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Why We Resist Change (and What to Do About It) with Ross Ellenhorn

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Jul 22, 2025
Ross Ellenhorn, a therapist and author, dives deep into the often-unseen reasons behind our resistance to change. He highlights how small steps can feel overwhelming and explores the paradoxical 'fear of hope' that hinders progress. Listeners gain insight into the six saboteurs of self-control that derail intentions, stressing the importance of social support in overcoming challenges. By emphasizing incremental changes and self-compassion, Ross offers a refreshing perspective on personal transformation and the emotional complexities tied to growth.
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Sameness Shields From Disappointment

  • Staying the same feels protective because it shields us from disappointment and feelings of helplessness.
  • Avoiding change can be a form of self-love to prevent the fear of failing and being seen as incapable.
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Fear of Hope Harms Motivation

  • Hope is crucial as a mindset to get through uncertainty toward what we desire.
  • Fear of hope poisons motivation because hope can lead to painful disappointment.
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Change Exposes Aloneness and Accountability

  • Change exposes our aloneness and forces us to take accountability for our lives.
  • This existential anxiety makes people avoid change to escape feeling alone and responsible.
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