You Have Permission

Love & Perfectionism in Raising Kids (#166)

Oct 17, 2022

01:33:55

Highlights

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Episode notes

The Science of Parenting

02:34

Is Your Child Melting Down Because They're Not in Control?

03:25

Is There Such a Thing as Spirituality?

01:37

Introduction

2min

Canva

3min

Is This Book an Anti How To?

3min

Bringing Up Kids When Church Let's You Down

2min

Is There a Bernstein Bears for This?

2min

Why Are You So Anxious?

2min

The Science of Parenting

3min

Is Attachment Really Secure or Insecure?

4min

How to Deal With a Parent Who Threatens to Throw You Out on the Street

2min

10.

The Parenting Battle Is Not Just Laughing

3min

11.

How to Communicate Love With Your Child

3min

12.

Attached to God by Chris Ben Mayfield

2min

13.

My Righteousness Is as Filthy Rags

2min

14.

The Atoning Blood of Christ Is the Only Mechanism That Matters

2min

15.

I Love You, but if There's a Thousand Little Landmines, You've Lost Your Salvation

2min

16.

The Whole Brain Child. No Drama Discipline. The Yes Brain

2min

17.

Is Your Child Melting Down Because They're Not in Control?

3min

18.

Are You Dealing With the Amygdala?

2min

19.

The Root of All My Children's Behavior Was Sin and Rebellion

3min

20.

Are We Really Responsible for Our Behaviors?

5min

21.

Parenting

3min

22.

Parenting Is So Wild

2min

23.

How to Parent - Is There a Way to Make Therapy Cheaper?

3min

24.

Is There a Difference Between DBT and Group Therapy?

2min

25.

What Should We Know About Lisa Miller?

3min

26.

Is There Such a Thing as Spirituality?

2min

27.

How Can a Good Church Be a Source of Love?

2min

28.

Are You Getting What You Need?

3min

29.

How Did You Feel When You Hit Joaquin?

2min

30.

Choosing Joy in the Midst of Suffering

2min

31.

Lisa Miller's Child Development Approach

4min

32.

Can I Have Spirituality Without It Being Defined by Sin?

3min

33.

Is My Bible Study Trauma Bonding?

5min

34.

Bringing Up Kids When Church, Church Lets You Down

2min

This is the first of a number of episodes focusing on child raising in and around Christianity. Author and journalist Bekah McNeel joins me today to discuss her book "Bringing up Kids When Church Lets You Down: A Guide for Parents Questioning Their Faith." Bekah says, "we need to see our children as people with emotional realities and needs, and how we communicate love has to take that into account." We focus on parental humility, attachment wounds, faith assumptions, and widening who gets to participate in the biblical dialogue.

Bekah’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Bringing-Kids-When-Church-Lets/dp/0802882099

Bonnie Christian’s Book “Untrustworthy”: https://www.amazon.com/Untrustworthy-Knowledge-Polluting-Corrupting-Christian/dp/1587435624

Justin Barrett’s Book “Born Believers”: https://www.amazon.com/Born-Believers-Science-Childrens-Religious/dp/1439196540

Meredith Ann Miller’s IG - @meredithannemiller: https://instagram.com/meredithannemiller?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

Tina Payne Bryson’s “The Whole Brain Child” Book: https://www.amazon.com/Whole-Brain-Child-Revolutionary-Strategies-Developing/dp/0553386697/ref=asc_df_0553386697/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312177564685&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=3177707942758496481&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9019667&hvtargid=pla-436541850135&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=60258870697&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312177564685&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=3177707942758496481&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9019667&hvtargid=pla-436541850135

Nomad Podcast “The Spiritually Awakened Brain” with Dr. Lisa Miller: https://www.nomadpodcast.co.uk/lisa-miller-the-spiritually-awakened-brain-n281/

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