The Root of Your Anxiety and Stress | Dr. Julia DiGangi
Dec 5, 2023
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Dr. Julia DiGangi, an expert in the connection between our brains and our behavior, shares valuable insights in this episode. Topics include navigating emotions, locating the root cause of pain, regaining psychological techniques to regain power, and unleashing full potential. The podcast also covers the impact of stress on relationships, the power of facing trauma, and the importance of practicing the skill of rest.
Understanding and navigating your emotions is crucial in leading a satisfying life.
Align your actions and behaviors with the energy you want to cultivate in your relationships.
Continuously evaluate the outcomes of your efforts in improving relationships and be open to change.
Embracing uncertainty and cultivating emotional power through self-trust is essential for personal growth.
Deep dives
Take Inventory of Yourself and Your Partner
The first step is to take inventory of yourself and your partner. Pay attention to your emotions and the behaviors they drive. Understand what you are doing and how it contributes to the situation.
Embody the Energy You Desire
Next, ask yourself what energy you want in the relationship. Whether it's kindness, responsiveness, or something else, focus on embodying that energy yourself. Be willing to change your own behaviors and actions to align with the energy you want.
Evaluate the Results
Continuously evaluate the results of your efforts. Consider whether the changes you are making are creating the desired outcomes and improving the relationship. Reflect on the progress and be honest about whether more work or a different approach is needed.
Decide If It's Time to Walk Away
Ultimately, you may need to decide if the relationship is worth continuing. If you have put in significant effort, taken inventory of yourself and the relationship, and explored different approaches, but still do not see positive changes, it may be time to consider walking away from the relationship.
The Power of Certainty and Self-Trust
The podcast explores the human brain's aversion to uncertainty and its natural drive to seek certainty. It emphasizes the importance of creating a healthy relationship with certainty and the dangers of over-functioning to create certainty. The definition of anxiety is discussed as a disturbed relationship with certainty. The podcast highlights the power of self-trust as the opposite of uncertainty and encourages embracing uncertainty to cultivate emotional power.
The Energy of Emotional Discomfort
The podcast delves into the concept of emotional energy and the importance of addressing and releasing emotional pain. It discusses the tendency to avoid uncomfortable emotions and the negative impact it has on our well-being and perceptions of reality. The speaker encourages embracing emotional discomfort to allow for emotional flow and personal growth. The importance of self-trust and the belief in inherent worthiness are emphasized as key to transitioning from fear-based living to emotional power.
Rest as an Essential Skill
The podcast highlights the significance of rest as a vital aspect of success and well-being. It challenges the belief that rest is a waste of time and explores the difficulty in truly resting amidst the pressures of work and societal expectations. The importance of building the skill of rest and acclimating to the discomfort of slowing down is emphasized. The impact of restlessness on physical, emotional, and relational health is discussed, encouraging individuals to prioritize rest as a means of accessing emotional power.
#61: Dr. Julia DiGangi has nearly two decades of experience studying the connection between our brains and our behavior. Her understanding of stress, trauma, and resilience has allowed her to show people how to harness the power of the brain to lead more satisfying and emotionally intelligent lives.
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