

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Esther Perel Global Media
Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.
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Apr 28, 2025 • 45min
Stuck Between My Daughter and My Husband
A mother grapples with the mounting tension between her husband and teenage daughter, feeling trapped in the middle. The conversation dives into the complexities of family dynamics, where accountability and blame often collide. Insights on how upbringing affects current conflicts are explored, alongside coping strategies to ease emotional turmoil. The discussion underlines the need for direct communication between parents, emphasizing that understanding and flexibility are essential for healthier relationships.

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Apr 14, 2025 • 1h 1min
I Can't Love You the Way You Want Me To
In this enlightening session, two individuals confront the turbulent waters of their relationship, revealing deep-seated communication issues and emotional scars. They explore the complexities of love, discussing the importance of appreciation and understanding each other’s love languages. Esther Perel guides them through their conflicts, emphasizing the need for vulnerability and intentional dialogue. As they reflect on personal anecdotes and the impact of past experiences, listeners gain insight into breaking destructive patterns and fostering a healthier connection.

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Apr 7, 2025 • 44min
Do You Love Me for Me or For What I Do for You?
Dive into the emotional labyrinth of self-worth and connection in relationships. A Southern preacher grapples with feelings of being 'too much' while seeking authentic love. Explore how childhood experiences shape adult dynamics and the importance of vulnerability in building meaningful connections. These reflections challenge societal expectations and emphasize the need for clear communication of desires. Engage in a moment of self-awareness, addressing inner child wounds and recognizing the significance of care and support.

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Mar 31, 2025 • 47min
To Forgive My Ex-Husband I Need to Forgive Myself First
A young divorcée grapples with anger and frustration as she navigates co-parenting with her ex-husband. They discuss the emotional challenges stemming from past traumas and the intricacies of communication that strain their relationship. Self-forgiveness emerges as a critical theme in healing and fostering healthier connections. The conversation delves into the cycle of blame and personal responsibility, emphasizing the need for reflection to break negative patterns. Ultimately, it's about evolving communication to support their children's well-being.

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Mar 24, 2025 • 1h
You are Vocal on the Criticism But Silent on the Compliments
In this insightful discussion, a couple grapples with feelings of abandonment and isolation while raising their family. The wife feels neglected, while the husband struggles to meet both familial and personal demands. They share the emotional turmoil arising from their disconnect, highlighting the importance of appreciation, communication, and mutual understanding. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-care to nurture both the couple's relationship and their children's well-being, as they seek to rewrite their family narrative.

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Mar 17, 2025 • 55min
Esther Perel Invites Us to Imagine Our Preferred Future
In a thought-provoking conversation, Amy Webb, CEO of the Future Today Institute and renowned futurist, teams up with former Google executive Frederik Pferdt, an innovation expert. They discuss how today's technological trends shape our relationships for tomorrow. The pair explores the tension between excitement for AI advancements and anxiety about job displacement. They also emphasize the importance of storytelling, emotional engagement, and cultivating empathy to navigate uncertainty, all while envisioning a balanced, preferred future.

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Mar 3, 2025 • 44min
No Longer Daddy's Little Girl
A woman grapples with the pain of being estranged from her father for two years while trying to navigate her own identity and future family plans. The conversation dives deep into the emotional complexities of familial estrangement, highlighting the influence of parental relationships on personal growth. Financial dynamics and the weight of past conflicts surface, revealing how childhood experiences shape adult perspectives. This heartfelt discussion encourages self-discovery and the importance of chosen family in the healing journey.

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Feb 24, 2025 • 36min
I Can Break up with Him But I'm Still Stuck With Myself
A woman grapples with the complexities of her long-distance relationship, contemplating whether to end it. Esther helps her explore fears of intimacy, rejection, and deep-seated family dynamics. The conversation reveals the struggle between seeking emotional safety and desiring connection. They discuss the impact of loneliness, emotional vulnerability, and the importance of articulating personal needs. Ultimately, they focus on self-acceptance and breaking free from guilt, empowering her to seek closer relationships and embrace her true self.

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Feb 10, 2025 • 59min
When the Turn On Becomes a Turn Off
A couple opens up about their shifting sexual preferences after 15 years of marriage. Explore how trust, intimacy, and vulnerability fuel their fantasies. Disturbingly, one partner’s fetish has become a turn-off for the other. The discussion underscores the emotional needs tied to sexual desires and the importance of mutual understanding. Learn how to deepen emotional connections while navigating complex dynamics in long-term relationships, emphasizing curiosity and openness for a more fulfilling intimate life.

Feb 3, 2025 • 42min
I'm Keeping the Baby...Now What?
A woman grapples with the profound complexities of an unexpected pregnancy following a whirlwind romance and a breakup. As she seeks guidance from Esther Perel, they explore the emotional turmoil of choosing to keep the baby despite feeling rejected. The conversation navigates the dynamics of control and manipulation, the importance of communication in co-parenting, and the personal growth that can emerge from such turbulent experiences. Together, they illuminate paths forward in the face of uncertainty and conflicting emotions.


