Terry Real

Terry Real, a renowned relationship coach and author of the bestseller "Us," shares transformative insights for couples seeking deeper connection. He explores the cyclical nature of relationships and offers practical tools to enhance intimacy and resolve conflicts. Real discusses the challenges of long-term partnerships, addressing 'normal marital hatred.' He emphasizes breaking toxic habits like control and retaliation, advocating for honesty and vulnerability. Listeners learn effective communication strategies to foster healthier, more loving relationships.

Terry Real, a renowned family therapist and best-selling author, shares insights from his journey shaped by an abusive upbringing. He connects childhood trauma to deep-seated shame and anger, emphasizing the urgent need for emotional healing. Real discusses the transformative power of his Relational Life Therapy, explaining how to confront and break the cycle of pain. He highlights the importance of understanding familial dynamics, empowers emotional vulnerability in men, and challenges patriarchal structures for healthier relationships.

In this engaging discussion, internationally recognized family therapist Terry Real shares insights on overcoming toxic individualism to foster genuine intimacy. He highlights the importance of balancing acceptance and agency in relationships and introduces the concepts of the Adaptive Child and Wise Adult. Real discusses effective communication strategies to express needs without a counselor’s help, advocating for collaboration over dominance. He emphasizes breaking generational trauma cycles to build healthier connections, urging listeners to shift from ‘me vs. you’ to a united ‘Us’.

This episode’s guest is a nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher that has been in private practice for over 30 years. Gwyneth Paltrow has praised Terry as her favorite relationship therapist, and many have credited him for saving their marriage. Bradley cooper has even been quoted saying that his work is “nothing short of miraculous” He’s the author of the national bestseller: I Don't Want To Talk About It, the first book ever written on the topic of male depression. That was followed by three more successful books, including his most recent New York Times Bestselling book, Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Terry founded The Relational Life Institute and often appears in academic journals and media like Good Morning America, ABC News, Oprah, The Today Show, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and many others. In this episode, Terry and Vishen have a discussion on relationship advice and his new book, "Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Stay till the end because we may have a big surprise for you. Listen out for: - The difference between depression in men and women. - The core skill you need to learn to have a better relationship life.  - How many inner children do we have and how to tend for them? - 5 losing strategies that are the agenda of your inner adaptive child.   Bonus:                                                                          - Find out more about Terry Real here 👉https://terryreal.com/  - Want to find Terry on Instagram? Click here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/realterryreal/  - Subscribe to 'Mindvalley Membership' to discover 65+ transformational Mindvalley programs – at a surprisingly low annual fee. You can also watch our podcast sessions live, interact with the guests, connect with the world’s best teachers and find your community here 👉 https://go.mindvalley.com/NOW      Like this episode? Subscribe to our podcast on iTunes, Spotify, or your favorite podcasting app. Share this with your friends on Instagram or Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the last 10 years interest in therapy has boomed, and with the greater demand for therapists more people than ever are considering pursuing a career in mental health. On today’s episode Forrest speaks to five therapists and therapists-in-training to learn the lessons they wish they’d known when they started. You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Intro2:15: Rick Hanson5:05: Key traits of good therapists17:50: Questions a prospective therapist might not think to ask25:00: Self-employement, emotional regulation, and boundaries27:45: Efficacy, complacency, and respecting the craft31:45: Lori Gottlieb35:20: Emotional intimacy and human connection38:50: Modalities 40:50: Vulnerability, uncertainty, and making mistakes48:10: Terry Real52:45: Learning how to heal yourself first55:35: What therapy is actually like59:30: Messiness1:03:15: Elizabeth Ferreira1:06:35: Somatics, and being yourself1:11:50: How to suffer with someone, then let it move through you1:16:45: Awareness and the bravery of owning what’s in the room1:21:15: Chaos, and loving yourself1:27:45: Taylor Banfield1:34:00: Sitting with a client for the first time1:37:45: Choosing a specific career path1:39:10: Boundaries1:43:15: RecapAbout our Guests: Rick Hanson is a psychologist, Senior Fellow at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, New York Times best-selling author, and frequent guest on Being Well.Lori Gottlieb is a practicing therapist in Los Angeles, and is the author of the bestseller Maybe You Should Talk to Someone.Terry Real is a longtime clinician, the founder of the Relational Life Institute, and bestselling author of a number of books including Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.Elizabeth Ferreira is an associate somatic psychotherapist working in the San Francisco Bay Area. If you’d like to work with Elizabeth, you can reach out to her through her website or Instagram. Taylor Banfield is a graduate student in the PsyD program at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:Factor delivers fresh, never-frozen, fully prepared meals right to your door. Head to factormeals.com/beingwell50 and use code beingwell50 to get 50% off!Finally get that project off the ground with Squarespace! Head to squarespace.com/beingwell for a free trial, and when you’re ready to launch use coupon code BEINGWELL to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Terry Real and Loch Kelly in a caring dialogue where they explore relational mindfulness and offer practical tools for conscious and connected relationships. Terry emphasizes moving beyond individualistic perspectives and shares stories from his practice. They discuss shame-based and grandiose parts, the transformative power of Relational Life Therapy, and the importance of learning relationship skills. They also explore the significance of relationships, gratitude for practical gifts, and the role of awareness in relational mindfulness.

Explore the significance of inner child work in relationships, as renowned therapist Terry Real shares practical strategies for healing and improving connections. Reflect on personal experiences and emotional healing, emphasizing the impact of unresolved inner child wounds on present behaviors. Discover the journey of nurturing the inner child for self-healing and transforming relationships, breaking patterns of seeking external validation. Gain insights on addressing past traumas and fostering healthier relationships through inner child work.

Terry Real, a renowned relationship therapist and author of Relational Life Therapy, joins his wife Belinda Berman-Real to share their insights on navigating the complexities of marriage. They discuss personal journeys through trauma and sobriety, emphasizing the importance of repair in relationships. Terry introduces the idea of 'harmony, disharmony, and repair,' while Belinda stresses self-regulation in fostering love. Their candid reflections on conflict and healing offer profound lessons for those looking to deepen their connections.

Renowned therapist Terry Real discusses gender dynamics, shared humanity, and self-improvement in relationships. He emphasizes transitioning from rigidity to forgiveness and understanding, challenging biases, and promoting his new book on essential relationship skills.

Terry Real, a renowned family therapist, shares insights on redefining marriage rules for the 21st century, focusing on emotional intimacy, therapy methods like amago therapy, and strategies for diffusing negative patterns in relationships. He emphasizes personal growth, effective communication, and building intimacy based on good-heartedness and teachability.