Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Esther Calling - Four Affairs, Four Divorces. Why Do I Keep Doing This?
Jun 17, 2024
In this thought-provoking conversation, a caller grapples with the aftermath of four affairs and four divorces, searching for patterns that lead to her cycle of self-sabotage. Esther Perel guides her through the complexities of love, highlighting the push and pull between longing for connection and the desire for freedom. They explore the impact of past experiences on current relationships, the nuances of intimacy, and the burdens of unfulfilled expectations. Together, they seek paths to healthier relationships and the importance of communication.
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- The speaker uses affairs as escape routes from marriages, seeking empowerment and emotional support.
- Childhood trauma influences relationship patterns, highlighting struggles with love and lack of role models.
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The Cycle of Failed Relationships
The speaker reflects on her four divorces and recurring relationship patterns. Despite longing for a stable partnership, her marriages ended due to infidelity and abuse. Each marriage involved betrayal, leading to divorce. Even in her current affair, fear of repeating past patterns causes doubts about committing to a serious relationship.
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