
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety.
Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it.
This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints.
If you ever find yourself asking questions like…
*Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal?
*How can I stop overthinking everything?
*Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different?
*Will I ever feel comfortable in my body?
*Am I a bad parent?
*How can I ask for more money at work?
*Can I stop people-pleasing?
*How can my partner and I communicate better?
… then you won’t want to miss an episode.
Visit schoolofnewfeministthought.com to learn more about The School of New Feminist Thought and more.
Latest episodes

May 9, 2025 • 2min
Break Free from Habits & Cycles That Aren't Serving You
Are you stuck in thought patterns, habits, or emotional cycles you can’t break, even though you know they’re not serving you? I promise that it’s possible to pursue your goals without your brain putting you in fight or flight as soon as you start taking serious steps. And that's what I'm teaching you how to do in my new, free training coming up: Safety Is an Inside Job.It's happening on May 14th @ 12 PM ET, and you can click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training

May 8, 2025 • 38min
393. How to Calm Down Right Now: A Conversation with Emily Decker
Have you ever noticed how your body reacts when you're doom-scrolling? The tightness in your chest, shallow breathing, and racing thoughts aren’t just in your head—they’re physical responses from your nervous system reacting to perceived threats. In today’s episode, I’m joined by somatic-based personal trainer Emily Decker to discuss how our bodies process information and why so many of us get stuck in cycles of anxiety and doom-scrolling. We explore the fascinating connection between our nervous system and the constant barrage of alarming headlines, plus why our bodies can’t distinguish between real physical danger and the emotional stress we get from media consumption.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/393Mentioned in this episode:Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change.
Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-trainingSafety Training

May 7, 2025 • 5min
FREE TRAINING: Safety Is an Inside Job
Explore the intriguing concept of emotional safety and its vital role in achieving personal goals. Discover why our brains cling to familiar yet unhealthy thought patterns that create a false sense of security. Learn techniques to rewire these associations for healthier mental habits. Plus, find out how to calm your brain's panic responses with a quick exercise that fosters clarity and confidence. Get ready for radical transformation!

May 1, 2025 • 25min
392. You Are Not the Reference Point (Greatest Hits)
Do you find yourself getting frustrated when others don’t see things exactly as you do? When this happens and we’re activated, afraid, or overwhelmed, we often assume our perspective is the only “correct” one. This rigidity creates tension in relationships, leaving us feeling isolated and misunderstood. Sound familiar?In this episode, I’m revisiting a concept I call “You Are Not The Reference Point.” The key is realizing that your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors aren’t the standard by which everyone else should be measured. When we allow space for others’ perspectives, we open the door to better communication, greater acceptance, and less judgment. It’s a game-changer for any relationship!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/392Mentioned in this episode:Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change.
Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-trainingSafety Training

Apr 24, 2025 • 18min
391. My Top 3 Lessons From Being 43
After coaching thousands of women (and learning a lot from my own journey), I’ve realized that our brains are really good at focusing on what we haven’t yet accomplished, while completely glossing over what we have. That’s why it’s crucial to actively look for evidence of growth and progress.In this episode, I’m sharing the three biggest insights I gained during my 43rd year: how to handle differences of opinion in relationships without being triggered, how to make decisions even when you don’t have all the answers, and why no single achievement will change your life overnight. Tune in to hear how embracing the highs and lows of life can teach us everything we need to know about self-trust, decision-making, and staying grounded in uncertainty.For full show notes, transcript, and more information, go to: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/391Mentioned in this episode:Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change.
Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-trainingSafety Training

Apr 17, 2025 • 15min
390. Pretend You Have Amnesia - Instant Brain Reboot
Stuck on repeat with unhelpful thoughts? Discover a powerful mental tool to break free and embrace fresh perspectives. Explore how pretending to have amnesia can reset your mental narratives, helping you reevaluate self-perceptions and improve relationships. This engaging thought experiment encourages focusing on the present and appreciating successes without comparison. Embrace the amnesia mindset for a clearer, more positive outlook and renewed personal clarity.

Apr 10, 2025 • 16min
389. Why & How to Be Extraordinary (Yes I’m Talking to You) (Greatest Hits)
What does it mean to be extraordinary? The discussion dives into how society conditions women and marginalized groups to shy away from their greatness, often labeling ambition as selfish. In these challenging times, it's crucial to embrace one's power and commit to personal values. The conversation also highlights personal branding, self-worth, and the importance of sharing stories to uplift others. Plus, there's an exciting upcoming workshop aimed at helping participants connect with their 'feminist future self' and nurture their individuality.

Apr 3, 2025 • 16min
388. How to Plan When the Future Feels Uncertain
Feeling lost in a world of unpredictability? This discussion dives into tackling anxiety around future planning amidst chaos. It’s all about embracing uncertainty and rethinking your goals. The speaker shares tips on fostering a flexible mindset to make decisions confidently. Plus, there's a workshop aimed at helping individuals envision their future selves, empowering them to grow through challenges. Discover how to turn unpredictability into a catalyst for personal transformation!

Mar 27, 2025 • 20min
387. The Thought Ladder and Thinking v. Believing (Greatest Hits)
Today, I'm revisiting one of the most essential tools in thought work: the thought ladder. If you’ve ever tried to change your results by slapping on a shiny new thought that doesn’t quite feel believable, you already know it doesn’t work that way. In this episode, I’m breaking down why belief—not just thought—is what really drives change, and how to climb the ladder in a way your brain can actually follow. This work takes patience and persistence, but the payoff is huge.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/387Mentioned in this episode:Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change.
Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-trainingSafety Training

Mar 20, 2025 • 31min
386. Defying Ageist Stereotypes: A Conversation with Susan Hyatt
Ever felt the urge to shake things up with a bold, unexpected move? Women are taught that midlife is when we’re supposed to fade into the background, but what if it’s actually the perfect time to dream bigger, take more risks, and redefine what’s possible for ourselves?This week, Master Certified Life Coach Susan Hyatt is back to talk about making courageous changes—at any age. She’s sharing her own wild decision to sail around the world (with six pets, no less!) and calling out the limiting beliefs that keep women from going after their biggest dreams. Whether you're looking to switch careers, take up a new hobby, or embark on an adventure, this episode is your sign to go for it!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/386Mentioned in this episode:Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change.
Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-trainingSafety Training
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