UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety.
Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it.
This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints.
If you ever find yourself asking questions like…
*Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal?
*How can I stop overthinking everything?
*Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different?
*Will I ever feel comfortable in my body?
*Am I a bad parent?
*How can I ask for more money at work?
*Can I stop people-pleasing?
*How can my partner and I communicate better?
… then you won’t want to miss an episode.
Visit schoolofnewfeministthought.com to learn more about The School of New Feminist Thought and more.
Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it.
This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints.
If you ever find yourself asking questions like…
*Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal?
*How can I stop overthinking everything?
*Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different?
*Will I ever feel comfortable in my body?
*Am I a bad parent?
*How can I ask for more money at work?
*Can I stop people-pleasing?
*How can my partner and I communicate better?
… then you won’t want to miss an episode.
Visit schoolofnewfeministthought.com to learn more about The School of New Feminist Thought and more.
Episodes
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Sep 23, 2025 • 11min
425. Coaching Hotline: Resisting Pleasure or Not Enjoying It
Do you ever feel like you're chasing future happiness—only to miss out on the joy of right now? That nagging feeling that you should be doing something else or preparing for what’s next keeps you stuck in a loop of dissatisfaction.In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two questions about being present and actually enjoying life, instead of endlessly striving for the next goal. I break down why our brains love to sabotage our peace and show you how to create mental space and challenge the beliefs that keep you from being present.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/425
Sep 18, 2025 • 15min
424. Turning Compare & Despair Into Motivation & Inspiration
Ever felt that gut punch when you see someone else living the life you want? Maybe they’ve landed your dream job, bought your ideal house, or achieved the business success you’re chasing. It feels awful—like proof that you’ll never get there.In this episode, I’m showing you how to turn those painful feelings of envy and comparison into fuel for your own growth. You’ll learn the two key questions to ask yourself when envy strikes, how to challenge the scarcity mindset that keeps you stuck, and most importantly, I’ll teach you how someone else’s success can become your roadmap, not your roadblock.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/424
Sep 16, 2025 • 11min
423. Coaching Hotline: Are Moods Contagious & When Should We Share Our Feelings?
In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that get right to the heart of emotional responsibility. First, I tackle the studies on mood contagion you’ve probably seen—and show why they don’t actually contradict thought work. The second question digs into a classic relationship trap: knowing when to share your feelings with a partner and when you’re actually trying to manipulate them into making you feel better. By the end, you’ll have concrete ways to approach tough conversations that build real intimacy instead of criticism or blame.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/423
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Sep 11, 2025 • 16min
422. Achieving Big By Planning Small
Discover why perfectionism can sabotage your path to success. Learn how rigid long-term plans can lead to procrastination instead of progress. Embrace the idea that taking the next right step matters more than meticulous planning. Understand how setting exciting yet scary goals can ignite your motivation. Dive into the journey of becoming a coach and explore essential strategies for goal-setting that prioritize immediate actions. Adaptability is highlighted as a crucial factor in achieving your ambitious dreams.
Sep 9, 2025 • 14min
421. Coaching Hotline: Are Some Circumstances Harder for Thought Work Than Others?
Ever feel judged while navigating friendships, especially with men? Discover why women are often burdened with managing others' perceptions. Explore the idea that some situations may seem harder for thought work, yet it’s our mindset that truly shapes the experience. Gain insight into how individual thought processes alter the difficulty we perceive. Plus, learn about a unique opportunity for those curious about life coaching and the steps to take toward this rewarding path.
Sep 4, 2025 • 22min
420. Is Coaching the Career for You?
The booming coaching industry is often misunderstood, facing skepticism around legitimacy and pyramid schemes. This discussion clarifies common myths, highlighting the low startup costs and flexible nature of coaching careers. Listeners learn about the necessary skills for success and how to determine if coaching aligns with personal strengths. Excitingly, there's a program designed to help aspiring coaches explore their potential and prepare for a fulfilling journey in this profession.
Sep 2, 2025 • 15min
419. Coaching Hotline: Am I Using Meditation to Escape My Feelings?
This episode dives into the common misconception that external circumstances shape our feelings. One caller grapples with how ambition can turn into a perfectionist trap. Another questions whether meditation is genuinely aiding emotional processing or simply helping them avoid discomfort. The host clarifies the distinction between true emotional work and avoidance, offering insights on reframing life questions to find meaningful answers. It's a thought-provoking exploration of stress management and personal growth in the quest for an extraordinary life.
Aug 28, 2025 • 34min
418. Undoing Your "Goodness" Programming: A Conversation with Elise Loehnen
Ever feel like you’re constantly trying to be the perfect friend, partner, coworker, or mom? That pressure to live up to everyone else’s expectations is a trap—and it’s keeping you stuck in self-sacrifice and people-pleasing. In this episode, I’m chatting with Elise Loehnen, author of On Our Best Behavior, about how we can stop chasing the impossible standard of “goodness” and start embracing our whole, authentic selves. We break down how society programs women to seek external approval—and why that’s keeping us disconnected from our real power. If you’re ready to stop living a performance and start showing up as your true self, let's go.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/418
Aug 26, 2025 • 12min
417. Coaching Hotline: Codependency & Anger
In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two relationship questions—one about wanting more time with your partner, the other about lingering anger when your needs feel unmet. Both reveal the same underlying problem: telling yourself you should feel differently. You’ll learn how to explore your anger and anxiety without adding guilt or shame. Plus, I show you how thought work can be used to get out of cycles of self-blame and to make choices about relationships from a place of insight rather than reaction. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/417
Aug 21, 2025 • 17min
416. Expertise Perfectionism is Sabotaging Your Success
Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t be giving advice, leading a project, or stepping into your own expertise because you’re not perfect—or not perfect enough? That’s expertise perfectionism—the constant self-doubt that tells you your knowledge isn’t enough and that every mistake means you’re failing.In this episode, I break down how to spot and release expertise perfectionism, why perfection isn’t the baseline for impact, and how to measure your effectiveness by the help you provide rather than the mistakes you fear. I show you how even beginners in any field can act with authority, grow their expertise, and make a meaningful difference—without waiting to feel “ready” or perfect.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/416
