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Unshamed & Unchained: Carving Space For Self-Healing & Habit Transformation

37. Three Problems with Attaching the “need” for Self-improvement to Your Porn Habit

Aug 11, 2023
This podcast explores the problems of attaching self-improvement to a porn habit. It discusses the impact of this attachment on goals and reflects on the hunger for growth. The episode suggests detaching self-improvement from a porn habit and focusing on personal growth and learning instead.
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Quick takeaways

  • Attaching the need for self-improvement tools to a porn habit can create a cycle of behavior and hinder progress.
  • Practicing mind management regardless of recent porn use diminishes the incentive to view porn and avoids reinforcing the identity of having a porn problem.

Deep dives

Attaching Mind-Management Tools to Porn Habit

One of the problems with attaching the need for self-improvement tools to a porn habit is that it can create a cycle where you only practice mind management when you have recently looked at porn. This pattern can lead to repetitions of the behavior. Additionally, attaching self-improvement tools to a specific problem like a porn habit can inadvertently incentivize looking at porn due to a hunger for continual growth and learning. When brain identifies the mind management tools as effective in accelerating learning, it may seek to use them by unconsciously creating situations that involve porn. Furthermore, attaching the need for using these tools to the porn habit can reinforce the identity of being someone with a porn problem. This identity perpetuates the behavior and hinders progress.

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