ADHD Experts Podcast

557- Healing from the Impact of Toxic or Emotionally Immature Parents

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Jun 3, 2025
Amy Marlow-MaCoy, a Licensed Professional Counselor and author of The Gaslighting Recovery Workbook, delves into the effects of emotionally immature and narcissistic parenting. She discusses how toxic messages shape children's self-perceptions and the lingering scars from such experiences. The conversation offers practical self-care techniques, the importance of setting boundaries, and transforming negative self-talk for healing. Amy emphasizes breaking intergenerational trauma to foster healthier relationships and emotional resilience.
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Traits of Emotionally Immature Parents

  • Emotionally immature parents show traits like rigidity, low distress tolerance, selfishness, unpredictability, and lack of empathy consistently across situations.
  • These traits affect parenting style significantly, beyond occasional behaviors or mood swings.
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How Emotional Immaturity Affects Children

  • Emotionally immature parenting manifests as parentification, gaslighting, invalidation, moving goalposts, guilt-tripping, favoritism, blame-shifting, and controlling behaviors.
  • These behaviors destabilize a child's emotional safety and self-worth by constant manipulation and unpredictability.
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Narcissism vs Emotional Immaturity

  • Narcissistic parenting falls under emotional immaturity but with added traits: extreme need for admiration, exploitation, intolerance of criticism, and retaliatory actions.
  • Narcissists expect children to boost their image, manipulate for supply, and rarely show potential for genuine change.
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