UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone 458. How to Solve Insecurity (Greatest Hits)
Jan 15, 2026
Feel like you're always falling short? Dive into the roots of insecurity, discovering it’s not a flaw but a signal of emotional unsafety. Learn how society’s impossible standards keep us feeling inadequate. Explore why chasing external fixes fails and how to truly nurture emotional security from within. Find out how to choose your own values and practice self-compassion as two powerful pillars. Plus, get practical strategies to identify and question the worth standards you uphold, all while building a safer relationship with yourself.
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Insecurity Is Programmed, Not Discovered
- Insecurity is not an objective verdict but a programmed habit that predates specific failures.
- Kara Loewentheil explains society socializes people to feel inherently unworthy before any adult comparisons exist.
Impossible Contradictory Standards
- Society invents impossible, often contradictory standards that ensure people can never fully measure up.
- Kara points out these norms are designed to produce perpetual inadequacy and comparison.
Insecurity Finds New Targets
- The brain hunts for circumstances to attach its preexisting insecurity to, creating shifting targets.
- Kara explains that changing situations usually just moves the insecurity to a new
