

Feelings Are Valid, Reacting To Them Is Not | Dr. Aliza Pressman
153 snips Jul 30, 2025
In a lively discussion, Dr. Aliza Pressman, a developmental psychologist and parenting expert, shares insights on the importance of self-regulation in emotional management. She emphasizes that feelings are valid, but how we react to them matters more. Aliza addresses the challenges parents face today, advocating for emotional awareness and modeling regulation for children. She encourages finding joy in small moments and highlights the balance between parenting and self-care, ultimately arguing that resilience is cultivated through both support and adversity.
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Practice Micro Self-Regulation
- Use micro-moments for self-regulation, not just long meditation sessions.
- Quick reflection steps like taking 10 mindful steps can reset emotional state rapidly.
Regulation After Dysregulation
- Emotional regulation is about managing reaction after dysregulation, not avoiding feelings.
- Stoicism means recognizing emotional responses but choosing responsible actions afterwards.
Guide Children's Emotional Interpretation
- Validate children's feelings but help them understand realistic reasons behind disappointments.
- Guide their anger towards what caused the disappointment, not blaming the parent.