-connected world and emphasize the necessity of genuine interactions amid digital distractions. The conversation dives into the emotional effects of social media, the significance of vulnerability in relationships, and how 'bids for connection' can enhance intimacy. Together, they challenge listeners to rethink how technology shapes love and community.

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Mar 25, 2024 • 41min
Esther Calling - My Husband, His Other Wife, and Me
A compelling narrative unfolds as a woman grapples with her husband's unexpected return to his home country to fulfill familial duties. The complexities of love, loyalty, and cultural differences take center stage, highlighting the emotional turmoil of navigating infidelity and societal expectations. Personal identity and the struggle for autonomy emerge as key themes, especially for those in multi-partner dynamics. The candid intervention phone call provides deep insights into emotional journeys, urging listeners to reflect on their own relational challenges.