Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Esther Calling - You Are So Not Invited to My Wedding
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Oct 21, 2024 Navigating the tension between past and present relationships takes center stage. A young woman grapples with her fiancé's decision to invite her former abusive boss to their wedding. Emotional turmoil and authority struggles emerge, highlighting the complex dynamics of loyalty and boundaries. The conversation unpacks the intricacies of wedding guest lists and the importance of communication. With insights on emotional conflicts, it emphasizes empathy as essential for fostering understanding and resolving personal challenges.
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The Job Offer
- The caller met a French man in South Africa and, needing to move to Europe with him, boldly asked his employer for a job.
- The employer's manipulative behavior began with blurring professional boundaries and evolved into psychological abuse.
Differing Experiences & A Pattern
- The caller's fiancé wasn't targeted by the abusive employer, making it difficult for him to fully grasp the caller's trauma.
- The caller also recognizes a pattern of being bullied by women in authority positions, questioning her role in these dynamics.
Predator & Prey Dynamic
- Esther Perel points out that predators seek out prey, and prey often trust predators.
- She notes the caller's desire to please might be sensed and exploited, leading to a cycle of psychological coercive control and self-blame.