#316: Habit Mastery Through Perspective with Eric Zimmer
Oct 9, 2023
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Eric Zimmer, Certified Interfaith Spiritual Director and behavior coach, shares his insights on building lasting habits, overcoming perfectionism, and the power of community in personal transformation. He debunks the myth of building a habit in 21 days and emphasizes the importance of consistency. They also discuss the challenges of change, self-deception, and the role of support and self-reflection.
Building lasting habits and the importance of community in personal transformation
Overcoming perfectionism and navigating change in order to maintain habits
Questioning our thoughts and the power of presence in behavior change
Deep dives
Balancing Love and Money
This podcast episode discusses the idea that people often believe they have to choose between love and money. The hosts, Mark and Selena Gray, emphasize that it is possible to have both abundance and love. They offer a full-day workshop that focuses on breaking through blocks in one area of life that limit success in the other. They explore the secrets to elevating standards, effective communication, setting boundaries, and cultivating self-worth. The workshop includes interactive exercises, discussions, and personalized guidance to empower participants to take immediate action.
The Power of Spiritual Habits
The episode features an interview with Eric Zimmer, who discusses the concept of spiritual habits. He explains that living by spiritual principles can help handle life's challenges and make the right choices. Eric shares how he combined foundational spiritual and philosophical principles with the science of behavior change to create the Spiritual Habits program. The program aims to help individuals live these principles rather than just believing in them. It focuses on specific behaviors, skills, and reflection to make their values a part of their daily lives.
Change and Behavior
Mark and Eric discuss the process of behavior change and the factors that influence its success. They emphasize the importance of clarity on why we want to change and what our competing priorities are. The hosts suggest getting specific in our goals and skills to be successful. They highlight the significance of remembering, triggers, and support in maintaining new behaviors. They also address the common challenges of getting discouraged and adapting to life's changes. Finally, they explore the balance of rigidity and flexibility in achieving long-term behavior change.
Challenging Our Thoughts and Self-Deception
The episode delves into the power of questioning our thoughts and recognizing that they do not always reflect reality. They discuss the impact of conditioning on our thoughts and the need to explore different perspectives. The hosts advocate for abandoning self-deception and engaging in honest introspection. They also highlight the role of community support in providing accountability and guiding us toward more accurate perceptions of ourselves and our behaviors.
The Importance of Presence
Throughout the episode, the hosts emphasize the significance of being present and aware of our thoughts. They believe that presence allows us to question our thoughts, discern their validity, and challenge self-deception. They suggest that being present helps us recognize automatic thought patterns and choose more empowering perspectives. Presence also enables us to adjust our behaviors and responses in alignment with our goals and values.
Themes: Transformation, Spirituality, Building Habits, Authenticity, Belonging, Purpose
Summary:
Today I welcome Eric Zimmer, a Certified Interfaith Spiritual Director, podcast host, and writer, Eric Zimmer is endlessly inspired by the quest for a greater understanding of how our minds work and how to intentionally create the lives we want to live. Eric works as a behavior coach and has done so for the past 20 years. He has coached hundreds of people from around the world on how to make significant life changes and create habits that serve them well in achieving the goals they’ve set for themselves - and he teaches us some of his tried and true methods in this episode.
Discover:
How can we build lasting habits and how can we maintain them
The important role community plays in our personal transformation
Being comfortable with change and how we can overcome perfectionism
00:00 Intro
00:38 Story behind “The One You Feed”
02:19 Spiritual Habits Program
10:28 Building lasting habits
20:10 Can you build a habit in 21 days?
23:10 Overcoming perfectionism
25:26 How to maintain a habit
34:04 Navigating change and self-deception
39:42 The power of community in personal transformation
44:57 Question your own thoughts
Links:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/one_you_feed/
Website: https://www.oneyoufeed.net/about-eric-zimmer/
Podcast: https://www.oneyoufeed.net/all-episodes/
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