Why “I Don’t Care Anymore” Is a Sign of Growth in Your Midlife with Dr. Mindy Pelz (Part 2)

Jan 7, 2026

In this engaging discussion, Dr. Mindy Pelz, a functional medicine clinician and author specializing in women's health, explores the transformative aspects of midlife. She highlights how declining estrogen leads to a shift in priorities, allowing women to reclaim their authentic voices. Mindy discusses the complexities of marriage and career reassessment during this phase, addressing struggles with people-pleasing and fostering independence. She encourages embracing menopause as a powerful initiation into leadership and wisdom, emphasizing the importance of support from older women.

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INSIGHT

Midlife “I Don’t Care” Is Normal

Many midlife women suddenly feel they "don't care" about previous obligations due to neurochemical changes.
Mindy Pelz explains this shift as a normal, biologically driven stage, not failure.

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Decade Of Reassessment

The 40s prompt reassessment of marriages, careers, and identity as priorities shift.
Lori Harder and Mindy Pelz describe it as a time to find where you now fit.

ANECDOTE

Craving Solitude After Kids Leave

Mindy Pelz recounts craving solitude after years of an extroverted family life and telling her husband she needed solo vacations.
Her family initially reacted confused, prompting important household conversations.

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I love this conversation because it names something so many women feel but rarely say out loud. That moment when you wake up and realize you can’t keep doing things the same way anymore. In Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Mindy Pelz, we dive into the identity shift women experience in midlife and why suddenly not being able to do it all, for everyone, is not a failure, it’s biology. Dr. Mindy breaks down what’s actually happening in the brain as estrogen declines, why people-pleasing patterns fall away, and how this phase of life is designed to reconnect you to your authentic voice. We talk about marriages, careers, solitude, resentment, and why menopause is actually an initiation into leadership, wisdom, and truth. Tune in to understand why this phase isn’t a breakdown, it’s a becoming.

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HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Why so many marriages and careers are reassessed in midlife.

04:30 How to communicate your changes without blowing up your relationships.07:45 How menopause rewires the brain away from people-pleasing.

10:45 What happens when estrogen declines?

11:30 Why the “We Do Not Care” phase is biologically normal.

19:30 Why estrogen trained women to prioritize others.

22:30 How menopause is designed to move women into leadership.

28:30 Why success, work, and ambition must look different as women age.

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