UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

This episode dives into the common misconception that external circumstances shape our feelings. One caller grapples with how ambition can turn into a perfectionist trap. Another questions whether meditation is genuinely aiding emotional processing or simply helping them avoid discomfort. The host clarifies the distinction between true emotional work and avoidance, offering insights on reframing life questions to find meaningful answers. It's a thought-provoking exploration of stress management and personal growth in the quest for an extraordinary life.

Ever feel like you’re constantly trying to be the perfect friend, partner, coworker, or mom? That pressure to live up to everyone else’s expectations is a trap—and it’s keeping you stuck in self-sacrifice and people-pleasing. In this episode, I’m chatting with Elise Loehnen, author of On Our Best Behavior, about how we can stop chasing the impossible standard of “goodness” and start embracing our whole, authentic selves. We break down how society programs women to seek external approval—and why that’s keeping us disconnected from our real power. If you’re ready to stop living a performance and start showing up as your true self, let's go.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/418Mentioned in this episode:Have you been secretly dreaming of becoming a coach?I've got something for you. It's absolutely free and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach. This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start. To download it, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threeClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach

In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two relationship questions—one about wanting more time with your partner, the other about lingering anger when your needs feel unmet. Both reveal the same underlying problem: telling yourself you should feel differently. You’ll learn how to explore your anger and anxiety without adding guilt or shame. Plus, I show you how thought work can be used to get out of cycles of self-blame and to make choices about relationships from a place of insight rather than reaction. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/417Mentioned in this episode:Have you been secretly dreaming of becoming a coach?I've got something for you. It's absolutely free and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach. This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start. To download it, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threeClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach

Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t be giving advice, leading a project, or stepping into your own expertise because you’re not perfect—or not perfect enough? That’s expertise perfectionism—the constant self-doubt that tells you your knowledge isn’t enough and that every mistake means you’re failing.In this episode, I break down how to spot and release expertise perfectionism, why perfection isn’t the baseline for impact, and how to measure your effectiveness by the help you provide rather than the mistakes you fear. I show you how even beginners in any field can act with authority, grow their expertise, and make a meaningful difference—without waiting to feel “ready” or perfect.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/416Mentioned in this episode:Have you been secretly dreaming of becoming a coach?I've got something for you. It's absolutely free and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach. This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start. To download it, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threeClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach

In this Coaching Hotline episode, I tackle two powerful questions about self-acceptance and purpose. The first caller is a mom grappling with balancing acceptance of her son's autism and advocating for his needs. The second is struggling with perfectionism, confusion about her work, and quitting projects before they gain traction.Tune in to hear how to stop tying your identity to external outcomes and why emotional resistance isn’t helping you. I break down how to navigate self-doubt and frustration, and why your true work is learning to love and accept yourself first—no matter what’s going on around you.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/415Mentioned in this episode:Have you been secretly dreaming of becoming a coach?I've got something for you. It's absolutely free and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach. This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start. To download it, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threeClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach

If you love thought work and you've been toying with the idea of getting certified as a coach, I've got something for you. It's the hottest read of the summer, it's absolutely free, and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach. This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start, and I'm sharing it because I want you to know more than I did when I was contemplating that transition.To download it for yourself, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/three

Ever feel like you're just waiting for your purpose to magically appear, fully formed and ready to give your life meaning? The truth is, purpose isn’t something you find—it’s something you create. In this episode, you'll hear how purpose develops over time through small steps driven by what excites you, rather than a grand revelation.Discover how purpose isn’t a fixed destination—it’s about trusting those flickers of curiosity and interest and making intentional decisions along the way. Tune in to learn how to create your purpose by consistently moving toward what feels meaningful and exciting, even without knowing exactly where it will lead.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/414Mentioned in this episode:Have you been secretly dreaming of becoming a coach?I've got something for you. It's absolutely free and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach. This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start. To download it, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threeClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life CoachYour Last Chance to Join The Society in 2025!Get in before the doors close and take advantage of all the bonuses waiting for you inside: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/closingSociety Closing 2025

Ever notice how your brain immediately pushes back when you try to change those old, deeply ingrained thoughts? It feels like proof you’re doing it wrong—but actually, that resistance is exactly what should happen when you challenge those patterns. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into two powerful questions—one about creating new goal thoughts when nothing feels believable, and another about managing the anxiety that comes with anxious attachment (specifically when your partner doesn’t text back at night).You’ll learn why your brain’s objections to new thoughts are a sign you’re on the right track, not a reason to quit—and why you don’t need to believe your goal thought just yet. I also break down how to work with thought ladders when everything feels wrong, and why anxious attachment isn’t about what your partner is doing—it’s about the story you’re making up about it.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/413Mentioned in this episode:Have you been secretly dreaming of becoming a coach?I've got something for you. It's absolutely free and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach. This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start. To download it, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threeClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach

What if the key to your success isn’t in playing it safe, but embracing the discomfort of going after what you really want? In this Greatest Hits episode, I’m revisiting a powerful conversation with my dear friend and fellow master coach, Brenda Lomeli. Together, we discuss the courage, belief, and determination it takes to go after big goals—no matter the odds or the fear of failure. Brenda’s journey is a true testament to how breaking through limiting beliefs can create real, lasting success.Whether you’re starting a business, navigating personal growth, or simply pushing past your own limiting beliefs, this episode will give you the boost you need to keep moving forward. Tune in to learn how to step into your full potential and make it happen!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/412Mentioned in this episode:Have you been secretly dreaming of becoming a coach?I've got something for you. It's absolutely free and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach. This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start. To download it, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threeClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about fear, self-acceptance, and making empowered decisions. The first question explores the fear of being replaceable in a relationship, and we dive into why that fear is rooted in deeper beliefs about your uniqueness. Next, I coach a listener who’s terrified to undergo a second rhinoplasty after being unhappy with her first procedure. I talk about why changing external circumstances, like your appearance, won’t solve the internal struggle. Discover how learning to love yourself—just as you are—can create the lasting peace and confidence you’re seeking.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/411Mentioned in this episode:Have you been secretly dreaming of becoming a coach?I've got something for you. It's absolutely free and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach. This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start. To download it, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threeClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach