Unshamed & Unchained: Carving Space For Self-Healing & Habit Transformation

What does it really take to go from feeling out of control, frustrated, and hopeless... to feeling empowered, free from your habit, and confident that it’s going to last? In this episode, I share Tim A’s powerful journey through habit transformation, emotional healing, and long-term change.You’ll hear the exact elements that helped him go from short-lived streaks to deep rewiring—and what made this time feel different. I’ll break it all down into simple but powerful questions for you to reflect on—so you can apply the same shifts to your life and your habits.We’ll cover:What it actually means to “buffer” (and how to stop)Why your past doesn’t determine your futureThe power of emotional honesty, community, and calling out your own BSThe Ice Block Analogy: the moment change clicksBuilding confidence that lasts (instead of white-knuckling it)If you want freedom from your unwanted habit, without shame, burnout, or hustle... this one’s for you.🎯 Want to create a plan of attack that actually works? Book a free consult at (link below).START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

What if the reason you feel stuck isn’t a lack of willpower—but a lack of presence?In this episode of Unashamed and Unchained, Danny Poelman explores the often-overlooked coping mechanism of dissociation—what it is, why it shows up (especially for high-achievers), and how it keeps you disconnected from your body, your emotions, and ultimately, your goals.You’ll learn:Why dissociation is more common than you think (yes, even in “successful” people)How overthinking can become a form of emotional avoidancePractical tools to reconnect with your body and stop bypassing your feelingsHow increasing your emotional presence becomes a superpower in every area of your lifeThis episode is a game-changer for anyone looking to heal deeply, create sustainable change, and finally feel fully syncedin your own life.START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Do you like talking about your porn habit? Other people's porn habits? Well I love it! But not in a creepy way. Let me tell you why in a way that simultaneously teaches some of the real reasons behind an unwanted porn habit. Even if you have other unwanted habits, you'll finish listening to this episode with actionable, impactful information/ideas. Don't miss it.What if your unwanted habit isn’t really about the habit at all? In this episode of Unashamed & Unchained, I dive into the real reasons behind porn habits (and other patterns you feel stuck in). We break down why a holistic approach is the key to lasting change—not just surface-level fixes.I’ll share why I love coaching on this topic, how deeper fears, stress, and emotional patterns play into unwanted behaviors, and how you can finally start addressing the root cause. Whether or not you struggle with porn, this episode will give you insights into how habits work and what it takes to create real, sustainable change.🚀 What You’ll Learn:Why it’s not about the porn—and what it’s actually aboutThe “Messy Room” analogy and why removing a habit isn’t enoughHow coaching on unwanted habits opens the door to deeper transformationThe ripple effect of this work and how it impacts your life, family, and legacyIf you’ve ever felt stuck in a habit, or just want to better understand how to heal and sustain high performance without adding more stress, this episode is for you.🎧 Tune in now! And don’t forget to check out the free training in the show notes to start your own transformation.START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Shame can keep you stuck in a cycle of burnout, stress, and self-sabotage—but what if you could train your brain to respond differently? In this episode of Unshamed and Unchained, we’re breaking down how to practically shift out of shame and into a mindset that fuels real, lasting change.You'll learn:✅ Why shame shuts down your ability to learn and grow✅ The science behind thoughts creating feelings—and how to use it to your advantage✅ A step-by-step process to move from shame to self-compassion (and beyond)✅ How this shift accelerates your progress in quitting unwanted habits, improving relationships, and sustaining high performance in ALL areas of lifeThis is the mental reset you’ve been looking for. Don’t just hear about it—try it.🎧 Tune in now!👥 Join the RISE Group Coaching Calls! Want real-time support and connection with other growth-minded dads (or family-oriented men)? Check out the link below to learn more and/or join us.START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Feeling stuck in your habits, burnout, or personal growth? You're not alone. In this episode of Unshamed and Unchained, I dive deep into the power of group coaching and why it might be the missing link in your healing and habit transformation journey.I’ll share:✅ The RISE framework: Rewire, Intent, Sustain, Energize✅ Why shame and isolation block your progress—and how to overcome them✅ How group coaching accelerates breakthroughs✅ The surprising way your brain resists change (and how to work with it, not against it)✅ My invitation to join my new group coaching experience—for free!If you’re a family-oriented guy, doc and/or dad, or high achiever who’s ready to make lasting change—without adding more hustle or exhaustion—this one’s for you.📩 Click the link in the show notes to learn more and sign up for a free month of RISE group coaching.START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

In this episode, we sit down with James Christiansen, a dynamic doctor-dad, to explore his powerful journey of mastering his mind/emotion management and transforming his unwanted pornography habit and more. In a sustainable, energy-increasing way.Discover how he redefined success in his personal and professional life, all while maintaining a high level of performance without adding more hustle or exhaustion.Learn actionable strategies to heal, sustain energy, and enrich your life so you can thrive in all areas without feeling drained. This episode is packed with wisdom, relatable stories, and practical tips for any parent or professional seeking balance and fulfillment.START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

In this powerful episode, we delve into the journey of Doctor-Dads navigating burnout, stress, trauma, and unwanted habits. Learn why addressing shame is only the first step and how to create sustainable change that enriches every area of your life. Tune in for actionable strategies to heal, sustain, and maintain a high level of performance—all without adding more hustle or exhaustion to your already busy life.Whether you're battling strained relationships or seeking freedom from the cycles of shame and burnout, this episode is your guide to real, lasting results.Key Topics:How shame impacts your ability to achieve resultsTools to shift from exhaustion to empowermentCreating sustainable change without extra hustle🎧 Ready to transform your life? Hit play now!START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Are you feeling exhausted just thinking about setting New Year’s goals? You’re not alone. In this episode, Danny dives deep into why traditional goal-setting feels so heavy — especially for high-achievers like doctors and dads who are already carrying a massive load. He offers simple, practical shifts to help you rethink goals so they give you life instead of draining it. If you’re tired of the hustle and want to start the year with energy, connection, and peace, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to focus on small, sustainable shifts that lead to long-term transformation along with net energy gains.START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Bryan tells us how he uses Life Coaching vehicle to go from:exhausted, worn out, depressedtoEmpowered, feelings-literate, kinder to self, more positive home-life/relationships, looking forward to things more, healing his mindHe says he looks forward to coaching calls, gains more energy and efficiency in life by taking time to do it, and says"Coaching on the mindset around dread/procrastination of doing patient charts affected 5 other areas of my life that week too."Tune in to get inspired by what Bryan created for himself.START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

In this episode, we dive into the transformative power of neuroplasticity—the brain's remarkable ability to change and adapt. Join life coach Danny Poelman as he shares personal insights and scientific research on how believing in your brain's capacity for change can help you break free from old habits, heal from trauma, and achieve your goals. Tune in for 5 actionable steps to start rewiring your mind today.START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.