The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

On today's episode, I chat with Ty Cutner, an IFS Informed Relationship and Image Coach who has a passion for working with men. Ty will be hosting two panels with the Heirloom Summit. You may know Ty from a Demo he did with Dick which is on the  Continuity Program in the IFS Diversity and Inclusion workshop.  Link to the Demo HERE! If that link does not work try this one :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Al7jnW-Z08w&feature=youtu.be I just want to note how HUGE it is that Dick (and Sara Oberg at the IFS Institute!) allowed us to have access to this link. We talk about the polarizations from the demo and what has happened in his system since then. Ty is vulnerable and his story is painful and beautiful. It is full of hope and motivation. Ty continues to talk about his younger exiles throughout this episode. And, I continue to ASK- I have STRONG mothering parts who WILL NOT UNBLEND. I still notice them as I interact with Ty even now. Ty talks about his experience and lessons learned with an ice bath in Maine. Our internet connection is not the best during this story which is about the first 8 minutes of the episode.... it gets better. Around the 30 minute mark Ty shares his thoughts about racism. At the 40 minutes mark we talk about how Ty is coaching men on their image and shares his own discovery of why image is so important. Ty talks about The Gentlemen's Factory, a social club for men of color where he's a founding member in Brooklyn, NY. Connect with Ty on Instagram and Facebook or on Ty's Image Coach Website I'd love to connect with you @ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on Facebook at The One Inside Facebook page. To register for the Heirloom Summit and receive a discount as a listener of TOI go to http://bit.ly/theoneinside Enjoy!

On today's episode, I talk with Francesca Maxime', an IFS informed powerhouse! Her passion is contagious and my hope is that you will take one of the MANY resources and challenges she gives to 'accept your assignment' while giving ALL of your parts (including your racist parts) compassion and care.  One of my favorite quotes: "We are all breathing carbon monoxide which is racism and think we are breathing oxygen... it does sicken over time." Check out her website here: https://www.maximeclarity.com/ Check out her podcast here: https://beherenownetwork.com/category/francesca-maxime/ Check out her upcoming talk on Active Mourning: Active Mourning: Transforming Grief, Loss, Longing, and Resentment | InsightLA Meditation To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get a special discount as a listener of the podcast: http://bit.ly/theoneinside I'd love to connect with you at ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page. Enjoy!

On today's episode I connect with Dr. Virginia Seewaldt. Virginia and I talk about (in order): - Living in NYC and coping with Covid - Her experience with IFS and her passion for racial justice - Whiteness as the 'norm' - Pantsuit Nation Facebook Story and 'centering the voices of color' - Listening and learning about our own Prejudices - White Fragility - Whiteness and Privilege - Worry about 'saying it wrong' is still centering 'me' - What we do from here and having compassion for all of our parts It is a bit long, but it is good! It was a connected, warm and engaging conversation. For more information about Virginia: https://racialliteracygroups.com/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/virginia-seewaldt-new-york-ny/61162 To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get a special discount as a listener of the podcast: http://bit.ly/theoneinside I'd love to connect with you at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page. Enjoy!

On today's episode, I chat with Steve Spitzer and Glenn Williams. Steve, Emeritus Professor of Sociology at Suffolk University in Boston, has taught, researched, and written on crime, justice and social control for three decades. He is Level 2 IFS trained and has presented his use of the IFS model inside prisons at multiple IFS annual conferences and has written articles in the IFS newsletter, The Outlook. In 2002, he founded the Jericho Circle Project, a non-profit organization that seeks to 'bring down the walls' by creating men's support groups in correctional facilities.  Since the project began, almost 1000 incarcerated men have sat in Jericho Circles in county, state, and federal correctional institutions in Massachusetts, Maine, and Rhode Island. Glenn participated in the Jericho groups when he was incarcerated for 21 years and later met Steve in a different context. Glenn now 'pays it forward' with his organization, Our House Boston. Glenn is Level One IFS trained and is passionate about spreading the word about our True Essence, especially to black men in urban settings. Glenn is a reentry advocate and community investor who works with various individuals, families, organizations and businesses to raise awareness about and create solutions to the challenges of incarceration and prisoner reintegration. This conversation is AMAZING. I cannot convey this in words. Here are some themes: 'Self' Discovery Masculinity Men's work inside prisons, power of vulnerability, and speaking for parts 'Climbing out of the man box'/Taking off masks The importance of power in manliness for Black Men Glenn states, "Who I pretend to be (what my community and society says I need to be in order to survive) and my Essence are not the same thing." And, "IFS offers the opportunity for Self Discovery and Self Exploration (inside and outside of prison). Discovering that my shame and guilt are parts of me and do not have to define who I am at my core." To find more about Jericho circle go to https://jerichocircle.org/ Check out this 90 minute documentary on the nature of their group work that was filmed at California State Prison Sacramento. That film, produced by the group that initially mentored them in the work (Inside Circle), will give you a taste of the kind of work done (albeit at a somewhat higher level of intensity than is typical of Jericho Circle’s groups) on their weekends. Video is found here: https://www.topic.com/the-work To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get a special discount as a listener of the podcast: http://bit.ly/theoneinside I'd love to connect with you at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page. Enjoy!

On today's episode, I chat with Dr. Frank Anderson, a superstar in the IFS and Trauma world. You may know him as a lead trainer at the IFS Institute, by his PESI workshops, or as the co-author of the IFS Skills Training Manual. He is a psychiatrist and psychotherapist, and I assumed we would talk about meds and neurotransmitters. I was wrong. Frank is personal, engaging, and hilarious. He shares a lot of his own story and is vulnerable and real.  I decided to leave in our entire conversation (instead of cutting out some of the beginning bits) because you get a feel for him right from the start. We talk about Spirituality and the integration with Science and Research. We talk about LGBTQ plus, lots about complex trauma, and we touch on parenting and substance use. We talk about psychedelics, mediums, and ascended masters (I had to look that up afterwards). It is a wild ride.  Frank's website is here To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get a special discount as a listener of the podcast: https://www.blacktherapistsrock.com/Products/Products.aspx I'd love to connect with you at ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page. Please take care... and enjoy!  

On today's episode I chat with Heidi Lindeman, a level 3 trained IFS therapist who is passionate about helping others transform their relationship with suicidal parts. Heidi shares her own incredible story of suffering with suicidal thoughts, obsessions, and images for years and the healing transformation she made when she began to listen to these parts and relate to them differently. Heidi's website is here Heidi's YouTube channel is here To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get a special discount as a listener of the podcast: https://www.blacktherapistsrock.com/Products/Products.aspx I'd love to connect with you at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and at The One Inside Facebook Page. Enjoy!

On today's episode I chat with Jay Earley, a popular IFS teacher who authored the book, "Self Therapy" and who leads ongoing IFS courses and groups. Our chat can be broken up into 3 sections- 1. His story, and similarities and differences between what he teaches and what Dick teaches. He shares his take on unblending and inner critics. He shares his 'GPS of the mind' program. He states, "I am not competing with IFS." 2.  Capacity Development- What are the 'capacities of Self' to be developed and discovered? 3. "The Great Turning"--- "Inner work for the world" Here is the website to ALL the things Jay offers: https://personal-growth-programs.com/ This is the online tool we discussed: https://selftherapyjourney.com/ I would love to hear what you think the 'Capacity' is for the word I am trying to find in the middle of the episode. The word was 'Scarcity,' and I MEANT to ask Jay what he thought the capacity was but got lost in trying to find the word! Let me know if you can help me out on this one @ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and The One Inside Facebook Page.  I will see you there. Enjoy!

On today's episode, I chat with Dorothea Hrossowyc and Ingrid Helander.  Ingrid and Dorothea along with Tyler Haaren, Joya Lonsdale, Julia Sullivan, and Paula Shulman led a workshop on "Healing Racism From the Inside Out, Unburdening our Parts around Race and Racism", at the 2016 IFS Annual Conference,  and were a part of the plenary session, along with Tyler, Joya and Donna Dellal-Ferme at the 2017 IFS Annual Conference titled Self-Led Activism. Releasing Your Inner Change Agent.  I encourage you to listen and observe your own parts' reactions. Use these as trailheads to do your own work and meet the younger parts of you who hold pain. We talk about this book a lot-- check out this article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-author-speaks/201709/my-grandmother-s-hands They share their own personal stories and their experiences working with their racist parts. What is said over and over is the power of the model to heal, and the importance of following the trailheads of our own racism to get to our exiles and our own ancestors and legacy burdens. We talk about so much- indigenous peoples, polyvagal theory, classism, capitalism, grief and shame. And, we laugh... I promise.  Read about The Dakota 38 here Ingrid has an ebook/workbook that uses IFS and Polyvagel theory to help people with chronic worry. It is found at www.calmyourworries.com  She also will be offering a mastermind membership in 2021 to help people move from worry and self-doubt to calm self-confidence. For more information, sign up for her newsletter at Ingrid's website Dorothea is available to work with you around Unburdening our Racists Parts or Parts Affected by Racism. She also offers workshops on Working with Anxiety to Release Unconscious Limiting Thoughts, Working with Anger or Angry Parts as a Powerful Tool, Setting your Internal GPS... Your I-GPS, and Healing Parts around Boundaries. Find out more about Dorothea and her offerings at her website here We talk about several handouts which you can get by contacting her. Email her to receive "The Concrete Work of Eliminating Your Racism" which is a list of trailheads at hrossowyc@gmail.com. And, as always, come say Hi to me @ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter or at The One Inside Facebook page. I love hearing from you. Enjoy.

On today's episode, I chat with Joan Ryan, an internationally recognized Enneagram expert and Leadership coach. Fortunately for our community, Joan is also Level One Trained in IFS.  I have been looking for someone to talk to me about IFS and the Enneagram and was beyond thrilled when I found Joan.  Joan is a type 9 and I am a type 3 so we talk about these types a lot. We also talk a bit about type 8s. Whether you are new to the enneagram or not, I think you will find our conversation interesting and informative. Like me, you may walk away with a desire to know more! Find out more about Joan and get her amazing "Help me find my enneagram type' card set on her website here Email Joan at joanrryan@gmail.com Join her Facebook page Enneagram Learning with Joan Ryan I'd love to hear what your type is and chat with you about the enneagram and IFS- thoughts, ideas, wonderings, etc. on Instagram and Twitter @ifstammy and The One Inside Facebook Page. Enjoy!

On today's episode I talk with Jenna Riemersma, author of the book, "Altogether You: Experiencing personal and spiritual transformation with Internal Family Systems Therapy." Jenna states, "IFS helps deliver what my faith tradition promises."  I love the concept of the "Spiritualizing part" who uses God language but has a feeling of moving away and not moving towards. We talk about Self being the God image inside us all, and the idea of thinking about sin as the burden of trauma. Jenna talks about restoration; the restoration of our parts with our Self. She talks directly to you, dear listener. If you come from a faith background and have parts who think IFS is a wacky cult. If you are here to talk IFS and have been wounded by the church. This episode- and her incredible book- are for you. Jenna's website here  Dick's interview with Jenna here (This is AMAZING!) Let me know how you are! I LOVE hearing from you.... At the One Inside Facebook Page and @ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter. Enjoy!