Dr John and Dr Julie Gottman discuss how to argue better in relationships, focusing on raising complaints with partners and reacting positively. They emphasize the importance of expressing feelings, finding compromises, and addressing grievances with empathy. The podcast explores destructive communication patterns and the power of accepting influence to improve relationships.

Today, I talk to John and Julie Gottman to discuss how to strengthen relationships. Dr. Julie and John share their thoughts on why we should stop being the person who we think our partners like and start being our genuine selves, what can we do to build and/or improve intimacy with our partner, and how to deal with the changes you and your partner go through without losing the connection and stay committed to each other.  Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman is a co-founder and President of The Gottman Institute and co-founder of Affective Software, Inc. with her husband John Gottman. For over 40 years they have devoted their life to the research and practice of fostering healthy, long-lasting relationships through the training of clinicians and the creation of transformative products for couples around the world.  You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:08 What qualities should we focus on when we start dating a person? 05:25 We are always molding ourselves in accordance to someone else’s preferences 11:09 The role of self-esteem and self awareness in healthy relationships 16:57 What happens when we limit ourselves in meeting people online 24:45 Why asking a ‘big’ question is important in building intimacy? 28:27 How do you deal with your partner and the constant changes they go through? 33:36 Finding new ways to stay connected with your partner 38:58 This is why you need to focus more on the positive aspects of your relationship 42:57 Expressing gratitude and explaining why you’re thankful ads more depth to the moment 50:00 Is there a way to know if a relationship can last?    Episode Resources The Gottman Institute The Gottman Institute | Facebook The Gottman Institute | Instagram The Gottman Institute | YouTube The Gottman Institute | Twitter The Gottman Institute | Books Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman and Dr. John Gottman discuss couple's therapy and relationships, including the impact of quality relationships on lifespan, different fighting styles, the 5:1 ratio for successful fights, signs of healthy/unhealthy relationships, the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, love languages, building trust and happiness, handling irreconcilable fights, and advice for common listener fights.

John Gottman, an Emeritus professor of psychology and co-founder of the Gottman Institute, and Julie Schwartz Gottman, a clinical psychologist specializing in distressed couples, delve into the secrets of nurturing strong relationships. They discuss understanding your partner’s 'bids for connection' and the myth that you should avoid bedtime arguments. The Gottmans share practical strategies for conflict resolution, the impact of technology on relationships, and emphasize that any couple can learn to communicate better, making love last through challenges.

Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman discuss the importance of understanding deeper meanings in relationships. They explore conflict resolution, expressions of love, physical touch, and vulnerability in relationships. The podcast delves into the key elements of great love lives and the impact of communication and gratitude on nurturing intimacy.