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How Not to Ruin Your Relationships | Drs. John & Julie Gottman

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Feb 7, 2024
Join renowned relationship experts John and Julie Gottman as they share over 40 years of groundbreaking research on marital stability. Discover effective communication strategies to tackle conflicts, and learn why constructive criticism may not be as helpful as you think. The Gottmans delve into their Sound Relationship House Theory, emphasizing trust and commitment. They also explore the complexities of betrayal, the unique role of humor, and how mindfulness can enhance emotional connections in relationships.
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ANECDOTE

Meeting at a Coffee House

  • Julie Gottman met John at a coffee house, finding him sexy in his leather attire.
  • Five months later, they were engaged, drawn together by chance and John's 'ugliest car' charm.
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Combining Research and Clinical Practice

  • Julie, initially working with trauma victims, maintained a separate practice from John's research.
  • Eight years later, inspired by John's findings, they began collaborating, leading to new theories and the Gottman Institute.
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Origin of Gottman's Research

  • John Gottman's initial research stemmed from personal relationship struggles with his friend Bob Levinson.
  • Their cluelessness led to observational research comparing happy and miserable couples, yielding surprising predictive accuracy.
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