
Unshamed & Unchained: Carving Space For Self-Healing & Habit Transformation
Welcome to "Unshamed & Unchained: Carving Space For Self-Healing & Habit Transformation", the podcast where we break the chains of shame and societal expectations to create a safe space for self-healing, habit transformation, and personal growth. Hosted by a seasoned life coach, Danny Poelman DDS, with years of hands-on experience, this podcast is your guide to reclaiming your voice, embracing your story, and living life on your terms.In each episode, we dive deep into the topics that matter most to you—whether it's:-breaking free from unwanted habits like pornography-excessive people-pleasing-healing from past trauma-recovering from narcissistic abuse or religious/relational trauma-anxiety/depression-money mindset blocks-overcoming limiting beliefsWe’re not afraid to talk about the things that are often considered taboo, because we believe that through honest, unfiltered conversations, real transformation happens.You’ll hear real client stories that illustrate the power of this work—stories of struggle, resilience, and ultimate triumph. We explore what works, drawing from practical strategies and proven techniques that have helped countless individuals achieve lasting change. Each episode is a blend of inspiration, actionable insights, and heartfelt guidance, all aimed at helping you carve out the space you need for your own healing and transformation.This podcast is for those who are ready to step into their power, shed the weight of shame, and unapologetically embrace who they are. Whether you're looking to heal old wounds, build healthier habits, or simply create more love and fulfillment in your life, "Unshamed & Unchained" is here to support you on that journey.So tune in, start listening right away, and let’s carve out the space you need to become the best version of yourself—unshamed, unchained, and unstoppable.
Latest episodes

Jul 4, 2023 • 25min
33. Sexually Relevant and a Client Example
Danny Poelman, a certified life coach, talks about the concept of sexual relevance and how to interact with urges for porn in a more empowering way. The podcast explores strategies for dealing with porn urges, the importance of adopting a neutral mindset towards thoughts and feelings, and the benefits of working with a coach. Check out Danny's Instagram and website for more information.

Jun 28, 2023 • 36min
32. Interview With Ben: Making Life So Good That Porn Becomes Irrelevant
Ben, who is single and an entrepreneur, shares with us how he went from:-a porn habit-some hangups about his past-shame-fear-lack of confidenceTOTotal self-control with PornHealing his pastReleasing shame and fearConfidence in all aspects of his lifeMaking life so good that porn becomes irrelevantOur hope is that Ben's story will inspire you to set your sights high, and never give up on your goals that you believe, or hope, are possible for you. Helping you to create an authentic drive to move forward toward your next steps of creating a porn-free life for you.Ben shares some of the things that helped him to experience breakthroughs every single week we had a call together, and many more breakthroughs in the year since we stopped working together, including doubling his salary in his business.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Jun 21, 2023 • 18min
31. Why I'm Angry & Allow More Ease With Success
Danny's pissed today. But it's a Love-Anger. He's glad to be angry about this.Stop slowing your success with this limiting belief. Stop creating unnecessary suffering for yourself.A more efficient way.You deserve better.More ease with success is allowed.Listen to the full episode now!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Jun 14, 2023 • 25min
30. Why Willpower Does Not Work to Quit Porn Sustainably
In this episode, Danny discusses common pitfalls guys run into with the way they are directing their willpower energy when it comes to quitting a porn habit. He covers topics such as:-over-reliance on external locus of control-inefficient uses of willpower energy when focusing on your internal locus of control-willpower is a limited resource-if not all toward fighting directly against the urges/cravings, where to direct your willpower energyAnd he even gives you a strategy you can start experimenting with that will not only conserve more willpower energy for those times you really need it, but also improve the quality of your day to day life in general. Leaving you with more energy to focus on the things you love.Listen to the full episode now!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Jun 6, 2023 • 17min
29. Interview With Justin Mathews - Success Story
In this episode, Danny interviews past client, Justin Mathews. Justin shares how he went from "stuck" every day to living life porn free and totally in control. It hasn't only helped him leave a porn habit behind, but has transformed him in other areas of his life as well. Even his friends and family have said, "there's something different about you." Listen to the full episode now!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Jan 30, 2023 • 12min
28. Being Results Focused
In this episode your host Danny shares a client win in his chain breaker program as well as methods and lessons he's learned and used to move forward from being results driven, to process driven for a more sustainable path to healing and growth. Listen to the full episode now!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Jan 23, 2023 • 24min
27. Absolute Expectations and Let Go of How
In this episode, host Danny Poelman talks about absolute expectations and letting go of the How Hungry mentality. He talks about the benefits of finding a system that works for you when trying to reach and goal, and staying committed to the process instead of the outcome. Listen to the full episode to learn more. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Nov 7, 2022 • 28min
26. From the Perspective of Lindsay (Danny's Wife)
In this episode, Lindsay Poelman, life coach that focuses on trauma informed coaching methods, dealing with pornography from a woman's perspective, feminism for Christians, and Danny's wife talks about her story and perspective of learning and growing from Danny's porn use. She talks about self advocacy, understanding accountability, and most importantly, showing up for yourself and your partner with grace.Listen to the full episode to learn more and share with someone you think may benefit from this information. Learn more about Lindsay and her work by checking out her website and instagram.Website: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindsaypoelmancoaching/ Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Oct 24, 2022 • 31min
25. Slowing Down to Speed Up
In this episode your host Danny Poelman shares wins, successes, and lessons learned from his clients, along with methods and strategies to find the best path of healing for you. He also talks about the need to slow down to move forward and speed up the healing process and what that means and is required from you. Listen to the full episode now.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Oct 17, 2022 • 10min
24. Being Wrong About Impossible - A Story
You are worth not giving up on. I hope that this story about the impossible inspires you to do the impossible things. Listen to the full episode to learn more.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.