Dr. Gabor Maté and Dr. Nicole LePera dive deep into the reasons behind recurring patterns of behavior, linking trauma and emotional pain to addiction and mental health struggles. They advocate for a compassionate, holistic approach to healing that acknowledges the connection between emotional and physical well-being. The duo also discusses the importance of self-compassion, curiosity, and understanding our inner selves. Practical strategies are shared to help listeners break free from ingrained habits and foster transformative personal growth.
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Addiction as Trauma Response
Addiction is not a choice or a disease, but a trauma response seeking relief from emotional pain.
Understanding addiction as an attempt to solve pain shifts perspective towards compassion, not blame.
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Changing Habits Gradually
Habits and patterns are stored in the subconscious mind and require gradual, whole-body approaches to change.
Consistent practice of small new choices helps bypass the nervous system's resistance to unfamiliarity.
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Curiosity and Regulation for Triggers
Become curious about your triggers and what unsafe feelings they reveal.
Practice regulating your nervous system through breathwork and sensory grounding before emotional overwhelm.
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In "You Are the One You've Been Waiting For," Richard Schwartz applies the principles of Internal Family Systems (IFS) to the complexities of intimate relationships. He explores how unresolved inner conflicts and unmet needs from childhood can manifest in relationship patterns. The book emphasizes self-compassion and self-leadership as crucial for creating healthy connections. Schwartz provides practical tools and techniques for understanding and healing relational wounds, fostering deeper intimacy and connection. It offers a transformative approach to understanding and improving relationships.
Introduction to Internal Family Systems
Second Edition
Richard C. Schwartz
This book introduces the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, which views the human psyche as composed of multiple 'parts' that interact like members of a family. Dr. Schwartz shares evidence, case studies, and self-care tools to help readers understand and heal their inner parts, leading to greater self-integration and harmony. The IFS approach emphasizes treating all parts with respect and empathy to unburden them from extreme beliefs and emotions.
The Myth of Normal
Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture
Gabor Maté
Daniel Maté
In this book, Gabor Maté and his son Daniel Maté challenge the prevailing understanding of 'normal' health, arguing that Western medicine often neglects the impact of trauma, stress, and modern-day living on our bodies and minds. They connect the dots between individual health issues and the broader societal problems, offering a compassionate guide for health and healing. The book is based on over four decades of clinical experience and is supported by extensive scientific research, patient stories, and personal disclosures.
Have you ever found yourself asking, “Why do I keep doing this?” If so, this episode is for you. Gabby is joined by three powerful voices in trauma healing and personal growth: Dr. Gabor Maté, Dr. Nicole LePera, and Dr. Richard Schwartz. They offer profound insights into the deeper reasons behind our struggles—and how to heal.
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