
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety.
Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it.
This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints.
If you ever find yourself asking questions like…
*Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal?
*How can I stop overthinking everything?
*Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different?
*Will I ever feel comfortable in my body?
*Am I a bad parent?
*How can I ask for more money at work?
*Can I stop people-pleasing?
*How can my partner and I communicate better?
… then you won’t want to miss an episode.
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Latest episodes

Jun 6, 2025 • 2min
Take Back Your Brain!
Discover how audiobooks can reshape your mental landscape! The discussion highlights the unique benefits of the audiobook version of 'Take Back Your Brain,' showcasing its organized approach to mental mastery. The speaker shares exclusive insights and the thrill of the book achieving bestseller status. It's a captivating exploration of self-empowerment and breaking free from societal influences.

Jun 6, 2025 • 22min
I Get Vulnerable & You’re Invited to Do It With Me Live
I’m getting vulnerable and inviting you to do the same -- at the beautiful Four Seasons St. Louis later this June! On this bonus episode, we’re diving into the power of live coaching and how being in the room with others for deep, transformational work can create real breakthroughs. I'm also sharing a rare opportunity to join my live coaching event, The Symposium happening the weekend of June 27th. With firsthand stories from clients who’ve experienced life-changing breakthroughs, here is a sneak peek into what’s possible when you immerse yourself in this work. A few tickets are still available - so grab yours and book your flight before you miss out! It's happening June 27-29, 2025 at the Four Seasons in St. Louis, Missouri. Go to unfuckyourbrain.com/symposium or text your email to +1 (347) 997-1784. Code word is symposium.

Jun 5, 2025 • 12min
397. How to Stop Giving a F*ck What Other People Think (Greatest Hits)
Are you exhausted from constantly worrying about what other people think of you? Whether it’s your boss, your family, or even strangers, this fixation zaps your energy and keeps you from being your authentic self. But here's the truth: the more you focus on their opinions, the less you connect with your own.In this episode, I’m diving into why “just letting it go” never works, and why your brain can’t simply switch off these thoughts. I’ll show you how to uncover the deeper beliefs fueling your worries, and teach you how to replace them with thoughts that actually support you.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/397

May 29, 2025 • 20min
396. Why You Obsess Over Some People's Opinions (But Not Others)
Why do some opinions bounce right off us, while others stick like taffy, lingering in our minds and draining our energy? This isn’t random—it’s actually a clue to how our brains process feedback and, more importantly, what we really believe about ourselves. In this episode, I’m diving into why we get fixated on some people’s opinions, even when they shouldn’t matter as much, and why others’ judgments just slide right by. The truth is, it’s not about the other person’s opinion—it’s about the internal fears and doubts we haven’t fully addressed. Listen in to learn why we think this way and how to break this pattern.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/396

May 22, 2025 • 18min
395. Why Women Care Too Much About What Other People Think
Why do women often feel the weight of societal opinions? This discussion uncovers the evolutionary and social factors influencing women's self-worth, revealing how deeply ingrained survival instincts play a role. Listeners will learn the importance of self-validation over seeking external approval. The impact of perfectionism and societal pressures on mental health is addressed, along with practical strategies for challenging these damaging beliefs. The episode encourages embracing self-compassion and reframing thoughts to navigate societal expectations.

May 15, 2025 • 16min
394. Hopelessness Is a Lie
Have you ever felt that sinking feeling in your stomach—the one that says, “There’s no point in trying because nothing will ever change”? That’s hopelessness, and it’s one of the most dangerous emotional states because it paralyzes us and keeps us stuck. It’s also one of the most deceptive thought patterns your brain can offer you.This week, I’m breaking down why hopelessness is fundamentally a lie. When your brain tells you nothing will ever change, it’s making a claim it can’t possibly back up. Tune in to learn how to combat these thoughts and start embracing the reality that change is always possible—even when it feels like it isn’t.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/394

May 8, 2025 • 34min
393. How to Calm Down Right Now: A Conversation with Emily Decker
Have you ever noticed how your body reacts when you're doom-scrolling? The tightness in your chest, shallow breathing, and racing thoughts aren’t just in your head—they’re physical responses from your nervous system reacting to perceived threats. In today’s episode, I’m joined by somatic-based personal trainer Emily Decker to discuss how our bodies process information and why so many of us get stuck in cycles of anxiety and doom-scrolling. We explore the fascinating connection between our nervous system and the constant barrage of alarming headlines, plus why our bodies can’t distinguish between real physical danger and the emotional stress we get from media consumption.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/393

May 1, 2025 • 25min
392. You Are Not the Reference Point (Greatest Hits)
Do you find yourself getting frustrated when others don’t see things exactly as you do? When this happens and we’re activated, afraid, or overwhelmed, we often assume our perspective is the only “correct” one. This rigidity creates tension in relationships, leaving us feeling isolated and misunderstood. Sound familiar?In this episode, I’m revisiting a concept I call “You Are Not The Reference Point.” The key is realizing that your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors aren’t the standard by which everyone else should be measured. When we allow space for others’ perspectives, we open the door to better communication, greater acceptance, and less judgment. It’s a game-changer for any relationship!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/392

Apr 24, 2025 • 18min
391. My Top 3 Lessons From Being 43
After coaching thousands of women (and learning a lot from my own journey), I’ve realized that our brains are really good at focusing on what we haven’t yet accomplished, while completely glossing over what we have. That’s why it’s crucial to actively look for evidence of growth and progress.In this episode, I’m sharing the three biggest insights I gained during my 43rd year: how to handle differences of opinion in relationships without being triggered, how to make decisions even when you don’t have all the answers, and why no single achievement will change your life overnight. Tune in to hear how embracing the highs and lows of life can teach us everything we need to know about self-trust, decision-making, and staying grounded in uncertainty.For full show notes, transcript, and more information, go to: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/391

Apr 17, 2025 • 15min
390. Pretend You Have Amnesia - Instant Brain Reboot
Stuck on repeat with unhelpful thoughts? Discover a powerful mental tool to break free and embrace fresh perspectives. Explore how pretending to have amnesia can reset your mental narratives, helping you reevaluate self-perceptions and improve relationships. This engaging thought experiment encourages focusing on the present and appreciating successes without comparison. Embrace the amnesia mindset for a clearer, more positive outlook and renewed personal clarity.