Unshamed & Unchained: Carving Space For Self-Healing & Habit Transformation

36. Tracing Back Your Decisions About Your Habit

Aug 2, 2023

This podcast discusses the automatic nature of habitual behavior around porn and the role of dopamine in forming these patterns. It highlights the importance of guiding the lower brain with the upper brain when making decisions about porn. The concept of the 'wheel c mentality' is explored, emphasizing the need to trace back when the decision to view porn occurs in order to regain control. Progress, increased productivity, and purpose are also discussed in relation to quitting porn.

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Introduction

00:00 • 2min

Progress, Productivity, and Purpose

02:09 • 5min

Understanding the Role of Dopamine and Habit Formation

07:06 • 9min

The Impact of the Wheel C Mentality and Dopamine Step on Porn Addiction

16:34 • 3min

Tracing Back Your Decisions About Your Habit

19:22 • 4min

Past client updates me, saying:

“I am very satisfied with the progress I've made and continue to make. Urges are way down, short lived, and manageable.”

Why can habitual behavior around porn feel so automatic?

Your lower brain wants to avoid pain, seek pleasure, and be energy efficient.

One of the ways your lower brain is energy efficient is by automating patterns that bring you a big dopamine hit (pleasure).

It does this by skipping steps for you, and by repeating patterns it has already practiced a lot.

Until you have rewired your brain to the point that your porn habit patterns have faded completely, if left unguided, your lower brain will drift toward porn a percentage of the time.

It’s important to guide your lower brain with your upper brain (prefrontal cortex) when it comes to decisions about porn.

Also, tracing back when the decision to look at porn actually occurred, will clarify your power, and give you more power to change your patterns going forward.

Listen to this podcast now to learn how to start doing this.

Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

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Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation.

Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.