The Mark Groves Podcast

Themes: Dating, Relationships, Communication, Vulnerability, Boundaries, Marriage and Family Therapy, Marriage, Premarital Counseling Summary:  Join in the conversation with Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT + Gottman therapist. What are the benefits of premarital counseling? How can we best deal with our partner's differences? What is the science behind flooding and its effects on emotional communication? Elizabeth shares how you can have a long-lasting relationship by consciously navigating the relationship obstacles we all experience.  Elizabeth is a renowned Gottman therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy (MA), author, and influential Instagram therapist who has helped transform countless relationships. She is a co-founder and the Head of Relationship Health of OURS, a virtual premarital counseling service that provides accessible and destigmatized couples counseling for the young, modern couple.  Grab your journals and soak up new skills that you can immediately implement to take your relationship to the next level! Discover: The benefits of premarital counseling How to deal with your partner’s differences  The science behind flooding and its effects on emotional communication The Four Horsemen of conflict communication that most often destroy relationships and how to avoid them 00:00 Intro  01:11 Redefining traditional premarital counseling with OURS 05:41 Navigating perpetual differences in relationships 09:19 Finding richness in our differences 12:49 Overcoming resistance to premarital conversations 18:22 Flooding and its effects on emotional communication 22:15 How to have difficult conversations 27:52 Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling 51:21 The silent killer in relationships 55:35 Can a fractured relationship be healed? 1:01:47 The Imago Framework Links: OURS premarital counseling: https://www.withours.com Website: https://elizabethearnshaw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens/ OURS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ours.wellness/ Sponsors: Cymbiotika | Use code GROVES at checkout for 15% off your first purchase at cymbiotika.com. (Save up to 45% off when you buy a bundle!) Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Parenting, Relationships, Personal Development, Marriage, Interracial Relationships, Authenticity, Boundaries, Transformation, Purpose Summary:  Today I’m jamming with my long-time friend, Christine Chang, a serial entrepreneur based in Los Angeles. Her book "Show Up: Finding Love for Independent Women" has helped professional women all over the world create the relationship of their dreams. Tune in to hear Christine share her experiences growing up as an Asian American and how she handles comments about her interracial marriage, how she has navigated healing from generational trauma and finding her voice, and the importance of listening to your soul’s desires to figure out how you want to show up in this world. As an entrepreneur having explored different paths (professional photographer, dating mentor, and branding specialist to name a few!), Christine drops her tips for branding and rebranding without relying on social media. Discover: How Christine went from being a celebrity wedding photographer to helping inspire women all over the world The importance of adding joy into your life and only doing the things that light you up Finding your own voice and identity without buckling in the face of codependency 00:00 Intro  01:35 The impact of negative online conversations 06:20 Finding your identity 10:19 From certainty to uncertainty 18:23 Importance of adding humor in parenting 21:54 Allowing kids to learn resilience on their own 26:51 Confronting stereotypes in interracial relationships 30:20 Having a voice through media representation 34:49 Start something new & be ok with sucking at it 39:02 Healing from generational trauma 42:22 The responsibilities that come with marriage 47:37 Negotiating boundaries in relationships 49:37 Effect of news and social media on your mental health 53:55 Bridging the divide 56:42 Disagreements and differences in relationships 58:53 When extroverts need introverts 1:00:32 Creating boundaries around technology 1:05:11 How to rebrand without relying on social media 1:12:43 What’s next and trying out new things Links: Instagram: @cchangandco Website 1: www.christinechangphoto.com Website 2: www.christinechang.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyv2WHLUch8m66QoKT2lZ0w Book: https://www.amazon.com/Show-Up-Finding-Independent-Women-ebook/dp/B08BBB446J/ Sponsors: Cymbiotika | Use code GROVES at checkout for 15% off your first purchase at cymbiotika.com. (Save up to 45% off when you buy a bundle!) Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Parenting, Coaching, Therapy, Personal Growth, Healing,, Authenticity, Belonging, Transformation, Career, Mental Health  Summary:  Today I have the pleasure of hosting coaching OG and powerhouse Christine Hassler on the pod! Christine is a master coach, facilitator, and speaker with over 20 years of experience.  In this episode, Christine and I jam on everything from becoming a new parent, to the evolution of the coaching industry and the rise of young influencers, to the collective trauma we currently face and the need to deconstruct broken systems. We also dive into the importance of nervous system regulation (especially for educators), the power of somatic and talk therapy when combined, and Christine’s recommendations for daily regulation, integration, and empowerment. A fascinating talk you’ll gain so many insights from! Discover: Christine’s story on how she transitioned from a career-focused woman to a new mother and how she dealt with the overwhelming change of caring for a child The season of early parenthood and why parents shouldn’t put so much pressure on themselves The evolution of the personal growth industry, including its expansion into mainstream media and the corporate world and the acceptance of therapy and coaching The impact of social media, on young influencers How we’re living in a time where nearly everyone’s nervous system is dysregulated and why it’s so important for us to recognize that, plus tools you can use for regulation 00:00 Intro  01:09 Transitioning from working woman to new mother 09:02 The season of early parenthood 12:15 What makes happy and well-adjusted humans  19:31 The evolution of the coaching industry 27:38 Rise of young influencers (“iGen”) 37:18 Importance of nervous system regulation for educators 43:59 Somatic and talk therapy 46:42 Collective & individual trauma and deconstructing broken systems 51:03 Tools to help regulate your nervous system and feel more integrated and empowered Links: Website: www.christinehassler.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/christinehasslerpage/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/christinehassler/ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/over-it-and-on-with-it/id1050321415?mt=2 Sponsors: Open | Try Open for 30 days free! Go to withopen.com/createthelove and use code CREATETHELOVE to sign up. Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Intuition, Spirituality, Trust, Alignment, Relationships, Authenticity, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Dating, Transformation  Summary:  Today I'm excited to have founder, creative, podcaster, writer, entrepreneur, all the things… Matt Gottesman. Matt soulfully aligns culture, creativity, spirituality, and entrepreneurship to help people live with intention and step into greater soul alignment. In this episode, we explore the beautiful yet challenging path of what it means to walk your soul’s path with honesty, integrity, and trust at the forefront. Learn how to identify when your intuition is speaking, where it’s leading you, and how to get out of your own way so that your relationship with yourself and your relationships with others can expand in greater clarity and with less friction. Join us for this spiritual, relational jam session with mind-blowing AHA moments!  Discover: How to tell the difference between intuition and fear The life-changing practice of being radically honest with yourself and others Why we can have whatever we want when we play with clarity, consistency, leadership, honesty, integrity, and knowing who we are How being in alignment with one's true self leads to healing and growth, both internally and externally The importance of running your own race and letting your relationship expand you by stepping out of the way of your partner’s greatest alignment 00:00 Intro  01:20 Your soul is your GPS 06:18 Honesty is a form of unconditional love 12:23 Honesty is like foreplay 16:42 The sacred tension between biology and soul 21:42 The power of living in alignment with your soul’s truth 26:11 Overcoming distractions and honouring your calling 31:00 The dopamine of the journey vs the outcome 37:56 The nuance of discourse creating connection 45:43 Trusting in oneself, the universe, and God 53:00 Finding yourself through marriage and divorce 58:38 Running your own race  1:05:26 Can we love each other without needing each other to be the one? Links: Writing: mattgottesman.substack.com Podcast: The Niche Is You Community: https://community.build1thing.com  Website: mattgottesman.com Instagram: @mattgottesman Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Health, Mindset, Transformation, Growth, Wellness, Self-care, Self-discovery, Gratitude Summary:  Today's guest, Ben Azadi, is a force to be reckoned with in the health and wellness world. Ben is on a mission to help 1 billion people live healthier lives after having gone through a personal health transformation and losing 80 pounds. Ben is the author of four best-selling books, Keto Flex, The Perfect Health Booklet, The Intermittent Fasting Cheat Sheet, and The Power of Sleep. Known as 'The Health Detective,' he investigates dysfunction and educates to bring the body back to normal function.  In this episode, Ben and I jam on what it means to be truly healthy and why modern-day health advice is so misleading and ineffective. Ben takes us through his easy-to-implement steps to instantly improve our health, the top 8 highly most inflammatory foods we should avoid, and how intermittent fasting, ketosis, and protein intake can help us achieve optimal health when done right. If you’re like me and are constantly looking for ways to improve your health and need practical, no-BS guidelines to do it, this episode is for you!  Discover: How small changes can lead to big results that transform the quality of your health and your life The top inflammatory foods that lead to poor health and why How you can minimize toxin intake and damaging your health when eating at restaurants The incredible benefits of the ketogenic diet, lowering glucose levels and increasing ketone production The immense power of your mind when it comes to improving your overall well-being 00:00 Intro  00:43 From victim to victor 04:46 From pain to purpose 06:09 The power of small changes 08:18 Importance of eating whole food 14:14 Eight highly inflammatory foods people should avoid 17:50 Start communicating your needs in restaurants 19:48 Three easy steps to instantly improving your health 24:58 Intermittent feasting 29:45 Ben's guidelines for protein intake 35:05 Benefits of ketones and the keto diet 39:49 Our body is a miracle 44:07 The cholesterol myth 48:25 The best ways to monitor your metabolic functions 53:43 The power of mindset on healing 58:00 The most important vitamin Links: Instagram: @thebenazadi  LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/benazadi/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/thebenazadi YouTube: www.youtube.com/ketokamp TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thebenazadi Podcast: The Keto Kamp Podcast Website: www.benazadi.com  Sponsors: Cymbiotika | Use code GROVES at checkout for 15% off your first purchase at cymbiotika.com. (Save up to 45% off when you buy a bundle! Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Politics, COVID, Individualism, Fear, Health, Government, Accountability, Truth, News & Media, Misinformation, Authenticity, Belonging, Transformation, Conflict, Mental Health Summary:  In this solo episode, I share my thoughts and grief on what has occurred over these last few years as a result of the pandemic. I believe in having open and honest discourse and avoiding inflammatory language that only pushes us further apart. I want to invite curiosity back into our experiences and encourage us to hold manipulative and dishonest individuals and groups accountable while keeping in mind that love and truth always win in the end! Let’s come together to change this world. Discover: Alternative viewpoints on how information as delivered to us during the pandemic The usage of “misinformation” labels, nudge tactics, divisiveness, gaslighting, narcissism, and other abusive tactics Why we must stand up as a village to hold the media and governing bodies accountable and demand truth and change 00:00 Intro  00:53 Nudge tactics 02:45 Misinformation 03:56 You’re not free to choose if your freedom is at stake 07:22 There wasn’t enough data 10:16 They turned us against each other 13:34 Divisiveness, gaslighting, and narcissism 16:30 The importance of discourse without inflammatory language 21:52 We need to come together to make change Links: Emails referenced - The Virality Project: Twitter Files revealed that the US government and major social media companies worked hand-in-hand with Stanford University to censor or limit true information about Covid-19, suppress “true vaccine side effects” and “true posts which could fuel [vaccine] hesitancy.” The emails and documents were provided to Matt Taibbi by Twitter CEO Elon Musk. The documents, dubbed the "Twitter Files" and retweeted by Musk, were selected from "thousands of internal documents obtained by sources at Twitter." Matt Taibbi is an award winning author, journalist, and contributing editor for Rolling Stone. (Sources: New York Post, The Maine Wire, TRT World) Join me on Felt! Sign up for my newsletter here Follow me on Substack here Instagram | @createthelove Facebook | @createthelove Sponsors: Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Psychology, Relationships, Anxiety, Resilience, Attachment Theory, Transformation, Conflict Summary:  Join me in a fascinating exploration of psychology and relationships with Jillian Turecki, a certified relationship coach, teacher and writer who for 20 years has taught others how to transform their relationships with themselves. Under the tutelage of Tony Robbins and world-renowned family therapist Cloe Madanes and fueled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousands through her teaching and writing revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they transform their relationships with others.    In this episode, we explore the fascinating experiences in relationships that are often overlooked or labeled with pop-psychology terms like anxious and avoidant. Listen in to hear Jillian’s perspective on what women and men need most, how to be more objective to understand your partner better, and more of her greatest learnings from being in a relationship. Discover: Why attachment theory only scratches the surface of understanding each other The biggest reasons why relationships fail What men and women want and need most in relationship and how to understand each other better 00:00 Intro  00:54 Jillian’s journey from yoga to relationship coach 10:36 Yoga and the mind 14:15 Somatic awareness 18:03 The loneliness of not being with yourself 19:52 The toxic dance of push-pull 26:43 How much anxiety in a relationship is too much? 28:25 We over-pathologize others as anxious or avoidant  38:24 Asking for your needs to be met 40:28 Greatest learnings in relationship 44:13 Men and their needs in a relationship 49:31 The importance of being appreciated and understood 54:01 The complexity we hold due to familial dynamics Links: Website: www.jillianturecki.com Podcast: https://listen.qcodemedia.com/jillianonlove IG: @jillianturecki Tik Tok: @jillian.turecki Twitter: @JillianTurecki Sponsors: Open | Try Open for 30 days free! Go to withopen.com/createthelove and use code CREATETHELOVE to sign up. WeWork | Get 50% off your first workspace booking with WeWork On Demand! Go to we.co/mark and use code WORKWITHMARK. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Trusting Yourself, Intuition, True Liberation, Self Love, Authenticity, Transformation Summary:  Comin’ at ya with a quick espresso shot of love on embracing change and trusting our internal guidance system. I hope my reflections inspire you to gain insight into your own circumstances and ways of being in the world. Discover: Why you need to trust yourself when you say yes to change  How we’re being asked to orient ourselves from intellectual/logical to intuitive/heart centered  True liberation and how can we find it 00:00 Intro  00:17 Trust your intuition 03:00 True liberation 03:49 Orient through your sensations 05:37 Start asking the right questions Links: Join me on Felt! Sign up for my newsletter here Follow me on Substack here Instagram | @createthelove Facebook | @createthelove Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Relationships, Romantic Relationships, Relationship Struggles, Couples Therapy, Communication, Healing, Conflict Summary:  Back for the second time is my good friend, Nick Solaczek. Nick is a relationship coach and teacher specializing in romantic relationships with an emphasis on safe conversations, conscious relationship principles, mindfulness, authenticity and boundary setting. Nick works closely with IMAGO theory in his practice, believing that the image we project has a significant influence on who we are attracted to and how we show up in our relationship.  In this episode, we jam on how to create stronger romantic relationships, how our childhood experiences are responsible for many of our triggers in our adult relationships, the influence of fear and how it guides our actions, and more juicy relational truths. Tune in to hear Nick share mic-drops on how to communicate more clearly to ask for what we want and how to use struggle to strengthen our partnerships instead of drive us apart.  Nick also teaches us about his relational theory, The Developmental Mountain, which he shares in depth in his new course: Romantic Relationship Reset. Get the link and a discount below! Discover: Core relational dynamics of romantic relationships and which ones you and your partner relate to How and why opposites attract when it comes to romantic relationships The power of fear and its presence in our interactions with our partners The benefits of both individual and couples therapy when it comes to long term relationships  The power of IMAGO dialogue as a powerful method of communication for couples 00:00 Intro  02:12 How we have historically approached couples work 06:34 Romance is propagandized by culture 10:14 We all have conflicts in the kitchen 18:24 Relational dynamics of the Seeker, Maximizer, Minimizer 25:40 How childhood experiences show up in adult relationships 26:48 We show and respond to emotion differently 29:56 The power of fear 34:54 The struggle is normal 41:47 Ways to ask for what you want 48:01 Why we deal with things the way we do 50:35 The Developmental Mountain 57:32 The Relationship Reset Links: Special offer: $50 off Nick’s course "Romantic Relationship Reset" with promo code: CREATE50 Website: www.nicksolaczek.com Course: www.nicksolaczek.com/mark Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicksolaczek/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachingwithnick Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Cymbiotika | Use code GROVES at checkout for 15% off your first purchase at cymbiotika.com. (Save up to 45% off when you buy a bundle!) Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Relationships, Connection, Health, Mental Health, Transformation, Belonging, Purpose Summary:  Today I’m nerding out with Dr. Robert Waldinger, professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and co-author of The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness. Dr. Waldinger is also a Zen master (Roshi) who teaches meditation worldwide. In this episode, we explore Dr. Waldinger’s fascinating research on what makes a “good life” based on the longest study of adult life that has ever been done - the Harvard Study of Adult Development. He shares his insights on the power of relationships and how they affect our mental and physical health, practical tips for improving our happiness, and how to create and nurture thriving relationships. This is a pod you won’t want to miss! Discover: The power of relationships and how they affect our mental and physical health The types of relationships we need to thrive The impact of conflict and how to use it to nurture relationships How to improve the quality of our relationships Ways to build resilience and cope with conflict 00:00 Intro  01:55 What is the happiness study? 04:34 Relationships help us live longer 09:26 Impacts of life events 11:03 High-conflict relationships 12:27 Stress and the body 14:11 Attachment styles and relationship longevity 17:21 Relationships and the body 19:26 Social fitness 21:20 Be curious 24:30 Stratifying the data 27:42 Effects of the study on participants 31:39 Being in Zen 33:28 Religion and spiritual practice 36:39 Rituals and habits 38:38 Study results and expanding the research Links: Website | Harvard Study of Adult Development Book | The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy