Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Love the Child, Not the Father
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Oct 14, 2024 
Client 1 shares their intense journey of love, parenting, and emotional strife during the COVID lockdown. Feeling unsupported and overwhelmed, they navigate the treacherous waters of a relationship strained by unplanned parenthood. Esther Perel helps unpack the emotional complexities and power dynamics at play, emphasizing the need for flexibility and open communication. The conversation touches on breaking cycles of resentment and setting boundaries, ultimately highlighting the importance of maintaining individual identities while co-parenting.
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Accelerated Relationship and COVID Pregnancy
- The couple's relationship accelerated due to COVID lockdown and an unexpected pregnancy.
- The woman felt alone while making decisions about the pregnancy, despite the man's attempts to support her.
Prioritizing Others' Feelings
- Esther Perel observes that the woman's feeling of aloneness in decision-making reflects a larger pattern.
- She points out that the woman tends to prioritize others' feelings, leading to resentment and feeling unknown.
Shift in Attentiveness and Lockdown Impact
- Esther Perel notes the man's initial attentiveness shifted as the woman felt unsupported during pregnancy.
- The woman's past experiences of deprivation amplified the crisis, exacerbated by the lockdown.
