UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone 448. How Your Fantasy Self Can Lead You Astray
Dec 11, 2025
Explore the intriguing distinction between your future self and your fantasy self. Discover how fantasy can stall genuine growth by setting unrealistic ideals. Learn to recognize a useful future self that offers practical wisdom. Get insights on various topics like eating, exercise, and entrepreneurship. Utilize a checklist to identify if you're daydreaming or engaging with your future self. Finally, understand how real growth expands your emotional capacity, contrasting the numbing effects of fantasy.
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Fantasy Self Versus Future Self
- The fantasy self is a perfect, unreachable version of you that promises escape from imperfection.
- Fixating on that fantasy increases shame and keeps you stuck instead of promoting real growth.
Who Your Future Self Really Is
- The future self is a farther-ahead you who already achieved the goal and knows how you got there.
- She has perspective, compassion, and practical wisdom you can use to guide present decisions.
Choose Sustainable Health Habits
- Avoid rigid, perfectionist rules when changing eating or exercise habits.
- Instead, focus on sustainable, flexible practices and intrinsic reasons to move and eat well.