The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

On today's episode I share my experiences with my own system on a tough day. You will hear from my parts who like to be dramatic and exaggerate. You will hear from the parts who respond to this with eye rolling and twitching. And, you will hear how sometimes just sitting in the middle of a sidewalk is the best choice. You will hear my dog's squeaky toy in the background over and over again. You don't want to miss this ;) Enjoy!

On today's episode I speak with lead trainer with the IFS Institute, Susan McConnell. Susan recently published a new book on Somatic IFS and it may be my new favorite IFS book. Here is an outline (all of the times are 'ish') Check in- Meditation- 11-16:00 Reconnecting Mind and Body, what disconnects us? - 25:00  Importance of Embodying Self- 33:00 Witnessing through the Body- 38:00 Body Systems- 43:00 The Elements- 55:00 At the end of each podcast I ask guests if there is anything else they want to cover. Typically, I cut this out but I LOVE how Susan processes this question so I left it in - 62:00 I start crying at the end too... oh boy. I loved the meditation so much I made a separate podcast for that. Thinking you (and I!) can revisit that again and again. Want more? Get her book "Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy: Awareness, Breath, Resonance, Movement and Touch in Practice." IFS Talks Podcast had Susan on twice. Check them out here Susan's website here UPCOMING IFS Masterclass hosted by Derek Scott with Susan on February 12 here I would love to hear from you on The One Inside Facebook page and @ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter. Enjoy!

Susan McConnell, a practitioner of Somatic IFS, explores somatic awareness, tension release, and conscious breathing in this podcast. The session includes a somatic meditation focusing on body awareness and contact points, fostering relaxation, presence, and deeper connection with the environment.

On today's episode I chat with IFS Practitioner Milena Worsham as she shares her incredible story of growing up biracial in Texas. Milena is a master story teller and I was drawn in from the beginning. I had this sensation of leaning in close as she spoke. She states, "I grew up believing I was white.... This is a protection for the family... White is a protection. It is safe." The first half of the episode is her and her family's story. The second half is about her connection to feminism and the performing arts. We talk about the womb and the legacy burdens we take on in the womb. We talk about family loyalty and family secrets. We talk about what we are 'allowed' to be as women. I am not going to be able to tell you or share with you here the power of her story and her voice! I decided to sum it all up with the "Belonging." Just listen! I think you will walk about feeling moved and empowered. Check out Milena's website to learn more about her. You can email her at milenaworsham@gmail.com. Come say Hi to me at The One Inside Facebook page or @ifstammy on Instagram or Twitter. I would love to hear from you. Enjoy!

On today's episode I chat with Paul Neustadt, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute. Paul has such a warm, engaging teaching style and I just loved our conversation. Paul's answer to the last question, "What would you do instead?" may be my new life goal or at least a daily intention. Here is a bit of an outline: 1. Create our own inner circle - when you have a hard time accessing compassion (or Self) 2. Impacts of individualism (our culture) on our parts 3. Tapping into our own inner wisdom 4. The Gifts of our Exiles 5. Paul demonstrates Direct Access with one of my manager parts 6. Degrees of Blending 7. Inviting exiles (the younger parts of us) to 'tune into their true nature, who they really are' 8. Relational Heart Based Activism 9. When Self energy seems impossible. "What is this thing called Self and how do I get it!?" You can email Paul at probneus@gmail.com for information about the Challenges of Applying IFS: Mastering the Basics Seminar which runs about 8 months once a year. Please subscribe, like, comment- all the things to the podcast. The podcast is now on YouTube! Don't forget to come say HI to me @ifstammy on Instagram- and now on Twitter! - and The One Inside Facebook page. Enjoy!

On today's episode I chat with Laura Schmidt who bravely shares her story of a "life changing event" with openness and vulnerability. It is heartbreaking and inspiring. It is a story of acceptance and hope, of yielding and the need for patience. There are many parallels between the lessons she learned over the past decade and many of our own struggles with the Covid Pandemic. Put your pens down on this one and notice your parts- your sensations, your feelings, and your thoughts. Notice and be with, letting those parts feel your presence and attention as you begin to befriend whatever comes up. Laura has been a Certified IFS therapist for 10 years. She is a PESI Seminar Speaker, Approved Consultant for IFS Certification, and an AAMFT Supervisor. She loves teaching IFS and leading workshops, consultation, and process groups. She is committed to supporting healers doing their own work so they can be more Self-led, effective and energized. -------- Laura's website here Or check out https://lauraschmidtlmft.com/ Laura's Caring Bridge site here Join Laura for Pause for Calm and Connection 1st Wed of each month at noon PT. Sign up on her website. Email Laura at Laura@lauraschmidtlmft.com Join Laura's Facebook page Laura Schmidt LMFT and on Instagram @ pausewithlaura. ----- *Laura would love to hear from you after you listen to the podcast. Let her know which of your parts resonated with her story.* And, of course, join The One Inside Facebook group and follow me @ifstammy. I'll see you there. Enjoy!

Derek Scott, an IFS expert, shares insights on internal parts like perfectionism and the impact of seeking approval. The episode discusses internal family systems, emotional numbing, inner child healing, and generational patterns, emphasizing the role of IFS therapy in personal growth and self-understanding.

On today's episode I chat with Patricia Rich about Self Led Sexuality. Patricia is a certified IFS Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. She brings her expertise, her vulnerability, and her warmth to teach us about this new model based on IFS. I had to get a few of my parts to settle down before this episode. I speak for some of them at the beginning, like my giggling Middle School part and my 'Don't say too much personal stuff!' part. Patricia and I spend the first 30 minutes on process and connection and the last half on content. We talk a lot about 'internal consent' and the importance of knowing, hearing from and being with your own parts. You may find you also need to work with your own parts as you listen to the episode. I appreciate Patricia's gentle care and check in's with me and the listener throughout. My favorite part of this episode is towards the end when Patricia pulls it all together with how the six S's of Sexual Self Energy help us assess for Self leadership. Then, she teaches how we can use the 6 F's of IFS to get to know the parts of us who get 'between' us and the S's. It will all make sense! Patricia says when we do this work, the shift in ourselves is revolutionary and worth it. Find out more about Patricia here Email Patricia at prich@relatingwellcenter.com Look forward to her upcoming Self Led Sexuality Facebook group! Check out the IFS Institute's Continuity Program here Come say HI to me @Ifstammy on Instagram and The One Inside Facebook page. Enjoy!

On today's episode, Leslie Petruk, Assistant Trainer with the IFS Institute and I get real and honest about parenting. Leslie is a parenting EXPERT- I'm thrilled to have her on the show!  I don't know anyone who is not struggling in this area right now and am just so thankful to Leslie for sharing her Self and her wisdom. I hope you walk away feeling hopeful and empowered. Let me know what your parenting intention is at The One Inside Facebook page or @IFSTammy on Instagram. I share mine in the intro. Parenting revolution- Free Parenting Videos from Derek Scott's IFSCA (ifsca.ca). This is HOT off the presses- I can't wait to dive in.  Email Leslie to find out more about upcoming workshops and keep abreast about her upcoming book, "Oh My God, I Sound Just Like My Mother" at leslie.petruk@gmail.com Join the IN-Sight parenting: Compassionate Parenting from the Inside Out page on Facebook Check out the Parenting course led by Leslie with the IFS Institute Enjoy!

Marushka Glissen, an assistant trainer with the IFS Institute is returning to the podcast to talk about one of her other passions, marriage (See episode 33 for our first chat about Legacy Burdens). Here is a bit of an outline of the show: 1. Gratitude towards partner (esp during Covid) 2. Appreciation of partner (again, Covid) 3. Complications in 2nd marriages and blended families 4. Adult children dealing with intense feelings of loss and avoidance parts (We pause to deal with my parts who are triggered... this is about 23-28 min mark.  5. Guilty parts in 2nd marriages 6. 'Do you want to be right or do you want to experience closeness and love' 7. Using phrases "In my opinion"/"From my perspective" 8. Partners often ask us to stretch... we are better for it 9. Seeing pain (exile) behind partners 'a-hole' behaviors (protector) 10. How to stay when it is really hard? Or separate in a connected way. 11. Five practical tips on communication (about 50 min) 12. Embracing the Suck (the parts of my partner I don't like) 13. Be Curious, Not Furious I share way too much personal information in this episode- about my family of origin (a blended family) and about my marriage. I took a long time editing this and checking with my parts about how comfortable they felt putting this out there. So, here it is. I may take it down immediately ;) Marushka's website entitled Relationship Visions Enjoy!