Speaking of Psychology Lessons from the ‘Love Lab’ on how to strengthen your relationship, with John Gottman, PhD, and Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD
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Nov 20, 2024 John Gottman, an Emeritus professor of psychology and co-founder of the Gottman Institute, and Julie Schwartz Gottman, a clinical psychologist specializing in distressed couples, delve into the secrets of nurturing strong relationships. They discuss understanding your partner’s 'bids for connection' and the myth that you should avoid bedtime arguments. The Gottmans share practical strategies for conflict resolution, the impact of technology on relationships, and emphasize that any couple can learn to communicate better, making love last through challenges.
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Predicting Divorce
- John Gottman could predict divorce with 90% accuracy by analyzing short video interactions.
- Masters of relationships showed more interest and positivity, even in mundane conversations.
Research Methodology
- John Gottman's research analyzed video interactions.
- Physiological measures like heart rate were also considered.
Four Horsemen
- The "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) predict relationship failure.
- Contempt, an air of superiority, is the most destructive.