Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and Dené

Connor Beaton, founder of ManTalks, discusses the shortage of elders to guide young men, the retreat of men from society and relationships, the challenges of vulnerability, living in congruence with one's ideal self, and the importance of collective empathy and shadow processing.

Q&A Session: Acts of Service vs Micromanaging is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. In today’s episode we’re answering a question regarding how to manage over-functioning when your love language is acts of service. What do you do when you want to make your partner’s life easier, but end up micromanaging?We’re discussing:Getting honest with your motivation to determine if you’re operating from a true desire to show them they’re loved, or if you’re creating environments in an attempt to make your own life easier and/or soothe your anxieties.Finding the balance of showing up authentically in your relationship and not being resentful when those acts of service aren’t always returned. Are you operating from a place of love rather than a place of transaction or condition?Establishing boundaries in your relationship that allow each of you to show up in a way that feels good for you both.If you have a question or topic you’d like us to address, we would love to hear from you for our new Q+A series! Email us at cheaperthantherapythepod@gmail.comIf you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate and write a review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy.If you want to connect with us personally and deepen your work, we just launched our private online Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups on multiple topics, two live workshops a month, one on one interaction with us and an amazing supportive community. Learn more hereWe are so excited to announce that we’ve decided to offer a weekend immersive weekend in IDYLLWILD, CA - July 14-16! join us for: LIVING AN UNTAMED LIFEDuring this intensive weekend, we’ll support you in:⁃ Exploring the origin points of the limiting beliefs that may be holding you back ⁃ Understanding how to begin to step into the process of trusting ourselves fully⁃ Cultivating tangible tools for shifting into a growth mindset and building a greater sense of self-awareness  ⁃ Crafting a vision of what you want your life to look like and practices that can support you in being the creator of this realitySpots will be limited! Click here for details------------------------------ Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Candice is an award winning Psychologist, Sexologist, and Professor of counseling psychology and researcher of sexual wellness and liberation, host of two dope ass podcasts “Fuck the System” and “How to Love a Human.” She has also been published over 50 times.  Some Big Takeaways from Our Conversation with Dr. Candice:Racial Discrepancies in Sexuality: The differences between growing up and experimenting with your relationship to sexuality as young Black woman vs a young white woman  Socioeconomic Status Matters: We discuss the socioeconomic narratives, and social norms in those spaces, that shape opinions around certain sexual experiences, and how that shapes someone’s relationship to sexuality as they grow Prioritize Your Pleasure: Let’s flip the script on performative sexual experiences and the importance of prioritizing pleasure for yourselfChoosing Sex vs Choosing Partnership: Patriarchal limitations that attempt to differentiate partnered and unpartnered women, and the social norms that attempt to devalue women who are ‘chosen’ sexually but not ‘chosen’ for partnerships 🎙This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyConnect with Dr. CandiceWebsiteInstagramYouTube🌐 Dive Deeper Into The Show: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cheaperthantherapypodcast  Instagram: @cheaperthantherapythepodcast TikTok: @cheaperthantherapypod Connect with Vanessa: Instagram: @vanessasbennett TikTok: @thecodayoda YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631  Connect with Dené: Instagram: @dene.logan TikTok: @denelogan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. In today’s episode, we’re helping two listeners with questions that arise around potentially ending a long term relationship. We’re discussing:Recognizing cyclical patterns in relationships and the difficulty we often have interrupting our patterns unless something comes into play that forces us to address it Falling in love with potential instead of paying attention to what the dynamic feels like in our day-to-day livesDoing the inner work to balance the feminine energy of clinging when we feel uneasy vs the masculine energy of creating firm boundaries and cultivating self respectThe societal pressures of being measured by whether we are in a relationship, regardless of whether that relationship is healthy or fulfillingFinding what your motivation is to stay, and whether or not you have space to grow while in relationship with this personAnd allowing yourself to be in grief and your inner wisdom to guide you in the process of uncoupling If you have a question or topic you’d like us to address, we would love to hear from you for our new Q+A series! Email us at cheaperthantherapythepod@gmail.comIf you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate and write a review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy.If you want to connect with us personally and deepen your work, we just launched our private online Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups on multiple topics, two live workshops a month, one on one interaction with us and an amazing supportive community. Learn more hereWe are so excited to announce that we’ve decided to offer a weekend immersive weekend in IDYLLWILD, CA - July 14-16! join us for: LIVING AN UNTAMED LIFEDuring this intensive weekend, we’ll support you in:⁃ Exploring the origin points of the limiting beliefs that may be holding you back ⁃ Understanding how to begin to step into the process of trusting ourselves fully⁃ Cultivating tangible tools for shifting into a growth mindset and building a greater sense of self-awareness  ⁃ Crafting a vision of what you want your life to look like and practices that can support you in being the creator of this realitySpots will be limited! Click here for details------------------------------Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Vicky Vox is a profound healer, a performer, spiritual empowermentor, a psychic medium, and a sorceress. She has spent a lifetime inspiring others through her work in the arts, standing unapologetically in the truth of her gifts, and raising the vibrational frequency to one of love and acceptance in every single space she enters. We sat down to talk with Vicky about:1. Navigating a world that feels against you when your spiritual and physical bodies don’t align with the conditioned limitations of those around you2. The importance of decolonizing our therapeutic models in an attempt to provide safe spaces for those outside of the narrow landscape of who the western therapeutic modalities were designed to serve3. The ways that our society often attacks those who model a radical acceptance of self, for holding up a mirror to the ways we have been conditioned to reject the deepest truths of who we are4. How the integration of our masculine and feminine energetics can serve as a means to investigate and know ourselves more fullyVicky is pure magic in human form, and we are so excited to share her incredibly profound wisdom through this conversation.Connect with Vicky*** Website*** InstagramThis podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy.If you want to connect with us personally and deepen your work, we just launched our private online Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups on multiple topics, two live workshops a month, one on one interaction with us and an amazing supportive community. Learn more hereWe are so excited to announce that we’ve decided to offer a weekend immersive weekend in IDYLLWILD, CA - July 14-16! join us for: LIVING AN UNTAMED LIFEDuring this intensive weekend, we’ll support you in:⁃ Exploring the origin points of the limiting beliefs that may be holding you back ⁃ Understanding how to begin to step into the process of trusting ourselves fully⁃ Cultivating tangible tools for shifting into a growth mindset and building a greater sense of self-awareness  ⁃ Crafting a vision of what you want your life to look like and practices that can support you in being the creator of this realitySpots will be limited! Click here for details------------------------------ Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. Today’s question is: How do you avoid resentment?We’re discussing:The role of personal accountability in avoiding resentmentHow resentment relates in situations where abuse or intentional harm was presentThe ways peeling back layers of anger and grief to face your wounded inner child can help you to reclaim your powerIf you have a question or topic you’d like us to address, we would love to hear from you for our new Q+A series! Email us at cheaperthantherapythepod@gmail.comIf you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate and write a review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy.If you want to connect with us personally and deepen your work, we just launched our private online Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups on multiple topics, two live workshops a month, one on one interaction with us and an amazing supportive community. Learn more hereWe are so excited to announce that we’ve decided to offer a weekend immersive weekend in IDYLLWILD, CA - July 14-16! join us for: LIVING AN UNTAMED LIFEDuring this intensive weekend, we’ll support you in:⁃ Exploring the origin points of the limiting beliefs that may be holding you back ⁃ Understanding how to begin to step into the process of trusting ourselves fully⁃ Cultivating tangible tools for shifting into a growth mindset and building a greater sense of self-awareness  ⁃ Crafting a vision of what you want your life to look like and practices that can support you in being the creator of this realitySpots will be limited! Click here for details------------------------------ Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Traver Boehm is the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, author of Today I Rise, Man UNcivilized, and a two-time TEDx speaker, men’s coach and podcaster. Traver draws upon an eclectic background ranging from work as a professional bodyguard, Mixed Martial Artist, and utilizing his Master’s Degree in Traditional Chinese MEdicine and Meditation. Traver counsels men, women, and couples on how to better understand men’s health and relationship difficulties. We sat down to talk with Traver about:1. Why we need to work to see that the current paradigm that insists that men are broken is itself broken2. The importance of a man’s ability to dance with his darkness to understand it - so that his darkness doesn’t lead him blindly3. Expanding the archetypes that men are able to embody beyond those of either the “Marlboro Man” or “The Sensitive New Age Guy4. How women are best able to support the men in their lives in standing in their power and embracing their capacity to healTraver provides such a vital perspective on what is required for all of us to heal our collective wounding around how we define masculinity, and we know you’re going to find his ability to model integrated leadership as inspiring as we did!If you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate and write a review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!Connect with Traver*** Website*** Instagram*** LinkedInThis podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy.If you want to connect with us personally and deepen your work, we just launched our private online Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups on multiple topics, two live workshops a month, one on one interaction with us and an amazing supportive community. Learn more hereWe are so excited to announce that we’ve decided to offer a weekend immersive weekend in IDYLLWILD, CA - July 14-16! join us for: LIVING AN UNTAMED LIFEDuring this intensive weekend, we’ll support you in:⁃ Exploring the origin points of the limiting beliefs that may be holding you back ⁃ Understanding how to begin to step into the process of trusting ourselves fully⁃ Cultivating tangible tools for shifting into a growth mindset and building a greater sense of self-awareness  ⁃ Crafting a vision of what you want your life to look like and practices that can support you in being the creator of this realitySpots will be limited! Click here for details------------------------------Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. Today’s question is: Why is it such a bad thing for your partner to need you and not just choose you?We’re discussing:1. Turning the question on yourself - why do you want to be needed?2. The idea that the feeling of being needed, in any chosen relationship, gives us a sense of purpose and/or false sense of identity 3. How to reclaim your ability to be okay with the unknown and the possibility that somebody could leave you, in a romantic or platonic relationship, and still feel fulfilled within yourselfIf you have a question or topic you’d like us to address, we would love to hear from you for our new Q+A series! Email us at cheaperthantherapythepod@gmail.comAnd, if you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate and write a review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy.If you want to connect with us personally and deepen your work, we just launched our private online Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups on multiple topics, two live workshops a month, one on one interaction with us and an amazing supportive community. Learn more hereWe are so excited to announce that we’ve decided to offer a weekend immersive weekend in IDYLLWILD, CA - July 14-16! join us for: LIVING AN UNTAMED LIFEDuring this intensive weekend, we’ll support you in:⁃ Exploring the origin points of the limiting beliefs that may be holding you back ⁃ Understanding how to begin to step into the process of trusting ourselves fully⁃ Cultivating tangible tools for shifting into a growth mindset and building a greater sense of self-awareness  ⁃ Crafting a vision of what you want your life to look like and practices that can support you in being the creator of this realitySpots will be limited! Click here for details------------------------------This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy. Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We had an opportunity to do an Instagram Live with Dr. Shefali, three time New York Times best-sellers author, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. We sat down to talk about her most recent book, The Parenting Map, and:1. The importance of raising our children to be sovereign beings, rather than a possession that fit into our idealized parenting fantasies2. Shifting our parenting paradigms from being in control to being in charge, and what that tangibly looks like3. The difference between ego-enhancing boundaries and life-enhancing boundaries in parenting4. What to do when your parenting paradigm/style doesn’t align with your partners, and what that means for your childrenDr. Shefali is such a wise and lovely light. We know that you’re going to be as inspired by this conversation as we were!If you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate and write a review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!Connect with Dr Shefali*** Website*** Instagram*** TikTokThis podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy.If you want to connect with us personally and deepen your work, we just launched our private online Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups on multiple topics, two live workshops a month, one on one interaction with us and an amazing supportive community. Learn more hereWe are so excited to announce that we’ve decided to offer a weekend immersive weekend in IDYLLWILD, CA - July 14-16! join us for: LIVING AN UNTAMED LIFEDuring this intensive weekend, we’ll support you in:⁃ Exploring the origin points of the limiting beliefs that may be holding you back ⁃ Understanding how to begin to step into the process of trusting ourselves fully⁃ Cultivating tangible tools for shifting into a growth mindset and building a greater sense of self-awareness  ⁃ Crafting a vision of what you want your life to look like and practices that can support you in being the creator of this realitySpots will be limited! Click here for details------------------------------ Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Trauma Bonds and Addiction is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners.In this episode, we’re discussing:1. The longstanding concept that drugs, alcohol, and other types of addictions can be a way to feel more in touch with Self/Source and numb the feelings of inadequacy2. How safety in chosen relationships can initially come from a place of societal conditioning of needing/longing to be accepted and fit in, and how we can dig deeper to examine how our subconscious mind relates to others3. The possibility that all chosen relationships have some form of trauma bond stemming from our Original Wound that we are separate from Self/SourceIf you have a question or topic you’d like us to address, we would love to hear from you for our new Q+A series! Email us at cheaperthantherapythepod@gmail.comIf you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate and write a review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!Mentioned:*** In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by Gabor Maté, MD *** Website*** Instagram*** TwitterThis podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy.If you want to connect with us personally and deepen your work, we just launched our private online Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups on multiple topics, two live workshops a month, one on one interaction with us and an amazing supportive community. Learn more hereWe are so excited to announce that we’ve decided to offer a weekend immersive weekend in IDYLLWILD, CA - July 14-16! join us for: LIVING AN UNTAMED LIFEDuring this intensive weekend, we’ll support you in:⁃ Exploring the origin points of the limiting beliefs that may be holding you back ⁃ Understanding how to begin to step into the process of trusting ourselves fully⁃ Cultivating tangible tools for shifting into a growth mindset and building a greater sense of self-awareness  ⁃ Crafting a vision of what you want your life to look like and practices that can support you in being the creator of this realitySpots will be limited! Click here for details------------------------------ Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.