The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

On today's episode I chat with Patricia Rich about Self Led Sexuality. Patricia is a certified IFS Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. She brings her expertise, her vulnerability, and her warmth to teach us about this new model based on IFS. I had to get a few of my parts to settle down before this episode. I speak for some of them at the beginning, like my giggling Middle School part and my 'Don't say too much personal stuff!' part. Patricia and I spend the first 30 minutes on process and connection and the last half on content. We talk a lot about 'internal consent' and the importance of knowing, hearing from and being with your own parts. You may find you also need to work with your own parts as you listen to the episode. I appreciate Patricia's gentle care and check in's with me and the listener throughout. My favorite part of this episode is towards the end when Patricia pulls it all together with how the six S's of Sexual Self Energy help us assess for Self leadership. Then, she teaches how we can use the 6 F's of IFS to get to know the parts of us who get 'between' us and the S's. It will all make sense! Patricia says when we do this work, the shift in ourselves is revolutionary and worth it. Find out more about Patricia here Email Patricia at prich@relatingwellcenter.com Look forward to her upcoming Self Led Sexuality Facebook group! Check out the IFS Institute's Continuity Program here Come say HI to me @Ifstammy on Instagram and The One Inside Facebook page. Enjoy!

On today's episode, Leslie Petruk, Assistant Trainer with the IFS Institute and I get real and honest about parenting. Leslie is a parenting EXPERT- I'm thrilled to have her on the show!  I don't know anyone who is not struggling in this area right now and am just so thankful to Leslie for sharing her Self and her wisdom. I hope you walk away feeling hopeful and empowered. Let me know what your parenting intention is at The One Inside Facebook page or @IFSTammy on Instagram. I share mine in the intro. Parenting revolution- Free Parenting Videos from Derek Scott's IFSCA (ifsca.ca). This is HOT off the presses- I can't wait to dive in.  Email Leslie to find out more about upcoming workshops and keep abreast about her upcoming book, "Oh My God, I Sound Just Like My Mother" at leslie.petruk@gmail.com Join the IN-Sight parenting: Compassionate Parenting from the Inside Out page on Facebook Check out the Parenting course led by Leslie with the IFS Institute Enjoy!

Marushka Glissen, an assistant trainer with the IFS Institute is returning to the podcast to talk about one of her other passions, marriage (See episode 33 for our first chat about Legacy Burdens). Here is a bit of an outline of the show: 1. Gratitude towards partner (esp during Covid) 2. Appreciation of partner (again, Covid) 3. Complications in 2nd marriages and blended families 4. Adult children dealing with intense feelings of loss and avoidance parts (We pause to deal with my parts who are triggered... this is about 23-28 min mark.  5. Guilty parts in 2nd marriages 6. 'Do you want to be right or do you want to experience closeness and love' 7. Using phrases "In my opinion"/"From my perspective" 8. Partners often ask us to stretch... we are better for it 9. Seeing pain (exile) behind partners 'a-hole' behaviors (protector) 10. How to stay when it is really hard? Or separate in a connected way. 11. Five practical tips on communication (about 50 min) 12. Embracing the Suck (the parts of my partner I don't like) 13. Be Curious, Not Furious I share way too much personal information in this episode- about my family of origin (a blended family) and about my marriage. I took a long time editing this and checking with my parts about how comfortable they felt putting this out there. So, here it is. I may take it down immediately ;) Marushka's website entitled Relationship Visions Enjoy!

Welcome back! Here we are - season 2. On today's episode, I chat with Leon Silvers, founder of Drag Therapy and STAR of Drag Heals (well, he is the star of epi 2, season 2). I'm curious how your parts reacted to the title of this episode. I imagine some of your parts are like, 'What is that?' And some are like, 'Oh, gosh.' And some are like, 'How fun!' I hope you can be with all those parts, those voices inside, and listen to this episode. I promise it is FULL of creativity and energy and fun. I was surprised about what Drag therapy is and what it isn't. I was surprised by how open and creative I began to feel just talking to Leon.  Here are some of the gems inside the episode: - Expansive play (how this helps me appreciate one of my critics) - Freedom and creativity - Opening up to all the parts inside - Power of embodying parts and giving them voice - Using fiction to allow 'managers' to loosen up (Meet my manager Tom the lawyer who is dressed in a suit- about 20 min mark) - Wilderness therapy and playing with 'category' (about 40 min mark) Check out: Leon's website Drag therapy website Leon's episode of Drag Heals (season 2, epi 2), coming out in October TED talk with Amy Cuddy about the Superman pose (part of me thinks there may have been some controversy around her after this?) Need some help with your website? Check out a special deal for The One Inside listeners here Enjoy (and welcome back!)    

Tom Holmes, author of 'Parts Work: An Illustrated Guide to Your Inner Life', discusses the power of parts cards in IFS therapy, integrating spirituality into therapy, and the importance of self-connection for inner peace and world peace. He shares insights on personal growth, healing historical trauma, and the transformative effects of engaging with inner guides. Tom's journey with IFS highlights the significance of self-awareness and self-leadership in creating lasting change.

On today's episode, the final for honoring minority mental health month, I talk with Nydia Guity, an IFS therapist, podcaster, writer, and natural hair enthusiast. I had no idea ("but didn't I?," says a part) the 'emotional baggage that comes with hair,' whatever your race, culture, or background. Nydia shares her story- her parents are originally from Honduras and celebrate the Garifuna culture, she grew up in NYC speaking Spanish as her first language, went to college in Vermont, and currently lives in Atlanta. I appreciate her vulnerability and openness as we connect. I ask a lot of dumb white girl questions. Parts of me are embarrassed and I wanted to erase them all.... but I did not. We talk about moms and hair (do you have a mom and hair story? I do too!). We talk about how personal development is a process that does not end and how working with our parts helps tolerate polarizations (all or nothing). We talk about the question, 'What does it mean to be right?' And we talk about hair and all the messages, stigma, and complexities that come along with it. Check out Nydia's website where you can find her writings and podcast! A new deal from brighter vision for The One Inside listeners here!   Enjoy-

On today's episode I speak with Radhalisa Zarzuela and Deran Young. Radha and Deran met at a level one IFS training in Harlem, NY. Radha shares her story with us which is touching and courageous. I felt inspired by her and think you will too. We talk about 'rules' which may come from our cultures and the legacy burdens we carry. We talk about "code switching" as a person of color. We talk about the impact of domestic violence and the power of coming out of this with "trauma residue" and with a strong voice. And we talk about being in the Miss America pageant (I bet you didn't think I was going to say that!).  This may be the last in the minority mental health series for this month! I hope you have been encouraged and challenged. Enjoy!

On today's episode I speak with Requina and Deran who share their different stories and life experiences. Requina is the friend Deran mentions in our first podcast so I am excited she was able to join today. Requina Barnes, LICSW specializes in relationships, attachment and trauma. Through her Boston, MA private practice, she works primarily with men, women, and couples of color. Requina is a member of the Foundation for Self Leadership Board of Directors. And she is the VP of the BTR Board of Directors. She is available for IFS consultation and supervision- her email is strengthinc4@gmail.com Deran Young, LCSW, is the Founder of Black Therapists Rock, an organization that includes over 20,000 professionals committed to reducing intergenerational trauma in marginalized communities. Earlier this year, she was personally recruited by Brene Brown to consult on the inclusiveness of her current Belonging Statement and to inspire other corporate leaders to operationalize diversity in their organizational practices and policies. It is eye opening and interesting, and I definitely walked away with a trailhead or two. To find out more about Black Therapists Rock click here Enjoy!  

On today's episode, I speak with Deran Young, President and CEO of Black Therapists Rock and the IFS Institute's Online Ambassador. We met to record this at the beginning of May. We were still feeling the isolation and challenge of Covid-19 and George Floyd was still alive. We had no idea what was to come. I'm thrilled and honored to give you the first of four episodes devoted to Minority Mental Health Awareness. Today is some of Deran's story- why she created BTR, her experience as a military psychotherapist, the challenge of dealing with divorce, health issues, and becoming a single mother, and her introduction to IFS. She talks about the origins of her younger 'self esteem' part and the freedom and power of unburdening and healing her. And so much more.  She is funny and kind and fun and lovely. I'm glad we are going to get 3 more hours (at least!) with her this month. Here is what Deran is reading: You are a Badass at Making Money A Framework for Understanding Poverty Dare To Lead To get more info about BTR: Black Therapists Rock Find the incredible work Deran did around her own legacy burden here: Deran and Dick Legacy Burden demo New Deal for The One Inside Listeners from Brighter Vision here! Enjoy!

Dr. Ed Yeats and I chat about IFS, Shamanism, and Tibetan Buddhism. Weaved into our conversation from beginning to end is attunement and synchronicity. We attune to our parts, to one another, to nature, to our own spiritual journey. Synchronicity is an interesting and fascinating part of our journey. This is a long one so here is a bit of an outline: 1. Tuning in, like to stations of a radio 2. "I'm still an oak tree." 3. From spiritual seeker to finder: American Shamanism, Soul Retrieval, and Soul Loss  4. IFS is a form of Shamanism 5. Exposure to IFS- can't help loving it 6. Power animals 7. Self as the Shaman. Guides and Guidance. 8. God, Self, Parts or Guides? 9. Ed's information Last 20 plus minutes: 10. Parallels between IFS and Tibetan Buddhism 11. Spiritual Bypassing 12. Our own beliefs systems impact on the work 13. What I said to Dick when we were alone in a hallway for about 10 seconds (this was a few years ago before he and I did our podcast) Enjoy! Listen to Ed on The Noble Mind Podcast here: https://noblemindpodcast.com/14-ed-yeats/ Check out Derek Scott's Master Class list for Ed's upcoming workshop here: https://ifsca.ca/workshops/ Get the full workshop with Dick Schwartz and Lama John Makransky here: https://ifs-institute.com/store/205 and a little teaser of that event here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8PMPjVOTknE