Dear Gabby Why You Keep Repeating Old Patterns (And How to Finally Break Free)
Apr 28, 2025
Dr. Gabor Maté and Dr. Nicole LePera dive deep into the reasons behind recurring patterns of behavior, linking trauma and emotional pain to addiction and mental health struggles. They advocate for a compassionate, holistic approach to healing that acknowledges the connection between emotional and physical well-being. The duo also discusses the importance of self-compassion, curiosity, and understanding our inner selves. Practical strategies are shared to help listeners break free from ingrained habits and foster transformative personal growth.
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Addiction as Trauma Response
- Addiction is not a choice or a disease, but a trauma response seeking relief from emotional pain.
- Understanding addiction as an attempt to solve pain shifts perspective towards compassion, not blame.
Changing Habits Gradually
- Habits and patterns are stored in the subconscious mind and require gradual, whole-body approaches to change.
- Consistent practice of small new choices helps bypass the nervous system's resistance to unfamiliarity.
Curiosity and Regulation for Triggers
- Become curious about your triggers and what unsafe feelings they reveal.
- Practice regulating your nervous system through breathwork and sensory grounding before emotional overwhelm.
