The Hello Someday Podcast For Sober Curious Women

Is the fear of feeling awkward in social situations keeping you from trying sober life? I get it. When I was stopped drinking I felt awkward in every part of my life - going to a bar and ordering a non-alcoholic drink, turning down a glass of wine at a friend house, making small talk at a work event without my social lubricant, telling people I wasn’t drinking and let’s not even talk about sober sex!   When you stop drinking it can be surprising to realize just how much you’ve relied on alcohol to navigate uncomfortable moments, conversations and social interactions (even with people you love and have known for years)!  But you can navigate sober life without feeling awkward - it just takes a bit of practice. Today I'm talking with Victoria Vanstone, co-host of Australia's most popular sobriety podcast, Sober Awkward.  Vic is an alcohol free living advocate and passionate about helping others stuck in a pattern of normalized social binge drinking.  For full show notes and resources mentioned in the episode, head to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/108 Ready to drink less + live more? Take my FREE MASTERCLASS on Five Secrets To Taking a Break From DrinkingSign up here to save your seat: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/class  If you’re ready to change your relationship with alcohol join The Sobriety Starter Kit. It's my signature sober coaching course for busy women to help you drink less + live more. To enroll go to www.sobrietystarterkit.com. Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free Connect with Casey McGuire DavidsonFind out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Today we're talking about living with a partner who drinks when you're sober.  Maybe your husband or partner is your drinking buddy and going to a bar or sharing drinks at the end of the day is the way you connect and celebrate.   Maybe your partner loves drinking too and is resistant to getting the alcohol out of the house.  Or perhaps your partner tells you that you “don’t really have a problem”, “are being too hard on yourself” or “should just cut back a bit”.  Maybe you don’t want your partner to know how worried you are about your drinking so you want to do this on your own and under the radar.  Or perhaps you’ve told your partner that you’re going to take a break from drinking before and then thrown in the towel on Day 5 or Week 2. You might be afraid to tell them you’re trying again because you’re worried you’re just going to fail.  Whatever your relationship with your partner is like, if you both drink it’s often deeply intertwined with alcohol.  For show notes and to access resources mentioned in the episode, head to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/107 Ready to drink less + live more? Take my FREE MASTERCLASS on Five Secrets To Taking a Break From DrinkingSign up here to save your seat: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/class  If you’re ready to change your relationship with alcohol join The Sobriety Starter Kit. It's my signature sober coaching course for busy women to help you drink less + live more. To enroll go to www.sobrietystarterkit.com.Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free Connect with Casey McGuire DavidsonFind out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

What we drink and how we drink is often deeply intertwined with the image and personality we present to the world, and can also be a part of our own internal identity.  As Kristi Coulter wrote in her essay Enjoli, what we drink can be a shorthand for who we are…“A woman with a single-malt scotch is bold and discerning and might fire you from her life if you fuck with her. A woman with a PBR is a Cool Girl who will not be shamed for belching. A woman drinking MommyJuice wine is saying she’s more than the unpaid labor she gave birth to.” Drinking influences our relationships and interactions. It colors what we do, who we spend time with, what we tolerate and the types of boundaries we set (and often the ones we don’t set).  And, when you’re ready to stop drinking, there are growing pains related to releasing your past identity as a drinker, as well as relationships and behaviors that may no longer be serving you. My guest today is Hailey Magee. She’s a Codependency Recovery Coach who helps individuals of all ages break the people-pleasing pattern, set empowered boundaries, and master the art of speaking their truth. For full show notes and to access resources mentioned in the episode, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/106 Ready to drink less + live more?Take my FREE MASTERCLASS on Five Secrets To Taking a Break From DrinkingSign up here to save your seat: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/class  If you’re ready to change your relationship with alcohol join The Sobriety Starter Kit. It's my signature sober coaching course for busy women to help you drink less + live more. To enroll go to www.sobrietystarterkit.com. Grab the  Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free Connect with Casey McGuire DavidsonFind out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Many women look up in midlife to realize that while their lives look really good on the outside they don’t feel that good on the inside. They’re smart, capable, and productive and work hard everyday to accomplish a lot.They take care of people, managing work deadlines and finances, business trips and family vacations, school conferences and day care pickups.  But they’re not as happy as they thought they would be. They’re tired, pulled in a million directions, anxious, overwhelmed, accomplished but unfulfilled. And often women in midlife are drinking too much to reward themselves for getting through it all at the end of the day. The midlife unraveling can also be a time for transformation and evolution.I asked Libby Nelson, a Professional Certified Coach who has trained in the work of Dr. Brené Brown and is a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator, to join me to dive into how to let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you really are through the work of Brené Brown. For full show notes and to access resources mentioned in the episode, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/105 Ready to drink less + live more?Take my FREE MASTERCLASS on Five Secrets To Taking a Break From DrinkingSign up here to save your seat: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/class  If you’re ready to change your relationship with alcohol join The Sobriety Starter Kit. It's my signature sober coaching course for busy women to help you drink less + live more. To enroll go to www.sobrietystarterkit.com. Grab the  Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free Connect with Casey McGuire DavidsonFind out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com 

Taking a break from drinking can be as simple as unlearning a conditioned and ingrained behavior and approached and addressed without shame, blame or labels.  In fact, the social learning model suggests that drug and alcohol use are learned behaviors and that such behaviors persist because of reinforcement from others, your environment, your thoughts and feelings, and from the direct consequences of drug or alcohol use. If you’re struggling to break the habit of drinking you are not required to describe yourself as an “alcoholic”, join a 12-Step program or attend AA meetings. Alcoholics Anonymous programs are one approach to stopping drinking, but not the only one.  For full show notes and to access resources mention in the episode, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/104 Ready to drink less + live more?Take my FREE MASTERCLASS on Five Secrets To Taking a Break From DrinkingSign up here to save your seat: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/class  If you’re ready to change your relationship with alcohol join The Sobriety Starter Kit. It's my signature sober coaching course for busy women to help you drink less + live more. To enroll go to www.sobrietystarterkit.com. Grab the  Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free Connect with Casey McGuire DavidsonFind out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

During the coronavirus pandemic, adults started reaching for the bottle more than ever. An increasing number of Americans responded to the stress, anxiety, isolation, loss and boredom of the pandemic by turning to alcohol. According to a Nielsen study, consumption of alcohol grew amongst adults over the age of 30 by 14% during the pandemic.  In 2020 there was a 41 percent increase in the number of days on which women drank heavily, and the rate of adults who reported drinking more to manage pandemic stress was more than twice as high for parents with children between the ages of 5 and 7 . Excessive drinking and alcohol use is proven to negatively impact us in many ways: it can affect our ability to concentrate and get quality sleep. It can also exacerbate depression and anxiety (which is ironically why many people drink – to cope with these issues). Today, we are talking about the backlash against the pandemic fueled surge in alcohol consumption.  To access resources and links mentioned in this episode, head to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/103 Ready to drink less + live more?Take my FREE MASTERCLASS on Five Secrets To Taking a Break From DrinkingSign up here to save your seat: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/class  If you’re ready to change your relationship with alcohol join The Sobriety Starter Kit. It's my signature sober coaching course for busy women to help you drink less + live more. To enroll go to www.sobrietystarterkit.com. Grab the  Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free Connect with Casey McGuire DavidsonFind out more about Casey and her sober coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Anger (and the suppression of anger) can be a big trigger for women to drink in sobriety. There’s a reason that people tell you to remember “HALT” when you’re removing alcohol from your life. HALT is an acronym for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, which are four of the most common stressors in recovery.One of the most helpful skills you can learn when you’re quitting drinking is how to manage anger in a healthy way. Both navigating the intensity and effect anger has upon you, as well as how to understand and express your anger without stuffing it down. Michelle Farris, a licensed Psychotherapist and Anger Management Specialist will help you develop tools and coping skills to understand and manage anger in sobriety. Michelle helps codependent people create healthy relationships without sacrificing their big hearts.For full shownotes and to access resources mentioned in the episode, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/102 Ready to drink less + live more?Take my FREE MASTERCLASS on Five Secrets To Taking a Break From DrinkingSign up here to save your seat: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/class  If you’re ready to change your relationship with alcohol join The Sobriety Starter Kit. It's my signature sober coaching course for busy women to help you drink less + live more. To enroll go to www.sobrietystarterkit.com. Or grab the  Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free Connect with Casey McGuire DavidsonFind out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Women with ADHD are creative, spontaneous, problem solvers, energetic and have the ability to focus intensely on a project or task. They are also more likely to drink heavily, become reliant on alcohol and are more sensitive to the effects of alcohol on their brains and bodies. In fact, 25% of adults being treated for alcohol and substance use disorders are diagnosed with ADHD and alcohol abuse among people with ADHD is 5 to 10 times more common than it is in people without the condition.As a woman with ADHD you may struggle to focus, be easily distracted, act impulsively, feel restless and have trouble relaxing and unwinding, and because of that the immediate effect of alcohol, you may feel the pull to drink heavily and have a more difficult time moderating alcohol.Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a Neurodevelopmental disorder that impacts the brain which controls emotions, learning, self-control and memory. Because of the link between women, ADHD and alcohol abuse I invited Hanna Forrest, an ADHD Specialist who works with neurodiverse adults and children, on the podcast to talk about why women with ADHD often struggle with alcohol and practical tools to manage ADHD while quitting drinking.For full show notes and to access links and resources mentioned in the episode, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/101 Ready to drink less + live more? Take my FREE MASTERCLASS on Five Secrets To Taking a Break From DrinkingSign up here to save your seat: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/class  If you’re ready to change your relationship with alcohol join The Sobriety Starter Kit. It's my signature sober coaching course for busy women to help you drink less + live more. To enroll go to www.sobrietystarterkit.com. Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free Connect with Casey McGuire DavidsonFind out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Annie Grace, the author of The Alcohol Experiment and This Naked Mind, has joined me on my 100th episode to shift your perspective on drinking so that you can gain control of alcohol and find freedom.  Her work has helped thousands of people understand the impact of alcohol on their lives and dispel widely held beliefs and misconceptions about the benefits of drinking, including that it helps you relax, sleep and connect.   Annie’s goal is to help you decide that alcohol is a substance that isn’t making your life better so that you’re able to walk away from alcohol painlessly, genuinely feeling that you no longer want or need to drink.  For full show notes, head to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/100 Ready to drink less + live more?Take my FREE MASTERCLASS on Five Secrets To Taking a Break From DrinkingSign up here to save your seat: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/class  If you’re ready to change your relationship with alcohol join The Sobriety Starter Kit. It's my signature sober coaching course for busy women to help you drink less + live more. To enroll go to www.sobrietystarterkit.com.  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free Connect with Casey McGuire DavidsonFind out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Wondering which celebrities are sober and whether any of your favorite actors, musicians and models live alcohol-free? You might be surprised by how many famous people have decided to quit drinking.Personally, I love it when a celebrity comes out to say they've stopped drinking or are questioning the role that alcohol is playing in their lives because it normalizes living alcohol-free and disrupts the narrative that you have to drink to live an exciting, fun and glamorous life. Sober celebrities who talk about their decision to stop drinking can start a larger conversation about alcohol and its role in our lives. When you stop drinking it can feel lonely at times, especially in the early days when you might not know a lot of sober people, so knowing that cool, glamorous, famous people have also decided to ditch the booze can help you feel less alone.To access resources and links mentioned in this episode, head to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/99 Ready to drink less + live more?If you’re ready to change your relationship with alcohol it doesn’t have to be this hard. You just need a plan and a framework to follow. To enroll in the program go to www.sobrietystarterkit.com. Join The Grab the  Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free Connect with Casey McGuire DavidsonFind out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com