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His Needs, Her Needs
Building an Affair-Proof Marriage
Book • 1995
In 'His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage', Willard F. Harley, Jr. identifies the ten most vital emotional needs of men and women in a marriage.
He provides practical advice on how to meet these needs, emphasizing the importance of communication, mutual understanding, and fulfilling each other's needs to prevent dissatisfaction and infidelity.
The book introduces concepts such as the 'Love Bank' and 'Fair Fight' to help couples manage conflicts and maintain a fulfilling relationship.
Harley also discusses the need for continuous learning, adaptation, and affection to keep the romantic spark alive in long-term relationships.
He provides practical advice on how to meet these needs, emphasizing the importance of communication, mutual understanding, and fulfilling each other's needs to prevent dissatisfaction and infidelity.
The book introduces concepts such as the 'Love Bank' and 'Fair Fight' to help couples manage conflicts and maintain a fulfilling relationship.
Harley also discusses the need for continuous learning, adaptation, and affection to keep the romantic spark alive in long-term relationships.
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in the context of housework and gender roles in marriage.

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