The Seen and the Unseen - hosted by Amit Varma

Ep 303: The Loneliness of the Indian Man

Nov 14, 2022

07:23:30

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Episode guests

Nikhil Taneja

Highlights

AI Chapters

Episode notes

How to Be Creative During the Pandemic

02:22

Depression and Anxiety Disorder

05:57

Happiness Is in the Joy of the Present

02:19

Introduction

2min

The Scene and the Unseen - A Podcast on Economics, Politics and Behavior Science

3min

Growing Up Years Before the Internet

2min

How Did You Know You Were Born in Haryana? Varun Dukhira

4min

My Ambition, You Should Just Become That I Have to Make My Mother Proud

6min

How I Found My Voice Through the Internet

2min

What I Want to Double Click on Is Your Childhood

5min

My Mother Was a Teacher, I've Lost My Mother, My Mother's Elder Brother

3min

My Father Was Always Like, I'm Not Going to Be a Banker, You Know, but You Don't Have to Work for Him

4min

10.

My Father, I'm the Reason Why I Have Whatever Privilege I Have Today

3min

11.

You Know, I'm a Child, but Why Are You Getting Anger?

4min

12.

Are You Able to Shrug Off Those Layers?

6min

13.

Anxiety and Therapy

3min

14.

Is Your Mother Trying Her Best, but She Also Doesn't Live in India, We Want to Point What Can She Do?

4min

15.

The Great Human Tragedy Has Been, That the Illusion Never Lifts

5min

16.

What's Your Identity?

4min

17.

What I Learned at NIT

5min

18.

Is Your Role Number a Gender Issue in NIT Khuruk Shaitra?

3min

19.

I Was Like, Dude, Please Delete the Number

6min

20.

I'm a Kid. I've Come Very Close to Getting Beaten Up by These Guys, You Know?

4min

21.

I'm a Boy, This Is a Girl, This Is What They Do

4min

22.

I'll Do My Work at Yashraach

2min

23.

I Don't Know What I'm Doing in My Life but I've Been There, I'll Be Back

4min

24.

My Life Was Just a Story That Was Given to Me by Society and I Was Just Following the Narrative

3min

25.

Is Your Wife Not Emotional?

4min

26.

What I've Learned Over the Last Few Years About Gender

5min

27.

Feminist Women Are Not Your Enemy

3min

28.

How to Learn to Cook for a Woman's Life

4min

29.

Women and the Law of Attraction

4min

30.

Why Do We Don't Have Superheroes in India?

5min

31.

The Number One Way to Promote Any Film

2min

32.

Rahul Kapatamakan - The Hero of Love

2min

33.

Ranbir Kapoor and the Female Lead Films in India

4min

34.

The Male Actors in Vollywood Films

4min

35.

Ayushwans Films - Pandemic Has Happened Again

2min

36.

Agar My Bholi Makim Story Agar Was a Namagar

2min

37.

Film Social Issues - I'm Not a One Sorry I'm a Hero

4min

38.

Tiktok and Indian Society

4min

39.

Is There a Structure to What Works?

3min

40.

DDLJ and Admitha Chopra

6min

41.

I'm a 24 Year Old Who's Like You Have Free Say You Give a Little Bit of a Budget and Then Coke Studio the First Time Was Coming

6min

42.

You Tube You Tube

2min

43.

Tiktok and the Internet and It's Impact

4min

44.

The Future of Bollywood

2min

45.

Filmmaking and the Creator Economy

5min

46.

Filmmaking in India Is a Community Experience

2min

47.

You Don't Just Lose Money You Lose Time and Money

3min

48.

What Kind of Entertainment Are You Consuming?

6min

49.

Good Bad Films Are the Kind of Mindless Time Powers

3min

50.

I Can't Cry if I Want to Cry

3min

51.

The India Uncard Podcast

4min

52.

You Know if You're Not Earning the Money You Know There's No Chance You Won't Be in the Future

2min

53.

The Kahanks - I'm a Girlfriend and I've Never Met a Woman Before but I'll Never Call a Woman Again

4min

54.

I've Done Everything but I Was Not Doing and I'm Not Living My Own Story

5min

55.

I'm a Junior and I'm an Engineering College Student and I Started Writing for Ht Cafe in 2008 and I Was Like a Year Over I Don't Know What to Do

3min

56.

Teaching Changed People's Lives

5min

57.

I'm Gonna Change the Lives of the Kids

2min

58.

Teaching Journalism Is Not Just About Teaching but About Listening

4min

59.

The Subcultures of India and the Middle Bench Is a Catchall of a Subculture

4min

60.

What Is Your Story Beyond These Labels?

2min

61.

The Power of Stories and Empathy

6min

62.

I've Grown Up in a Misogynistic Setup Very Patriarchal Setup

2min

63.

Is This the Way the World Works?

3min

64.

How Stories Unite Us Labels Divide Us Right

1min

65.

The Kindness Project - You've Found a Device to Unlock That

5min

66.

You Don't Care About Us, You're Not Going to Be a Person

5min

67.

The Empathy Is Lacking in Our Society

4min

68.

Subkeys That Curve?

4min

69.

You Don't Have to Be Angered About This

2min

70.

Kindness Is a Theme That You've Spoken About a Lot in Your Life

4min

71.

Are You 14 Years Old?

3min

72.

Why Do They Hate Me?

2min

73.

I'm a Gentle Man, I Don't Think We Should Speak Him Stay

6min

74.

When I Got Hate, I'm Going to Give as Much Love as Possible

2min

75.

Social Impact Is Going to Look Down

2min

76.

The Internet Can Have the Opposite Effect

6min

77.

Is There a Paralysis When You Have Too Much Choice

2min

78.

I Don't Want to Cook Because I Can't Do This

6min

79.

How to Create a Safe Space for Young People to Talk About Sexual Harassment

2min

80.

Do You Like It?

4min

81.

Baidavi, My Bad Guys Have Been Over

2min

82.

Social Media Systems Created AIs That Push People to Extremes

3min

83.

How to Get More Views and Stay Relevant

4min

84.

Is There a Silent Majority Out There?

6min

85.

You Know I'm Not a Bully and I've Don't Want You to Tell Me Your Story

4min

86.

I've Been Homophobic Before and I'm a Bisexual and I Just Want to Have a Free Chat With You

4min

87.

What Has Happened After That?

3min

88.

Is There a Safe Space for Kids From Maharashtra?

4min

89.

I Love You and I Love Me to Pass and I'm Like 'Yas Queen'

4min

90.

Anxiety

3min

91.

Anxiety Turned Into a Problem When I Got Up at 7 30

4min

92.

I'm Gonna Take a Lot of My Clothes and I'll Have Trouble Getting Up My Bed

2min

93.

The Water Man Six Was the Kessahay

2min

94.

Mental Health Is Not a Foreign Thing

6min

95.

Depression and Anxiety Disorder

6min

96.

Happiness Is in the Joy of the Present

2min

97.

How Do You Survive in the System?

3min

98.

How to Avoid the Monday Morning Blues

2min

99.

I Love Bathtubs When I'm in a Hotel

3min

100.

Should We Be Feeling Gratitude?

5min

101.

Is There a One Size Fit All Solution to Mental Health?

3min

102.

The Pandemic and Your Episodes Really Helped Me

3min

103.

What Is Your Kind of Experience With Your Anxiety?

5min

104.

How to Be Creative During the Pandemic

2min

105.

The Pretense of Being Okay

2min

106.

I've Never Understanded Why We Have Hierarchies at Work

5min

107.

What Power Do We Have?

4min

108.

Is There a Designation Shift in You?

2min

109.

I Don't Know if I'm a Good Producer I'd Like to Thank You for Being Nice to Me

6min

110.

Workplace Culture and Empathy

3min

111.

Yuba - What's Your Mission?

3min

112.

What if the World Inverted Was Not a Series of Sketches

4min

113.

Is This the True Potential You Know?

2min

114.

I Was Like Hey Man This Can Really Have an Impact

4min

115.

You Know I Don't Want a Solution We'll Have

4min

116.

How Can We Make Sexual and Reproductive Health Accessible for Young People?

6min

117.

I'm I'm in the Series That's Coming Next to You

4min

118.

Human Kind by Rutgar Bhreakman

2min

119.

Book Review - Invisible Women by Max Fisher

2min

120.

Book Review - Homeland Elkis by Ayah Dakhtar

5min

121.

Devan's Song - Jobe Piyar to Samila Hamu Sikeholei

1min

122.

I Love the Before Series

5min

123.

House of the Dragon

5min

Women are not the only victims of patriarchy -- men are also diminished by it. Nikhil Taneja joins Amit Varma in episode 303 of The Seen and the Unseen to discuss what he has learnt about mental health, young people in India, the epidemic of loneliness in our country -- and the enormous power of storytelling. (For full linked show notes, go to SeenUnseen.in.) Also check out: 1. The Loneliness of the Indian Woman — Episode 259 of The Seen and the Unseen (w Shrayana Bhattacharya). 2. Nikhil Taneja on Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, IMDb and HT Brunch. 3. Yuvaa. 4. The internet—a toxic love story -- Nikhil Taneja. 5. The pandemic pretence of being ‘okay’ -- Nikhil Taneja. 6. Keeping up with the algorithms -- Nikhil Taneja. 7. It is okay for men to cry -- Nikhil Taneja. 8. Reject the mission statement of your gender -- Nikhil Taneja. 9. Kindness: Don't be an A**hole! -- Nikhil Taneja. 10. Why young Indians are lonelier than ever before -- Nikhil Taneja. 11. How stories can heal our divided world -- Nikhil Taneja. 12. Nikhil Taneja on Advertising is Dead with Varun Duggirala. 13. Nikhil Taneja on the Filter Koffee Podcast with Karthik Nagarajan. 14. The Hunter Becomes the Hunted — Episode 200 of The Seen and the Unseen. 15. Episodes on The Seen and the Unseen that touched on feminism & gender with Paromita Vohra, Kavita Krishnan, Mrinal Pande, Kavitha Rao, Namita Bhandare, Shrayana Bhattacharya, Mukulika Banerjee, Manjima Bhattacharjya, Nilanjana Roy, Urvashi Butalia, Mahima Vashisht, Alice Evans, Ashwini Deshpande and Natasha Badhwar. 16. Hitesh Kewalya on Twitter, Instagram and IMDb. 17. Shubh Mangal Saavdhan and Shubh Mangal Zyada Saavdhan. 18. Dev Anand and Roger Corman. 19. The Reflections of Samarth Bansal -- Episode 299 of The Seen and the Unseen. 20. This Be The Verse — Philip Larkin. 21. Caste, Capitalism and Chandra Bhan Prasad — Episode 296 of The Seen and the Unseen. 22. Gendered Leadership Course by Angellica Aribam. 23. Young India — Episode 83 of The Seen and the Unseen (w Snigdha Poonam). 24. Dreamers — Snigdha Poonam. 25. Men Must Step Up Now -- Amit Varma. 26. Beedi Jali Le -- Song from Omkara. 27. NH 10 (Navdeep Singh), Hichki (Siddharth Malhotra), Chhapaak (Meghna Gulzar), Rashmi Rocket (Akarsh Khurana) and Queen (Vikas Bahl). 28. Ghostbusters (2016, Paul Feig) and The Lost City (Nee Brothers). 29. 3 Idiots (Rajkumar Hirani), Dangal (Nitesh Tiwari), Badhaai Ho (Amit Ravindernath Sharma), Kantara (Rishab Shetty) and Thugs of Hindostan (Vijay Krishna Acharya). 30. Aamir Khan on Koffee With Karan (2018). 31. Parasite -- Bong Joon-ho. 32. Asghar Farhadi on Wikipedia and IMDb. 33. Delhi Crime. 34. TikTok and Indian Society -- The online course conducted by Amit Varma, now no longer on offer. 35. Vicky Donor (Shoojit Sircar) and RRR (SS Rajamouli). 36. Salim-Javed. 37. Range Rover — The archives of Amit Varma’s poker column for the Economic Times. 38. Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge (Aditya Chopra) and Kaho Naa... Pyaar Hai (Rakesh Roshan). 39. Dev D (Anurag Kashyap), Udaan (Vikramaditya Motwane) and Oye Lucky Oye Lucky (Dibakar Banerjee). 40. Bhuvam Bam, Prajakta Koli and Amit Bhadana. 41. Man's World (Y-Films) and Ki & Ka (R Balki). 42. The Refreshing Audacity of Vinay Singhal — Episode 291 of The Seen and the Unseen. 43. Mumbai Diaries 26/11 -- NIkhil Advani. 44. 1000 True Fans — Kevin Kelly. 45. 1000 True Fans? Try 100 — Li Jin. 46. If You Are a Creator, This Is Your Time -- Amit Varma. 47. Episodes of The Seen and the Unseen on the creator ecosystem with Roshan Abbas, Varun Duggirala, Neelesh Misra, Snehal Pradhan, Chuck Gopal, Nishant Jain, Deepak Shenoy and Abhijit Bhaduri. 48. One Cut of the Dead — Shin’ichirō Ueda. 49. Dance Dance For the Halva Waala -- Episode 294 of The Seen and the Unseen (w Jai Arjun Singh and Subrat Mohanty). 50. Steven Soderbergh, Kevin Smith (Clerks), Sofia Coppola and Richard Linklater. 51. The Life and Work of Ashwini Deshpande -- Episode 298 of The Seen and the Unseen. 52. Ingmar Bergman, Federico Fellini and Mani Kaul. 53. Andaz Apna Apna (Rajkumar Santoshi), Gunda (Kanti Shah) and Disco Dancer (Babbar Subhash). 54. Womaning in India With Mahima Vashisht -- Episode 293 of The Seen and the Unseen. 55. Womaning in India — Mahima Vashisht’s newsletter. 56. Desperately Seeking Shah Rukh: India’s Lonely Young Women and the Search for Intimacy and Independence — Shrayana Bhattacharya. 57. Memories and Things — Episode 195 of The Seen and the Unseen (w Aanchal Malhotra). 58. Remnants of a Separation — Aanchal Malhotra. 59. Shravana Kumara, the pious son. 60. Kavitha Rao and Our Lady Doctors — Episode 235 of The Seen and the Unseen (w Kavitha Rao). 61. Lady Doctors: The Untold Stories of India’s First Women in Medicine — Kavitha Rao. 62. Penelope Fitzgerald on Amazon and Wikipedia. 63. Roshan Abbas and the Creator Economy -- Episode 239 of The Seen and the Unseen. 64. Kuch Kuch Hota Hai -- Karan Johar. 65. The Chaos Machine -- Max Fisher. 66. The Social Dilemma -- Jeff Orlowski. 67. The Flying Spaghetti Monster. 68. Coming Out as Bisexual -- Mohit's talk at Main Hoon Yuvaa. 69. Nikhil Taneja's Twitter thread on his anxiety. 70. Nikhil Taneja's Facebook post on his anxiety. 71. Chandrahas Choudhury’s Country of Literature — Episode 288 of The Seen and the Unseen. 72. Turtles All the Way Down -- John Green. 73. Don’t think too much of yourself. You’re an accident — Amit Varma’s column on Chris Cornell’s death. 74. The Road to Freedom — Arthur C Brooks. 75. Amit Varma's favourite shower gel. 76. The Prem Panicker Files — Episode 217 of The Seen and the Unseen. 77. Amitava Kumar Finds the Breath of Life — Episode 265 of The Seen and the Unseen. 78. Schitt's Creek, Kim's Convenience and Parks and Recreation. 79. Greatest Events of WWII in Colour -- The Netflix docuseries mentioned by Nikhil. 80. Zeynep Tufekci’s newsletter, Twitter and column archive. 81. Ed Yong on Twitter, Amazon, The Atlantic and his own website. 82. My Friend Dropped His Pants -- Amit Varma. 83. Love Actually, Four Weddings and a Funeral and Notting Hill by Richard Curtis. 84. Project Everyone. 85. Ladies Room, 6 Pack Band and Bang Baaja Baaraat. 86. Maja Ma -- Anand Tiwari. 87. Phone Bhoot, Badhaai Ho and Crash Course. 88. Let's Talk Consent. 89. Queeristan -- Episode 190 of The Seen and the Unseen (w Parmesh Shahani).. 90. Gray (Sakshi Gurnani) and Tasalli Se (Tarun Dudeja). 91. Dear Teenage Me.-- A podcast by Yuvaa on Spotify. 92. Humankind: A Hopeful History -- Rutger Bregman. 93. The Stanford Prison Experiment. 94. Invisible Women — Caroline Criado Perez. 95. Will -- Will Smith's autobiography. 96. Homeland Elegies -- Ayad Akhtar. 97. Yearbook -- Seth Rogan. 98. Shamoon Ismail on YouTube and Spotify. 99. Vampire Weekend on YouTube and Spotify. 100. Dev D by Amit Trivedi. 101. Hum Hai Rahi Pyar Ke -- Song from Nau Do Gyarah, starring Dev Anand. 102. The Before Trilogy by Richard Linklater. 103. Rambling Man -- An interview of Richard Linklater by Nikhil Taneja. 104. Superchor -- Song from Oye Lucky Lucky Oye. 104. Succession, Ted Lasso and Bojack Horseman. 105. Someone Who Will Love You in All Your Damaged Glory -- Raphael Bob-Waksberg. 106. The Lord of the Rings -- JRR Tolkein. 107. The Lord of the Rings -- The films. 108. The Lord of the Rings: The Rings of Power. 109. 8 Book Recommendations by Nikhil Taneja on Chalchitra Talks. 110. Weekly Movie Recommendations by Nikhil Taneja on Chalchitra Talks. 111. 80 Marvelous Recommendations by Nikhil Taneja on Chalchitra Talks. 112. Nikhil Taneja's 2020 and 2021 recommendations on Instagram. 113. Nikhil Taneja's 2022 favourites, specially compiled for The Seen and the Unseen. Check out Amit’s online course, The Art of Clear Writing. And subscribe to The India Uncut Newsletter. It’s free! Episode art: ‘I'm not lonely' by Simahina.

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