Mentally Stronger with Therapist Amy Morin 215 — Are You Addicted to Revenge? Why We Crave It and How to Break the Cycle with James Kimmel
May 26, 2025
James Kimmel Jr., a Yale researcher and author of The Science of Revenge, dives into the addictive nature of revenge. He explains how our brains crave retribution and shares personal stories that reveal the psychological roots of this urge. The conversation emphasizes the powerful benefits of forgiveness over resentment. Kimmel offers practical mental exercises to help listeners break free from toxic cycles and build resilience. Discover how letting go can lead to emotional healing and a stronger mindset!
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Kimmel's Personal Revenge Story
- James Kimmel Jr. was bullied severely as a teenager, including physical attacks and the killing of his dog by his bullies.
- This traumatic experience sparked his initial desire for revenge, shaping his life and research focus.
Revenge Activates Addiction Pathways
- Revenge is an evolved human craving to relieve pain from perceived injustice by hurting the offender or their proxies.
- This craving activates the brain's addiction pathways, explaining its powerful hold on us.
Revenge Perpetuates Pain Cycles
- Inflicting pain on others causes reciprocal pain in the person seeking revenge.
- Acts of revenge perpetuate harmful cycles of victimization and retaliation, leading to ongoing violence.
