

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Esther Perel Global Media
Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.
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Oct 14, 2024 • 55min
Love the Child, Not the Father
Client 1 shares their intense journey of love, parenting, and emotional strife during the COVID lockdown. Feeling unsupported and overwhelmed, they navigate the treacherous waters of a relationship strained by unplanned parenthood. Esther Perel helps unpack the emotional complexities and power dynamics at play, emphasizing the need for flexibility and open communication. The conversation touches on breaking cycles of resentment and setting boundaries, ultimately highlighting the importance of maintaining individual identities while co-parenting.

Oct 7, 2024 • 46min
Best Friends Don't Make For the Best Bosses
Two best friends navigate the rocky terrain of turning a personal bond into a professional one. They discuss miscommunication and how it can fracture both friendship and business. The importance of honest dialogues emerges as a key theme for healing their relationship. They explore power dynamics at work and the challenge of expressing ideas when intimidation looms. Ultimately, they seek strategies to blend their personal and professional lives while maintaining clear communication and healthy boundaries.

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Sep 23, 2024 • 52min
Say More - Miranda July and Esther Perel on The Rebirth of Desire
Miranda July, a celebrated writer and artist known for her novel "All Fours," joins Esther Perel to explore the nuances of desire in modern relationships. They delve into the tension between domesticity and eroticism, discussing how vulnerability fosters emotional security. The conversation touches on sustaining intimacy over time and the delicate balance between freedom and safety in relationships. Through personal anecdotes, they highlight the intersection of identity, desire, and the complexities of communication, emphasizing the importance of self-care and exploration in reigniting passion.

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Sep 16, 2024 • 36min
Why Can't I Find Someone? Is it Me?
In a candid session, Esther speaks with a woman in her thirties, who is navigating the complexities of modern dating. Despite her enthusiasm for dates, she finds herself frustrated as relationships fizzle out after a few encounters. They discuss the importance of authenticity and reframing negative self-perceptions while exploring how shared interests can lead to deeper connections. Esther offers insights on balancing optimism and exhaustion in the pursuit of love, transforming her approach to dating.

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Sep 9, 2024 • 1h 3min
We Had Boundaries and He Crossed Them
Explore the rollercoaster of emotions in a consensual non-monogamous relationship rocked by an unplanned pregnancy. The couple grapples with boundaries and trust while balancing their love and family dynamics. They confront societal expectations and personal fears surrounding infidelity and parenting. With open communication, they navigate the complexities of step-parenting and redefining familial roles. This heartfelt discussion reveals how vulnerability and sincere apologies can fortify their bond amidst chaos.

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Jun 24, 2024 • 52min
You Keep Planning A Future Without Me
A woman in her first heterosexual relationship, having transitioned from a long-term marriage with a woman, finds herself navigating new emotional landscapes. Her partner, grappling with feelings of restlessness, struggles to articulate his desires. Together, they discuss their contrasting sexual backgrounds, the challenge of intimacy, and the psychological weight of past relationships. With insights from their journey, they explore vulnerabilities, the tension between longing for freedom and facing emotional connection, all while seeking honest communication to bridge their evolving relationship.

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Jun 17, 2024 • 52min
Four Affairs, Four Divorces. Why Do I Keep Doing This?
In this thought-provoking conversation, a caller grapples with the aftermath of four affairs and four divorces, searching for patterns that lead to her cycle of self-sabotage. Esther Perel guides her through the complexities of love, highlighting the push and pull between longing for connection and the desire for freedom. They explore the impact of past experiences on current relationships, the nuances of intimacy, and the burdens of unfulfilled expectations. Together, they seek paths to healthier relationships and the importance of communication.

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Jun 3, 2024 • 50min
What If I Break Up With My Dad?
A young woman grapples with her father's infidelity and its impact on their relationship. Emotional neglect and familial expectations stir feelings of anger and betrayal, challenging her desire for connection. The discussion reveals the intricate dynamics of father-child bonds, identity, and forgiveness. Themes of empathy surface as they explore the difficulty of breaking free from harmful patterns while striving for personal autonomy. The conversation highlights the complexity of love amidst the quest for healthier boundaries.

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May 20, 2024 • 38min
It Feels Like My Siblings Abandoned Me
A young woman shares her struggle with the burden of caring for aging parents while feeling abandoned by her older siblings. The conversation dives into complex family dynamics, exploring resentment, unexplored emotions, and the evolving roles each sibling plays. Issues of favoritism and the toll of caregiving during crises are unpacked, revealing deeper feelings of loneliness and longing for connection. The importance of empathy and heartfelt communication in nurturing familial bonds is also emphasized.

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May 13, 2024 • 1h 3min
Does Growing Up Mean Growing Apart?
Joining the conversation are three co-founders of a production company who have navigated the shift from childhood friends to business partners. They share intriguing insights on balancing individuality with collaboration, exploring how their unique roles shape their dynamics. The guests candidly discuss the emotional challenges of growing up, maintaining trust, and addressing unresolved issues within their creative partnerships. With Esther's guidance, they uncover the beauty of evolving relationships amidst the complexities of adulthood.


