UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety.
Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it.
This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints.
If you ever find yourself asking questions like…
*Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal?
*How can I stop overthinking everything?
*Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different?
*Will I ever feel comfortable in my body?
*Am I a bad parent?
*How can I ask for more money at work?
*Can I stop people-pleasing?
*How can my partner and I communicate better?
… then you won’t want to miss an episode.
Visit schoolofnewfeministthought.com to learn more about The School of New Feminist Thought and more.
Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it.
This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints.
If you ever find yourself asking questions like…
*Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal?
*How can I stop overthinking everything?
*Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different?
*Will I ever feel comfortable in my body?
*Am I a bad parent?
*How can I ask for more money at work?
*Can I stop people-pleasing?
*How can my partner and I communicate better?
… then you won’t want to miss an episode.
Visit schoolofnewfeministthought.com to learn more about The School of New Feminist Thought and more.
Episodes
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Aug 26, 2025 • 11min
417. Coaching Hotline: Codependency & Anger
In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two relationship questions—one about wanting more time with your partner, the other about lingering anger when your needs feel unmet. Both reveal the same underlying problem: telling yourself you should feel differently. You’ll learn how to explore your anger and anxiety without adding guilt or shame. Plus, I show you how thought work can be used to get out of cycles of self-blame and to make choices about relationships from a place of insight rather than reaction. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/417
Aug 21, 2025 • 15min
416. Expertise Perfectionism is Sabotaging Your Success
Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t be giving advice, leading a project, or stepping into your own expertise because you’re not perfect—or not perfect enough? That’s expertise perfectionism—the constant self-doubt that tells you your knowledge isn’t enough and that every mistake means you’re failing.In this episode, I break down how to spot and release expertise perfectionism, why perfection isn’t the baseline for impact, and how to measure your effectiveness by the help you provide rather than the mistakes you fear. I show you how even beginners in any field can act with authority, grow their expertise, and make a meaningful difference—without waiting to feel “ready” or perfect.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/416
Aug 19, 2025 • 15min
415. Coaching Hotline: Confusion About Purpose & Accepting v Giving Up
In this Coaching Hotline episode, I tackle two powerful questions about self-acceptance and purpose. The first caller is a mom grappling with balancing acceptance of her son's autism and advocating for his needs. The second is struggling with perfectionism, confusion about her work, and quitting projects before they gain traction.Tune in to hear how to stop tying your identity to external outcomes and why emotional resistance isn’t helping you. I break down how to navigate self-doubt and frustration, and why your true work is learning to love and accept yourself first—no matter what’s going on around you.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/415
Aug 14, 2025 • 25min
414. How to Find Your Purpose
Ever feel like you're just waiting for your purpose to magically appear, fully formed and ready to give your life meaning? The truth is, purpose isn’t something you find—it’s something you create. In this episode, you'll hear how purpose develops over time through small steps driven by what excites you, rather than a grand revelation.Discover how purpose isn’t a fixed destination—it’s about trusting those flickers of curiosity and interest and making intentional decisions along the way. Tune in to learn how to create your purpose by consistently moving toward what feels meaningful and exciting, even without knowing exactly where it will lead.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/414Mentioned in this episode:Your Last Chance to Join The Society in 2025!Get in before the doors close and take advantage of all the bonuses waiting for you inside: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/closingSociety Closing 2025
Aug 12, 2025 • 12min
413. Coaching Hotline: Goal Thoughts & Anxious Attachment
Ever notice how your brain immediately pushes back when you try to change those old, deeply ingrained thoughts? It feels like proof you’re doing it wrong—but actually, that resistance is exactly what should happen when you challenge those patterns. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into two powerful questions—one about creating new goal thoughts when nothing feels believable, and another about managing the anxiety that comes with anxious attachment (specifically when your partner doesn’t text back at night).You’ll learn why your brain’s objections to new thoughts are a sign you’re on the right track, not a reason to quit—and why you don’t need to believe your goal thought just yet. I also break down how to work with thought ladders when everything feels wrong, and why anxious attachment isn’t about what your partner is doing—it’s about the story you’re making up about it.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/413
Aug 7, 2025 • 46min
412. Belief, Confidence, and Shattering Glass Ceilings: A Conversation with Brenda Lomeli (Greatest Hits)
What if the key to your success isn’t in playing it safe, but embracing the discomfort of going after what you really want? In this Greatest Hits episode, I’m revisiting a powerful conversation with my dear friend and fellow master coach, Brenda Lomeli. Together, we discuss the courage, belief, and determination it takes to go after big goals—no matter the odds or the fear of failure. Brenda’s journey is a true testament to how breaking through limiting beliefs can create real, lasting success.Whether you’re starting a business, navigating personal growth, or simply pushing past your own limiting beliefs, this episode will give you the boost you need to keep moving forward. Tune in to learn how to step into your full potential and make it happen!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/412
Aug 5, 2025 • 14min
411. Coaching Hotline: Fear of Being Replaceable & Plastic Surgery Regret
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about fear, self-acceptance, and making empowered decisions. The first question explores the fear of being replaceable in a relationship, and we dive into why that fear is rooted in deeper beliefs about your uniqueness. Next, I coach a listener who’s terrified to undergo a second rhinoplasty after being unhappy with her first procedure. I talk about why changing external circumstances, like your appearance, won’t solve the internal struggle. Discover how learning to love yourself—just as you are—can create the lasting peace and confidence you’re seeking.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/411
Jul 31, 2025 • 19min
410. Fear of Doing Harm is Holding You Back
What if your fear of making a mistake is actually keeping you from creating the biggest impact of your life? In this episode, I dive into why the pressure to be perfect—and avoid harm—keeps us stuck. Whether it’s in relationships, business, or parenting, the desire to avoid mistakes leads to paralysis. You’ll learn why showing up fully, making mistakes, and being willing to learn from them lets you make a much bigger impact than not showing up at all. This episode will challenge you to break free from perfectionism, start acting from integrity—and get out of the paralyzing grip of fear. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/410
Jul 29, 2025 • 15min
409. Coaching Hotline: Epigenetics, Jealousy & Suspicion
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I'm tackling a fascinating question about epigenetic trauma and how it intersects with thought work. I’m also answering a question from a listener whose ex-husband’s 20-year affair left her suspicious of her current partner. Both of these questions reveal how we let external circumstances—whether it’s scientific findings or past experiences—control our emotional lives. You’ll learn how to stop letting fear or past trauma dictate your decisions, how to manage relationship anxiety, and why trusting yourself is more important than putting your faith in outside forces.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/409
Jul 24, 2025 • 30min
408. Creating A New Future: A Conversation with Prentis Hemphill
What if healing isn’t about reaching some perfect end point, but about constantly rebuilding relationships—with yourself, with others, and with the world around you? In this episode, I’m talking with Prentis Hemphill, bestselling author of What it Takes to Heal, about how healing is actually a radical, ongoing process. We dive into how healing connects to social change, and how we can start resisting the futures we don’t want while building the ones we actually do.You’ll hear about tapping into your body’s wisdom, making real change through local action, and practicing who you want to be, rather than waiting for some magical transformation. This conversation will remind you that, no matter how chaotic things get, we hold the power to create the futures we want, one step at a time.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/408
