Ep. 264: IN-DEPTH: How to Master Change (with Brad Stulberg)
Sep 4, 2023
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Cal talks with Brad Stulberg, author of 'Master of Change,' about embracing and thriving during inevitable changes in life. They explore concepts like rethinking homeostasis and adaptability, discuss the importance of rugged flexibility and taking action, and touch on creating stability in Asheville. They also cover book summaries, VPNs, remote work challenges, and the process of creating a subtitle for Brad's book.
Rugged flexibility is crucial for navigating change and finding stability in life.
When faced with major changes, it is important to shift perspectives and embrace the new, taking small actions in the new direction.
Seeking support from others, activating the seeking pathway in our brains, and diversifying our sense of self can help overcome fear and provide stability during times of change.
Deep dives
Rugged Flexibility: Embracing Change and Finding Stability
Rugged flexibility is the key to navigating change and finding stability. It involves being adaptable while holding onto core values. Change is an ongoing process, and stability comes from being able to change. The traditional idea of homeostasis, returning to a baseline, is not accurate for healthy systems. Stability is always somewhere new. Fear is a common response to change, but trying to suppress or ignore it only prolongs distress. Taking small actions and seeking support from others can help overcome fear. Developing multiple aspects of our identity and diversifying our sense of self can also contribute to stability in times of change.
Shifting Perspectives: Embracing the New
When faced with major changes, such as job transitions or relocations, it is important to shift our perspectives and let go of trying to recreate the past. Comparing new realities to old ones only leads to discontent. Instead, embracing the new and taking small actions in the new direction can help rebuild stability. Diversifying our sense of self and finding value in different areas of life can also provide stability when faced with change.
Lean into Support
Fear and uncertainty are normal responses to change, but dwelling on them won't lead to progress. Taking small actions and activating the seeking pathway in our brains can help overcome fear. Seeking support from friends and community can also provide stability and help navigate through challenging times. Borrowing support from other areas of life that are going well can also be beneficial.
Embracing Change and Finding Stability in Personal Experience
Personal experiences, such as the example of a career-ending injury or moving to a new city, can provide insights into embracing change and finding stability. Shifting the focus from what is lost to what new opportunities and values can be found creates room for growth. Accepting and adapting to new circumstances and identities while honoring core values is key. It's normal to experience discomfort and fear during times of change, but taking small actions and seeking support can guide us towards stability and growth.
The Importance of Using a VPN for Privacy
Using a VPN is crucial for ensuring online privacy and protecting sensitive information. When connecting to a wireless access point in a public place or using an internet service provider at home, others can potentially intercept and collect data about your online activities. With a VPN, you connect to a server that acts as an intermediary between you and the websites or services you want to access. This encrypted connection prevents others from tracking your online activities, offering a higher level of privacy and security.
Reflections on Work and Meaning in the Online Discourse
The online discourse surrounding work and meaning is filled with polarizing views and limited depth. Hustle culture and anti-work movements dominate the conversation, creating a vast gap that fails to capture the complexities of the topic. However, there is a positive trend in discussions about the pros and cons of working from home. Serious debates acknowledge the trade-offs and benefits of remote work versus in-person work, recognizing that there is no one-size-fits-all solution. As discussions around work and meaning continue online, the need for nuanced perspectives and open-mindedness becomes increasingly important.
Change is unavoidable. You can either fear it or learn to master it. In this interview episode, Cal talks with longtime friend of the show, Brad Stulberg, about his new book, “Master of Change.”
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