
Unshamed & Unchained: Carving Space For Self-Healing & Habit Transformation
Welcome to "Unshamed & Unchained: Carving Space For Self-Healing & Habit Transformation", the podcast where we break the chains of shame and societal expectations to create a safe space for self-healing, habit transformation, and personal growth. Hosted by a seasoned life coach, Danny Poelman DDS, with years of hands-on experience, this podcast is your guide to reclaiming your voice, embracing your story, and living life on your terms.In each episode, we dive deep into the topics that matter most to you—whether it's:-breaking free from unwanted habits like pornography-excessive people-pleasing-healing from past trauma-recovering from narcissistic abuse or religious/relational trauma-anxiety/depression-money mindset blocks-overcoming limiting beliefsWe’re not afraid to talk about the things that are often considered taboo, because we believe that through honest, unfiltered conversations, real transformation happens.You’ll hear real client stories that illustrate the power of this work—stories of struggle, resilience, and ultimate triumph. We explore what works, drawing from practical strategies and proven techniques that have helped countless individuals achieve lasting change. Each episode is a blend of inspiration, actionable insights, and heartfelt guidance, all aimed at helping you carve out the space you need for your own healing and transformation.This podcast is for those who are ready to step into their power, shed the weight of shame, and unapologetically embrace who they are. Whether you're looking to heal old wounds, build healthier habits, or simply create more love and fulfillment in your life, "Unshamed & Unchained" is here to support you on that journey.So tune in, start listening right away, and let’s carve out the space you need to become the best version of yourself—unshamed, unchained, and unstoppable.
Latest episodes

Oct 6, 2023 • 20min
43. Lessons From a Client Coaching Session
One of the lessons being that quitting a porn habit doesn’t have to be a big, hard, dark, serious thing.It can actually be fun, easy, light, humorous and completely doable.Tune into the How to Stop Looking at Porn podcast, with Danny Poelman, now to hear what other lessons were uncovered in this real life coaching session.Available wherever you get your podcasts.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Sep 29, 2023 • 37min
42. How to Decide More Powerfully
To make decisions powerfully (which is required to learn to quit porn for good), understanding these 4 parts of you that come up in decision-making will make all the difference.We are talking about these 4 parts:-Lower brain-Upper brain-Intuition (body)-Consciousness (you), awareness, power to exercise agency, or willWhen you understand the strengths and weaknesses of the parts of your brain, and learn to become aware of which parts are doing what, you will be enabled to make decisions even more powerfully.Listen to the full episode now (wherever you get your podcasts) and access more power within you right away.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Sep 22, 2023 • 30min
41. Why Go Toward Triggers For Pornography
Most people trying to quit a pornography habit for good do it by trying to avoid situations where they may have access to porn or be triggered to have urges to view it.It's time to understand why you should go toward those triggers (and access) for pornography. But only if you want to experience true freedom from this thing called "pornography."Tune in to this episode now to learn more.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Sep 8, 2023 • 24min
40. The Solution Exists
How do you approach a problem if you don’t believe there is a solution to it?How to recognize this mentality and the different forms it might show up in.Why Voldemort wanted the Horcruxes to remain a secret.Addressing the roots of the weed rather than just continually cutting the top off, only to find it growing back again and again.What happens when we really clear out these limiting beliefs and lean into believing a solution exists, and staying engaged with solving it.The solution is more readily available than you think it is. Is more doable, more easy, more fun, and more energizing than you might realize.How to identify clear next steps for you to implement a powerful mindset shift, leading to actual solutions.Your KNOWING is the key.The solution is available now.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Aug 30, 2023 • 41min
39. Seeing Your Goodness is Key
What chains are we breaking today?The message “I’m bad.” Where does this come from? Does it help to think this way?What helps create forward movement for you?In this episode, I’m talking about a message that, if you are like a lot of us, you have probably internalized (whether on purpose or not).And it just might be holding you back.A couple client examples of transformation/possibility.Some personal experiences of mine.An invitation for you to up level your life in this way, using this lesson, starting today.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Aug 16, 2023 • 37min
38. The Shame/Power Balance Revealed
The podcast explores the limitations of AI in providing advice for quitting a porn habit. It highlights the importance of addressing mistakes and doing the work oneself. The hosts discuss the relationship between shame and power, challenging the belief that more shame leads to more motivation to change. They emphasize the power of acceptance and reducing shame to access unlimited potential for positive change.

Aug 11, 2023 • 14min
37. Three Problems with Attaching the “need” for Self-improvement to Your Porn Habit
This podcast explores the problems of attaching self-improvement to a porn habit. It discusses the impact of this attachment on goals and reflects on the hunger for growth. The episode suggests detaching self-improvement from a porn habit and focusing on personal growth and learning instead.

Aug 2, 2023 • 24min
36. Tracing Back Your Decisions About Your Habit
This podcast discusses the automatic nature of habitual behavior around porn and the role of dopamine in forming these patterns. It highlights the importance of guiding the lower brain with the upper brain when making decisions about porn. The concept of the 'wheel c mentality' is explored, emphasizing the need to trace back when the decision to view porn occurs in order to regain control. Progress, increased productivity, and purpose are also discussed in relation to quitting porn.

Jul 19, 2023 • 28min
35. How to Handle Urges/Cravings
Learn how to interact with feelings in a more empowering way to quit a porn habit. Explore different approaches to dealing with emotions in relation to porn addiction. Discover the power of feeling in control and living in line with your values. Understand the importance of allowing and processing feelings and urges. Benefit from the support of a coach or group for personal transformation.

Jul 11, 2023 • 35min
34. Interview With Bruce, Living the Life That You Want, & Benefits of General Life Coaching
Bruce, a high-achieving guy, shares his journey to becoming empowered in relationships. He discusses the benefits of General Life Coaching and the difference between therapy and coaching. Bruce is now training to become a life coach himself. The host, Danny, admires Bruce's progress and they discuss the empowering impact of coaching. Join the Chain Breaker program for more support.