Ep 13: "It's Okay Not To Be Okay" - Feeling Contrast + How To Respond When It Feels Like Things Are Falling Apart
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Aug 31, 2022
Sam and Gina dive into the journey of emotional healing, embracing the complex feelings of sadness and anxiety without the rush to resolve them. They discuss the dual nature of joy and pain, highlighting how contrast enriches our lives. Music's transformative power in processing emotions shines through in their conversation. They explore the essence of self-perception and shadow work, emphasizing the importance of reframing thoughts and taking responsibility for our feelings. Ultimately, embracing life's ups and downs lays the foundation for true resilience and growth.
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Accepting Negative Emotions
Accept negative emotions instead of trying to fix them immediately.
Acknowledge that it's okay if these emotions don't disappear right away.
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Resistance Persists
Trying to force emotions to go away can intensify them, especially for your inner child.
Approach emotional regulation with self-compassion and allow yourself time to process.
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Focus Inward
Prioritize getting back into a positive emotional state ("the vortex").
Focus on what you can control, like your thoughts and feelings, not external events.
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This book, first published in 1989, outlines seven habits that are designed to help individuals become more effective in their personal and professional lives. The habits are grouped into three categories: Private Victory (habits 1-3), Public Victory (habits 4-6), and Renewal (habit 7). The habits include being proactive, beginning with the end in mind, putting first things first, thinking win-win, seeking first to understand and then to be understood, synergizing, and sharpening the saw. Covey emphasizes the importance of personal integrity, effective time management, empathetic communication, and continuous self-improvement[2][5][4].
Loving What Is
Four Questions That Can Change Your Life
Stephen Mitchell
Byron Katie
In 'Loving What Is,' Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell present 'The Work,' a simple yet powerful process of self-inquiry. The book teaches readers how to apply four key questions to any problem, enabling them to see their troubles in a new light. Katie's method emphasizes that suffering is not caused by the situation itself but by our thoughts about it. Through clear examples and dialogues, the book shows how to apply 'The Work' in various areas of life, such as relationships, work, and personal anxieties, leading to lasting peace, clarity, and energy. The process helps readers accept reality as it is, rather than resisting it, and promotes a transformative practice for spiritual growth and mental well-being[2][3][4].
A New Earth
Eckhart Tolle
In 'A New Earth,' Eckhart Tolle expands on the ideas presented in his previous book, 'The Power of Now.' He argues that our attachment to the ego is the root of suffering, anger, jealousy, and unhappiness. Tolle provides insights and practical advice on how to awaken to a new state of consciousness, letting go of ego-based thinking and embracing the present moment. The book emphasizes the importance of living in the now, recognizing the interconnectedness of all beings, and finding true fulfillment by aligning with one's inner purpose rather than external roles or material possessions[2][3][5].
Do the Work
Steven Pressfield
In this healing conversation, Sam and Gina both acknowledge how much contrast (negative emotion) they've been experiencing recently and how to move through it. They weave through topics like:
-How to deal with what other people think about you
-Shadow Work + How to recognize it
-The power of Byron Katie's "The Work"
-How changing yourself is the only true way to experience change
-What you have control over vs. what you do not
It's conversations like this one that remind both hosts exactly why they started this podcast: To heal. We hope you enjoy this one and always lovingly invite you to connect with us through socials! Here's to spiralling higher.
Spiraling Higher 
