UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone 442. Self Belief v Self Esteem (And Which One Wins) (Confidence Compass Skill 3)
Nov 20, 2025
The discussion dives into the crucial distinction between self-esteem and self-belief. Self-esteem is portrayed as a fixed viewpoint, while self-belief is an evolving trust in your abilities. Personal anecdotes reveal how misplaced trust can exacerbate issues. The host highlights subconscious fears like rejection and self-judgment that stifle confidence. Insights on how societal norms affect women’s confidence and the importance of a growth mindset are shared. Ultimately, self-belief is shown to be the key to action and self-actualization.
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Coaching Moment That Revealed The Issue
- Kara coached a client who followed advice that made her problem worse and blamed herself.
- Kara focused on the client's self-belief rather than whether the specific process would work.
Belief vs. Esteem
- Self-esteem is a static positive opinion of who you are now and can leave you stuck.
- Self-belief is a dynamic trust in your ability to grow and handle what comes up.
Trust Your Authority
- Keep your own authority and discernment when trying advice; test and evaluate what works for you.
- If a method fails, troubleshoot or try something else instead of seeking external approval.