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How to Stop the War Against Yourself | Tara Brach

Dec 7, 2022

Tara Brach, a meditation teacher and author, discusses the dangers of self-criticism and its impact on self-acceptance. She shares the concept of being addicted to self-hatred and presents simple meditative techniques, like RAIN, for self-forgiveness. Brach emphasizes the importance of recognizing our inherent goodness and cultivating kindness towards ourselves to combat feelings of inadequacy. The conversation also highlights the transformative power of self-compassion and how it can enhance personal growth and relationships.

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What Is It I'm Really Wanting?

01:14

The Addiction to Self-Forgiveness

01:38

Meditation Practices to Help Touch in on Deep Qualities

03:35

Who Would You Be if You Really Believed You Were Safe?

02:45

Intro

5min

Embracing Imperfection: The Lesson of the Leaning Buddha

3min

Embracing Wholeness: The Journey to Self-Acceptance

15min

The Impact of Hardworking Mothers and Humor in Life's Journey

2min

Embracing Self-Forgiveness

21min

Cultivating Gratitude and Forgiveness for Self-Compassion

3min

Healing Through RAIN: A Journey of Self-Forgiveness

25min

Bridging Inner and Outer Divides

2min

Cultivating Empathy and Mindfulness in Community

4min

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It’s possible to actually be addicted to self-criticism, especially as a way to keep yourself safe. But evidence shows that’s not true, and today’s episode dives into strategies to deal with your own self-hatred.

This is part two of a series this week on forgiveness. In our last episode, Jack Kornfield focused on forgiving other people and in today’s episode, Tara Brach talks about forgiving yourself.

Tara Brach is a meditation teacher, psychologist and author of several books including Radical Acceptance, Radical Compassion and Trusting the Gold. Her weekly podcast is downloaded 3 million times a month. Tara is also the founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington.

In this episode we talk about:

Why Tara says self-hatred “divides us from our ourselves”
The benefits of learning the habit to stop kicking our own asses
Simple meditations to help us with self-forgiveness
Questions that can help us understand what really matters to us, and what we really want
The power of seeing the profundity in mundane experiences
A refresher on a fan favorite meditation technique: RAIN
How to start trusting reality more than we believe the beliefs about ourselves
Forgiveness vs accountability

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